- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Sorry this is sooooo long!!
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I live together and have been talking about getting engaged for a while now. I posted a few months ago about his current financial situation…he has recently become a partner in his company and is having to make monthly payments to buy in. The new financial obligations and uncertainty over taxes pushed off his inital plan to get engaged in the Oct/Nov time period.
Well since then, he’s gotten a better grasp on the situation, met with an accountant etc., and has a good feel for how things will shake out through the end of the year. Over the last month or so, we’ve talked a few times about the company’s end-of-year finances and he said that he’s thinking he’ll “invest in a diamond” with the extra money he has at the end of the year. And then last week we were talking about what to buy with the extra money…boring stuff for the house and he also mentioned the ring again, so I know he’s planning on buying a ring in the near future.
He is pretty conservative financially, so I’m not sure if he will want to wait until the end of the quarter (Dec. 31) when they have the final, final numbers, or if he is planning for it to be a Christmas gift. I don’t really want to know, but of course, I can’t help buy speculate!
Although we have talked a lot about getting engaged and buying a ring, we have never talked about what kind of ring I want or what his budget is for a ring. I know how much he could spend, I just don’t know how much he wants to spend.
I don’t necessarily want to pick my ring, but I do want him to have a general idea of what I like. I have a pretty good idea of what kind of ring I want, but I still feel like it’s important to actually see and try on rings in order to know for sure if that’s what I like.
Of course my married friends are all telling me that I shouldn’t be thinking about all this and that I shouldn’t know when I’m getting engaged, etc…that would be ideal, but at this point, I don’t care…I’m just ready to be engaged!
He’s not really a planner, so I’m kind of worried that he’s waiting until the last minute to discuss some of these things if we’re talking about getting engaged in the next couple months. Especially since we have a lot going on over the next several weeks. He travels a lot for work and I’m actually meeting him in Puerto Rico for a quick trip this weekend (I know he is definitely NOT proposing there). He gets back late the following Saturday and then we’ll be going out of town for Thanksgiving. Then the Sunday after Thanksgiving, he’s going to Germany for work and won’t be back until the following Saturday. So that really only leaves two weekends before Christmas for us to window shop and him to buy a ring. Is that even fesible?
So this LONG story was all to say…what was your timeline for ring shopping? And who suggested it? How long did you spend shopping?