(Closed) What was your DH/SO's initial reaction to seeing or holding the baby?

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My birth experience was rather dramatic, and when Dirty Delete was finally born I was right on the brink of being whisked away for an emergency C-section … so when she finally came out and let out her first cry, Darling Husband immediately cried as well. He cut the cord and got to hold her before me, and he was very emotional. It was so sweet ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 3
9691 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hmmm…he cried a LOT as soon as she came out!  He was very happy and probably way less traumatized than he thought he would be watching all of that.  It’s hard for me to remember a lot of it, I was concentrating so much on pushing I didn’t realize her head was out until the OB told me to look down.

Post # 4
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m following because I am super interested in the replies and have been thinking about this a lot lately. My husband and I are expecting our first child in 8 weeks and he rarely shows any kind of emotion.

Post # 5
645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We chose not to find out the gender so when she arrived he was somewhat shocked. The doctor had turned her to him so he could tell me what it was but he just stood there until I could peak over enough to see. He would later tell me that he was so convinced it was a boy that when she came out he thought it was still a boy just missing the parts! Once everything was cleaned up and we were alone with her for the first time he did shed some tears. I wasn’t really expecting it as he’s not an emotional guy.

Post # 7
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

He teared up for sure. THe first time he held her he was so happy but I also think (judging by the look on his face in a picture I have) was a little nervous, like holy crap this is real, I have a kid!


Post # 8
919 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Those whose husbands had an emotional reaction, were your husbands excited to TTC before you got pregnant? My husband is really scared to TTC. I’m convinced he’s going to be over the moon once a little one arrives, but convincing him is another matter.

Post # 9
2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our Dirty Delete was born with her cord around her neck and not breathing, so Darling Husband was hysterical. I made fun of him for crying (I was oblivious to her condition, at the time) until I realized what was going on… we didn’t get to hold her until a few hours later after she was taken out of an oxygen tent. He was/is such a proud Daddy, though.

Post # 10
928 posts
Busy bee

BulldogBride:  I haven’t had a child, but can share my friend’s experience. She got pregnant unexpectedly and her boyfriend was not happy. For the first three months or so of the baby’s life, he wasn’t very interested in her. As she developed a personality, he got into it a lot more. Now he is crazy about her.

I also have a friend whose boyfriend was really excited when she accidentally got pregnant. They broke up before the baby came and the father moved away. He has only seen him a handful of times in the past two years since he was born. When he first met him, he held him very awkwardly, like you’d hold a dog that’s covered in pee or something. He had a blank look and didn’t seem to care much.

Post # 11
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My SO generally doesn’t show any emotion on anything. When I found out I was pregnant he was on an official trip to a foreign country & only told him on his return & he said congratulations! I was so shocked of his reaction I immediately burst into tears. He didn’t even see anything wrong with what he said. I felt like I was alone in it & after telling him how I felt with his reaction he understood & apologised. 

9 months later I gave birth in our home country (we are deployed currently) by emergency ceasarian. As a result of the emergency he missed the birth but flew in the next day. His reaction to the baby “oh my God he is so small”. 

Post # 12
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My DH’s experience was a little different. I gave birth to our boys at 28 weeks so they were in the NICU and we couldn’t hold them. But the first time he touched our sons he was so excited…darn right giddy! He got to pet their heads and lay his hands on them and he had this big goofy grin. When we finally got to hold them he was more nervous than anything, but he loved it.

Post # 13
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

our baby girls birth was quite traumatic, I wasn’t even awake as i had to have GA & an emergency caesarean. My SO had the first cuddle and when I came round he was staring at her so intently with such love on his face. He wasn’t there when she was born so it was a lovely moment x

Post # 14
560 posts
Busy bee

When I had our son my SO was a mixture of giddy with some watery eyes. When he brought the little footprints over to me when DS was getting weighed, etc. the look on his face was priceless! He was so happy and full of pride it made me cry!

He is normally a very unemotional person and our pregnancy, though unplanned, was something that he wanted very much and he was excited about from the very beginning (and even more so when we found out it was a boy)

Post # 15
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My son’a birth was traumatic too. I had an emergency c section under GA and my husband didn’t have enough time to get to the hospital for the birth. When I woke up, he had already been to see him (the baby was in NICU) and to hold him. The first time I got to hold him was pretty surreal. For us, the emotional moment came when we were finally able to take him home.

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