Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
No one really likes to talk about it. So let’s out it here:
I hated that we didnt sit together on the bus ride home (Mr. Peng and I). It was like an hour long (we had to take the long way because the town didn’t allow busses to go through it past 10PM) and we were last on the bus, so I sat in the front and he in the back. People happily said theyd move so we could sit together and I said, "Ah, we’ll be together forever… we dont need to sit together now!" But it was an hour of bonding time that we didn’t have together to sit and relax and laugh together with our friends, and I’m pretty bummed about it. I know it sounds like a small thing but its really the thing i look back on and think… wow that sucked.
Also, I wish I’d hired a DOC so my friends didnt have to work as hard as they did! They all did such a wonderful job but I really wish they didn’t have to break a sweat for the wedding. Setup was a lot harder/took a lot longer than I thought it was going to be!
Post # 3
My photographer! He annoyed everyone and didn’t take some very important shots. I know I paid for what I got and I couldn’t afford more, but if I could go back in time…
More time… it all happened too fast and I felt that it was a little too "scripted", but I think this was the photographers fault.
That’s it — everything else was perfect!
Post # 4
For starters, my dress…it wasn’t my dream dress, not even close, even though it cost an arm and a leg. I know it’s one dress for one day, but it just bugs me…and I should have looked for it sooner, maybe that would have helped.
I, too, would have gone back and gotten more time, like calioteach my day also felt scripted.
I also would have talked to my photographer even more about photos I wanted from the day because there were some I don’t have and I’m pretty bitter about it to be honest. There are also many family photos where people can’t be seen, but the problem could have been prevented if she would have stood on something to take the photos. I also have very few photos and just me and my new hubby and it just kinda stinks since it was our day. Not a single group shot and none of us in front of our church…uh kinda why we got married there!
I would not have gone around passing out favors. It was nice because I got to see most of the guests, but I think a receiving line may have been even more faster. I didn’t even get to eat my cake or dance other than our first dance in the beginning.
Oh and speaking of my cake…I probably would have gone to find that baker that same night to smack them for my crooked, unshiny, messed up brooch cake. Shoot, and I should have smacked my florist while I was at it for painting flowers…WHY WOULD SHE DO THAT?!?!…when she never said anything about it. And, some were not the color I asked them to be.
Wow, typing it out it seems like a lot…sorry for the rant. At the end of the day I married my best friend and that’s what matters most.
Post # 5
MY husband is very upset that the photographer didn’t get a picture of him, his father, and his grandfather. I am very upset that there isn’t one of my, my, mom, and my grandma. I guess we thought that was just standard. Also no pics of our amazing dessert table and no pics of us after we changed into our going away clothes — I wore a blue track suit that said "Bride" and my hubby wore a t-shirt that said "Property of the Bride" — no pics of that or of us leaving for the honeymoon. Very. Sad.
Post # 6
Would you say it was because of your photographer? Or could it have been prevented by speaking with the photog about what shots you wanted? Just trying to get advice for my own upcoming wedding 🙂 Learning from the collective wisdom!
Post # 7
It was a mix of the two — I definatly needed to go over the shots better (we had a list but things were vauge, like "pics with brides family") — I should have made sure they were clear. However, the photographers attitude during the wedding was very annoying and he pissed me off more than once!
Post # 8
@Calioteach: Don’t ya just wanna go choke em out? It’s like these aren’t photos can be replaced, so you would think people would respect that and do a kick ass job if nothing else…like how would they like it if it was their wedding. Oh maybe THEN more photos would be taken.
Post # 9
I’d be curious, for those of you who are unhappy with your photographers, how did you find/select them? Any advice there?
Post # 10
Don’t get me wrong, I really liked my photographer, but maybe we needed to go into more detail about photos I wanted, I guess I just thought I was pretty clear when I filled out the photo sheet she gave me. Maybe I just needed even more of a more specific list for her. I didn’t have the time to stop her and say, "Hey, what about this picture? Or more of that?" because I was just too busy. I found her, though, while at a friends wedding, she photographed theirs. Actually, she was the second shooter and the first shooter was booked, so that’s why we ended up with her. Boy, though, what a difference between our photos and our friends. She recently got engaged, so maybe she’ll understand more now and after her own wedding.
THIS is VERY similar to what my church looks like and this was a photo I was dreaming of since I was a little girl.
Oh, which reminds me. We spend a weekend (were I got sunburned from my & stayed with tank top marks for my wedding) right before my wedding redoing my grandma’s front yard (the girls got ready at her house for the wedding) to take photos outside, but before everyone was even done getting ready my photographer had taken off…so there went those photos…my grandma still can’t believe she took off like that and we didn’t get any photos in front of her house (like by a castle my grandpa built, and I would have liked in the photo since he’s already passed).
Oh, and I learned that even if 1 girl says she can get your hair/makeup done plus the same for all 6 of your girls + 2 moms…it’s not the case, unless she starts at like 3am…SOOOO hire more than one person for this…she made us pretty late and ended up rushing on some stuff.
Post # 11
We had a ton of fun and it was a wonderful day, but I had much higher expectations for my vendors than I should have. Some were phenomenal, but some were (very surprisingly!) less so. It still makes me bitter. I try to think about all of the things I could have done to prepare for it, but some were totally unavoidable (like the florist just doing her own thing regardless of what we had told her or the planner being unable to manage the entire event). It just underscores the point that it is only one day, and while you’ll be thinking about this day for the rest of your life, they’ve already moved on.
This is why they invented vendor reviews, gals!
Post # 12
The wind. More importanly…not being prepared for the wind.
Oh, and I wouldn’t have done the bouquet toss. It was a buzz kill 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2008 - 1930s Historic Building in Lakeland, FL
The worst part was probably the dark skies that came just as we started the pictures. It really ruined the pictures, which was sad. Getting the pictures back was such a let down, because many of the pictures were just terrible. I almost cried, but eventually I got over it.
Post # 14
The worst part of my wedding day was during the reception, when we stopped at my grandmother’s table. I asked her if she was enjoying herself and gave her a hug and she snarled at me, "I HOPE THEY END THIS THING SOON." at me. (this thing being my wedding reception.)
The worst thing in retrospect happened a month after the wedding, when I brought in my gown for cleaning and preservation. It was a couture gown and it had poured on my wedding day and we took photos outside in the rain, so my dress was filthy. The cleaners tsk tsked me for wearing my gown in the rain and publically humilitade me in front of other customers. They kept demanding, "What were you thinking, ruining couture?" I didn’t cry over the rain on my wedding day, but I sobbed the whole way home from the cleaners. They also charged me $700 and in the end my dress is still dirty.
Post # 15
i wish i had relaxed a little more- the night before the wedding I got a little bitchy. And I’m embarrassed over it
I wished I had better planned the night before for entertaining guests. We were all so disorganized – we didn’t do a rehearshal dinner (to save costs) and without a plan everyone just got on edge about where to go and with you. Nightlife and restaurants were all within walking distance to – but people like "A plan".
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2020 - LDS Seattle Temple & Hotel 1000
My uncle was filming for us and he ran out of tape 3 seconds into the first dance. I get really depressed whenever I think about it. We took lessons and everything, and my roommates afterward kept saying it was "magical" but we will never get to see it!
For those who blame your photographers for shots they didn’t take, for the most part I have to blame with the photog (if it is shots like you with a special relative or something, I do agree that the photog who missed the going-away photos seemed to be lacking if they were still being paied to be there). If you wanted a picture with someone special, you should have asked! Not everyone is close to their grandma, or their favorite uncle, or even their mom and dad! Photographers aren’t mind readers.