Post # 1
Just wondering – we’ve lived together about ten days and have been lucky to only have had one fight so far, and it was on the phone! I came home to find that none of the housework had even been touched (we agreed he’d do some while I was at work), besides a sloppy attempt at washing up. When he rang me I couldn’t help telling him how dissappointed I was, and we bickered for a few minutes before hanging up.
That night when he came home, he brought a DVD I’d wanted to watch for a while and fish and chips as way of an apology. Last night he came home with a book I’ve been unable to find and plans for a meal out this weekend. So all in all it’s going pretty well!
But it did make me curious – when you and your SO moved in together, what was your very first argument about? If you don’t remember, guess!
Post # 3
@ZebraPrintMe: Him going home to his Mum’s too often….but to be fair, all his stuff is STILL there and we have been living together for a couple of years….!
Post # 4
@ZebraPrintMe: Our first big fight was about housework as well. I can’t remember specifics, but it was pretty stupid haha.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
I’ve got no idea what our first fight was, but we had one the other night about whether or not I was getting in his way by trying to cook dinner whilst he was emptying the dishwasher, and where the can opener was.
We’re pretty good at recognising when we’re just fighting because we’re tired and grouchy though.
Post # 6
@ZebraPrintMe: Omg it was because he would never close the shower curtain! A year later he still doesn’t -_- men.
Post # 7
I don’t know. But I still have to nag him about cleaning up after himself, closing the shower curtain, picking up his crap that he leaves strewn about.
Post # 8
We’ve lived together for 3 years and haven’t really had a “fight” if you mean yelling at each other, storming out of the house, sleeping on the couch kind of thing. We’ve had misunderstandings or little things to bicker over, usually unrelated to house work though since we both work full-time and don’t assign chores.
Post # 9
@ZebraPrintMe: We don’t argue about housework. Neither of us care enough, lol. I honestly don’t remember our first fight but I would assume it was something to do with his friends always wanting to come over and overstay their welcome.
Post # 10
I’m not sure… I had a pretty bad depressive episode that started like 2 weeks into living together, so we definitely had a couple big fight about actually nothing (and the were definitely my fault!)
Post # 11
I think ours was about dishes. I don’t mind leaving a rinsed dish in the sink overnight and then loading it into the dishwasher in the morning. It drives him nuts.
But we’ve lived together for a little over a year (including a 2-month stint with my parents while looked for a new house) and no one’s slept on the couch or stormed out of the house.
Post # 12
@ZebraPrintMe: It was either in regard to his getting up in the middle of the night to play video games, or his want to monopolize my time on the weekends. We had a few power struggles when I wanted to go to the gym and he felt I should stay home and entertain him lol
Post # 13
Ours was about a girl on FB that was messaging him while he was sleeping. FI and I are both very open people so I didn’t have to “snoop” I just saw his phonlight up and wanted to see who was talking to him (he can sleep through anything so I would have to wake him if it was important). It was someone I didn’t knowpersonally but I saw that he had been talking to her a lot recently, but I didn’t able what about. The first lines I saw on his phone were “are you SERIOUSLY getting married? Why!?” so of course I had to respond back with something he would say and she kept going on and on how he shouldn’t be settling down yet and he should be out getting laid more… Yeah I was getting pissed cause we just bought a house and had been engaged at that point for about 7 months! Then I read through some of the messages that they had been sending back and forth to each other and he was HEAVILY flirting with this girl for weeks… Ugh I was so mad.
FI woke up and couldn’t find me on the couch where he fell asleep so he searched the house and I was upstairs fuming and watching one for the money (most Girly movie I could find on Netflix) I told him what happened and he flipped out that the girl would say something like that and promptly deleted her from FB and apologized profusely forflirting, claiming it meant nothing and he was just trying to boost her confidence (which she totally doesn’t need, it was an ego fill she was looking for).
That was our first and really only fight since we bought the house 😛