(Closed) What was your expectation about budget?

posted 8 years ago in Money
  • poll: What did you expect?
    FI and I will pay everything (or almost everything) ourselves : (82 votes)
    47 %
    My parents will pay for almost everything : (44 votes)
    25 %
    FI's parents will pay for almost everything : (1 votes)
    1 %
    that Fi and I would split the costs with one or both sets of parents : (41 votes)
    23 %
    That my parents and FI's parents would split almost the entire thing : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My parents have always said they would pay for my wedding and my sister’s wedding (poor parents having 2 daughters). They are very traditional in that way.

    They have given me a budget range which is more than generous. Fiance and I will pay for each others wedding bands & pre-wedding gifts, but otherwise my parents are paying.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We thought that we would foot the entire bill, but we have had great help. His parents are paying for the food and the linens. My adopted granma paid fo rmy dress and the venue. My Maid of Honor is paying to get my make-up done. We have also had monetary donations. I realy appreciate it all too!!

    Post # 5
    Member
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I always assumed my parents would not help (they were firm about not helping with rent, etc when I went to college) but a few months before we got engaged my mom mentioned they had a wedding fund for me. At that point, we were really excited that we could have more of the wedding we wanted, although definitely budgeted still. 

    Then, a few months after we got engaged Future Mother-In-Law told us that they’d like to help us with our wedding as much as they helped Future Sister-In-Law. So now the wedding costs are being split, with my parents and the Future In-Laws paying about the same amount, and my fiance and I picking up the smaller things and whatever goes over. We’re very lucky! 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1991 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If you would have asked me 3 years ago, I would have said that I expected my parents and his parents to contribute 25% of our total budget.

    But then the economy hit, and my parent’s are flipping out about every little detail about the wedding

    As it stands right now, my Fiance and I are paying for everything which I prefer. When it’s your money, you have the most say.

    Post # 7
    Member
    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My fiance and I will be paying for everything ourselves.  I can’t imagine asking either of our parents for financial help.  We are both 27 and have had to pay our own way all along (college, cars, house downpayment, etc). 

    I really do envy people who have parents that are in a position to help them with these big things.  My Fiance and I are both really practical people, and while we make a good combined income…neither of us can justify spending a bunch of money on ‘one day’ when we have several house projects we would like to tackle soon. 

    So…I’m not having a very fun time with wedding planning.  I absolutely cannot wait to marry my fiance, but I get so stressed out with the details of having a wedding.

    Post # 8
    Member
    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I always thought my parents would pay for it and they did. FH’s mom also paid for the DJ. If our parents didnt pay we wouldnt have had a wedding.

    Post # 9
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    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We thought my parents would pay for about half, and we’d pay for the other half. We didn’t really expect much from the Future In-Laws, but were pleasantly surprised! In the end it looks like our parents will be splitting the cost about 50/50 and we’ll pick up any extras, including our honeymoon.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2398 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I had never really thought much about it, nor discussed it with my parents. 

    After getting engaged my mother and I agreed the easiest way to handle things would be for my parents to pick up the tab for big ticket items we absolutely couldn’t afford (venue, catering, coordinator), while Fiance and I did the rest. 

    His parents didn’t offer and we didn’t ask.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We expected to pay for the whole thing. My mom has offered to pay for my dress, and the ceremony fee at my venue.

    Post # 12
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    824 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

    I have a post coming up on this, but ours is almost 50/50 between Fiance & me, and my parents.  We’re also paying for all things outside of the wedding itself (ex honeymoon and bands).

    Post # 13
    Member
    433 posts
    Helper bee

    I think you should add an option to do a 3 way split between the couple and 2 sets of parents, or 1/2 his parents and 1/2 hers.

    We expected both sets to pitch in, and thats how it worked out. We also paid for a small portion of thigns ourselves (and will be paying for our own honeymoon too but I don’t count that in with wedding money)

    Post # 14
    Member
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My parents are pretty much paying for everything. So far I’ve paid for small things like pew decor, and the big frame my bridal portrait goes in, my shoes, stuff like that. There are 3 of us gals (poor parents) so by the time we’re all married they will have paid a pretty penny in weddings! Luckily for them, my oldest sister eloped lol

    Post # 15
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    90 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I never assumed that my parents would pay for any part of the wedding at all. When we got engaged, they generously offered us an amount that was way beyond what I ever expected (though still modest in “wedding world”). If you count everything from rings to honeymoon, they contributed about 1/4 of our budget. If you take out the rings and honeymoon, it’s more like 1/3. Neither FH or I planned to ask our parents for anything, so it was a nice surprise when my folks offered. His folks haven’t offered and we haven’t asked. Then again, we’re 29 and 33, so it would be kind of weird to *expect* that they would pay.

    Post # 16
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I was expecting no help from either parents.  We are 28, 29 respectively so we want to do this ourselves.  My mom offered to pay 1/3 and Fiance parents offered to give us money, but we will respectfully decline because we know they would be using all or most of their hard earned money. We are saving for it ourselves.

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