Post # 1
Question for Engaged / Married people.
What was the process for *YOUR* wedding planning? What did you start with? The dress? The church? When and where did you find your photographer? Referral by a friend? Did you search online? How long in advance did you start planning?
Give me your darkest secrets…
Post # 3
@CHRISWITHCAMERA: Guest list and venue. Those were my first steps, they kinda went hand in hand. We did a preliminary guest list brainstorm to figure out a ballpark number so that we knew what size of venue we needed. After the venue, photographer!
Post # 4
FIRST, I would start with SETTING A BUDGET!!! Call around for quotes (vendors you have been eyeing) to see how much this wedding industry actually costs before you set a number in stone. You will get sticker shock. Get with Fiance after this to see how much you guys can actually spend and plan on sticking to it. Make a priority list and STICK TO IT!
Then, from your priority list work your way down. I would start with the venue, then photographer, then caterer, then dress. Those were my priorites…. okay maybe dress and caterer before photographer but you get the idea!!
Post # 5
Where and how did you search for a photographer?
Post # 6
We actually found our venue first, since our date wasn’t flexible. We didn’t bother putting together the guest list unitl later. We already knew we were looking at over 100 people just because FI’s family is so big. We booked that about 10 months out.
I searched for a photographer for a couple of months and had a hard time finding a photographer who I felt was ‘good’ enough and who had a style that I was in love with. I was complaining to my hairdresser about it during our appointment and she was like, ‘Oh my gosh I have this client who is a photographer- she is AMAZING.” So I was actually referred to her through my hair lady lol.
I probably started looking at dresses before we booked the venue/photographer, but I didn’t fine ‘The One’ until a few months after we’d booked both.
Post # 7
Great story. Thanks so much 🙂
Post # 8
@CHRISWITHCAMERA: Our venue had a “preferred vendors” list, so we started there. I happened to fall in love with one of the photographers on the list, so it was pretty easy breezy for us!
Post # 9
Oh, and yes – Budget was definitely also at the top of the list, I should’ve mentioned that! 😀
Post # 10
Here’s what we did. I started planning 1 week after getting engaged. Our engagement will be 12.5 months.
1- Work on a guestlist to determine size of venue & budget per person with input from my parents & FI’s parents (12 months out)
2- Figure out budget from you & Fiance, your parents, FI’s parents (12 months out)
3- Narrow down venues using guestlist & budget as g. Pick a date that the venue had available. We used the venues in-house caterer, but that would have been the next step. (10-12 months out)
4- Interview & pick photographers. We used our venue’s recommendation as a starting point. (10 months out)
5- Dress shopping! (9 months out)
6- Interview & pick bands. We used venue’s recommendation as a starting point. (9 months before)
7- Determine hotel blocks (9 months before)
8- Save the Dates (8 months before)
9- Bridesmaid dress shopping (8 months before)
10- Interview & pick florist (6 months before)
11- Figure out wedding transportation (6 months before)
12- Invitations (4 months before)
13- Other details: cake topper, guest book, escort cards, etc (3+ months before)
Post # 12
No, wait, I lied… budget was first followed by estimated guest list # followed by venue & date
Post # 13
I bought my Bridesmaid’s dresses last summer. I got engaged NYE of 2012.
I did put my foot down and say that I wouldn’t go dress shopping for myself without a ring on my finger because I didn’t want to look like ‘that psycho lady’.
I might have been planning my wedding day since before I met my Fiance (Like five yrs ago). I remember coming home and playing on my computer with my mom and we found my ‘wedding planning’ folder. She thought it was hilarious because I wasn’t even dating someone yet. :l
FYI: I was planning a rustic/barn wedding before it was cool – I am like a wedding hipster… lol
Post # 14
Set a budget and picked out groomsmen and bridesmaids.
Post # 15
Our wedding is next month- from proposal to marriage will be 3 months exactly!
Our planning went-
- Rough numbers (as I wanted it really small!)
The decor/suits dress etc just followed as and when!
We found out photographer by asking at the venue of photographers who had shot weddings there before. Then we researched and contacted some we liked the work of- and decided from there.
Post # 16
Budget then guest list. We started out listing every single person we could ever want to invite if money and space were not issues. Then we trimmed that back until we had a manageable number that fit our budget.
Then we set out searching for venues that had a high enough capacity for our guest list.
Once we booked the venue we went ahead with the rest of the planning since a date isn’t really locked down until the venue deposit has been paid.