Post # 62
Now that my wedding is over, I think there were a few things that I would change. First, my husband was insistent that his brother give the blessing at the reception. I was under the impression that it was going to be just a brief prayer, but he basically gave a 10 minute sermon. He has very different religious views than we do and he said a lot of things that I definitely didn’t agree with. It was especially awkward when he kept reiterating how marriage is for a man and a woman, when we had our married lesbian friend officiate our ceremony! Of course, I was sitting in a room full of people, with them all staring up at the head table, so all I could do was smile politely. If I had it to do again, I would have insisted that we find someone else to do the blessing, or skipped it entirely.
I was also disappointed that my cake baker put a really weird flower on the top of the cake. I wanted the flowers on top of the cake to match our bouquets, so I made sure that she had some of the same flowers (in all white) to top the cake with. However, when I saw the cake, it had this ridiculous pink Gerber daisy on top–and pink was NOT one of our wedding colors. If I had seen it sooner, I would have taken it off myself, but it was too late by the time I finally saw it.
Finally, our event coordinator had told us that we had to keep the bar closed during dinner per their venue restrictions. At the ceremony, the banquet captain kept asking me if we wanted to close the bar during dinner. I kept saying yes, because I was told that was our only option, but she kept asking me, implying that we could have done something else. I actually just sent an email to our event coordinator to determine what their policy was, so that they can be more clear with other people.
Post # 63
- Wedding: February 2009 - Small church ceremony with mountain-view log cabin reception
I hate our pictures and I keep looking at other photographers that I could have hired.. it makes me so mad at myself that I didn’t take the time to really think about what the photos would look like. There were so many details and moments that were completely missed by our photographer and when I got the photos, a ton of the ones that could have been cute were really blurry or really dark. It’s so sad:(
Post # 64
Although our wedding was really great and perfect for us, there were some things that happened that are really sticking with me. I know that the little stings from these diappontments will disappear with time, but right now I definitely have some regrets.
We had a pretty small wedding (57 people) but if I did it again, I would elope. Basically everything that went wrong can be blamed on my family or my in-laws. My sisters were really insensitive on the day of the wedding; I had set up appointments for us to all hang out at the salon the morning of the wedding, but all of my sisters left after my oldest sister’s appointment was over. None of them stayed to get dressed with me, and they even showed up late to the church after I told them we had to be there early for pictures. Also, my little sister left during the reception to go to McDonald’s since she didn’t like our meal choices. She missed all of the toasts, speeches, and introductions. At the end of the night, all of my sisters stayed to help clean up, but they complained the entire time and instead of coming over to the house (like our parents did) to wish us good luck and a happy honeymoon, they went back to their hotel rooms… at 9 pm.
My in laws behaved kinda badly too. Apparently my MIL’s wrist coursage had a flower fall off, and they made a huge deal about it and insisted I call the florist during the reception to complain about the quality. We wanted to spend some time alone with my husband after the ceremony, but my Mother-In-Law locked the bridal room so we couldn’t get back in. They also insisted on driving us to the reception, so we didn’t get any special time then either. AND they followed us around while we were taking pictures, making it impossible for us to concentrate on each other or just enjoy being alone for the first time. At some point during dinner, my Father-In-Law became unhappy with his meal and went off on our caterer in front half our guests. My Mother-In-Law got in on it too. And they made my husband go complain to the caterer and the dj when they moved a table during the reception to make room for the dance floor. Ugh.
On the upside, my parents and my SIL were really incredible the entire day and intercepted a lot of crap so we only found out about it later. They were pretty great to us!
Post # 65
There were a few bad parts:
#1- two of the groomsmen were over an hour late for the reception. We were supposed to do our grand entrance at 6:30, and they were no where to be found. They strolled in a hour later, with no excuse. Oh, did I mention that they left the ceremony after photos at 5:30 pm?? They still won’t tell me where they were or what they were doing.
#2- those groomsmen also thought it would be a great idea to play poker, yes poker, at the reception. I was furious, and other guests were getting angry with them!
#3- My husband’s grandmother walks up to me and says, "I met your grandfather, he’s so nice." I have no grandparents- they’re all dead and I never knew any of them. When I ask who she was talking about, she points out my father, saying "him, your grandfather." I told her that is my father, and she got all embaressed and left. I was slightly upset 🙁
#4- Member’s of my husband’s family, on his dad’s side, decided to tell my mother they "hope I am good enough for him," which upset my mother, while people on my husband’s mother’s side all said something nice, like "it’s to great they found each other"
It was mostly fun, with a few bad parts.
Post # 66
We were lucky in that all of our guests behaved themselves well and nothing really horrible happened. The only bad thing that happened was that when our hair and makeup people showed up at the hotel- the person (moron) at the front desk told them we had checked out and gone to another hotel! We still don’t know where they came up with this, but the hairdressers went to the other hotel, found out we definitely weren’t there, called my mother, found out we were at the original hotel, and started heading back. My mom called down to the front desk, kind of maybe chewed the guy out a little, and told him to send the hairdressers up when they arrived.
About 20 minutes later we get a call from the hairdresser stating that the guy at the front desk is now refusing to give a room number or tell them whether we’re staying there at all, citing security issues. After my mom told him to send them up! They ended up getting started an hour and a half later than we wanted to. It meant that when I was supposed to get to the church at 9:30 a.m. for our 11:00 a.m. ceremony, I didn’t actually get there until 11:04 a.m.
Luckily the ceremony only started about 15 minutes late, so it wasn’t a huge deal, but we were really upset that the hotel did that, since it was one of the nicer hotels in the area and we had booked their presidential suite.
Post # 67
ugh my MOH/BFF got WAY too drunk and her parents had to take her home early… and she doesn’t remember most of the reception. She kept laughing about how she was acting but it was actually pretty embarrassing. She kept falling over and cursing and dancing with my Father-In-Law. I’ve never told her how I really feel because I don’t want to make her feel bad but it sucks…