Post # 32
My parents made it known that they’d be paying for my wedding, as I’m their only daughter. They set a budget, and we’re working within that budget. My fiance and I are paying for rings/gifts/honeymoon and some things like that. Also, my FI’s parents are paying for our flowers.
Post # 33
We were going to fund our own shindig but FIs parents were so enraged about the date they offered to fund the whole thing. They are going back on that offer so we are back to our own money and maybe even changing the date (which makes me happy)
Post # 34
I expected my parents to contribute money towards my wedding, but only because they established this expectation themselves, having said in the past that they would fund a wedding for me, and also having helped to fund my brother’s wedding. That said, I was extremely grateful and thrilled that they wanted to help us out.
The same situation goes for my FI’s family, they had established that expectation in the same way with her.
If I had never discussed funding with my parents, I would probably have asked them if they were interested in contributing, but I would not have expected them to (unless to fund specific requests of theirs, like extra people or a certain venue etc…).
Post # 35
I knew that my parents had a savings account set aside for my wedding, but I decided not to accept any money from them. I know that I’ll be happier paying for everything myself. I’ve told them that they can give me a gift at the end if they’d like.
Post # 36
We are paying for 100% ourselves.
Post # 37
Our families are pretty traditional, so I expected my parents to pay for most of it, and his family to do the rd. Especially b/c my parents paid for my brother’s wedding, I hoped I’d get the same. His parents offered to buy alcohol too.
Post # 38
I knew both sets of parents would contribute some and we will pick up the rest. As of right now, it looks like it will be close to 1/3 his parents, 1/3 my parents, and 1/3 us – but those numbers will probably shift a little up or down as we get closer and see what our costs end up at – I’m sure there are lots of little things that will add up that we haven’t really considered in our budget.
Post # 39
My parents gave us a certain amount of money, his parents offered to pay for the bar and rehearsal dinner, and then we paid for everything else. We ended up staying under $10,000.
Post # 40
We paid for everything except the rehearsal dinner, which I cried with happiness when hubby’s dad picked up the bill. There’s no way my family could afford to help us out, so I figured out ways to have what we wanted while saving money. It was all DIY. Honestly, I didn’t understand her post, but I’ve also never been in that situation.
Post # 41
Right after our engagement we had both sets of parents over for dinner and we showed them our draft budget. They were, of course, shocked at the price of some things. We told them that we were prepared to cover all of the costs and that we’d be paying for everything upfront.
So I figure now they know roughly what we’ll be spending and they can decide if they want to give us money and how much. FI’s parents and my parents are both very generous (and have proven that during the last two years we’ve been living together)
This way we’ve got total control of the planning & purchases. And whatever they give us will be more of a wedding gift than “paying” for the wedding. But anything they give us will probably go straight to the credit card!!
Post # 42
We had figured that we would pay for the large majority of the wedding, with our parents giving us MAYBE $1000 each? I come from a family with 4 girls, so I figured my parents wouldn’t go overboard.
Anyways, turns out my parents are giving us a large chunk of money, and his parents are giving us some for the wedding, and even more to ‘jump start’ our wedding together!
In terms of percentages, we’ll only be paying about 25% of the budget!
Post # 43
We paid for about 95% of the wedding ourselves, and had counted on paying for it 100% ourselves.
There was no expectation my parents (or any parents) would pay, and I personally wasn’t comfortable asking anyone else to help pay for my wedding reception. As for our budget, we roughly figured out how much the total would be, and then figured out how long it would take us to save that much, and went from there.
Post # 44
I expect to pay for it with a few gifts from my parents. My mom bought my dress and is going to help me prepare food and may sew the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. His dad already gave us a VERY generous wedding gift of a new furnace and air conditioner for the home, but he has also told fiance to inform him what he needs to provide. I imagine he will pay for the rehearsal dinner. Otherwise we are paying for everything. I like it that way. We are in our 30s and our parents did a good job of caring for us growing up. They don’t need to go into debt for a wedding.
Post # 45
My Fiance and I will be paying for 100%. I am 34 and he is 42 so it would be beyond weird to expect our families to foot the bill for anything. If they did offer, we would decline. If they want to buy us a gift afterwards that will be fine.
Post # 46
My partner and I have always expected to pay 100% of everything ourselves.
1)because we’re adults
2)because we are the ones who decided to get married (no one is forcing us)
3)because FMIL’s financial situation is no bueno, & Future Father-In-Law is completely unreliable I would never dream of asking either for financial help.
4)my parents are pretty frugal and wouldn’t be keen on shelling out monies for something they viewed as impractical.
If a family member comes forward with a gift or offers to pay for X thing, we will be super thankful but we don’t expect anyone but ourselves to foot the bill for our party.
& even if I am my father’s only daughter, I don’t really expect him to magic-up a bunch of cash for a party, regardless of what society & culture dictate.