(Closed) What was/is your Wedding Budget?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 47
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@mylittleviolett:  My budget is also 20k, so this is promising to hear! I have not booked anything yet.. Did this include your rings and honeymoon? Also, how many guests?

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We haven’t had a flat out set budget. My parents are paying for the venue (which here includes food, table linens, alcohol) and their budget was 20k (it’s actually a bit over budget – oops but not by much & they are covering it). His parents are covering the flowers & the rehearsal dinner and my parents paid for my dress. 

 

but all in all I think the wedding will probably cost about 45k not including the honeymOon

Post # 49
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Sugar Beekeeper

We started out hoping to spend about $25,000, as we clearly had no idea how expensive weddings really were.

By the time it was all said and done we spent well over $75,000.

 

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We don’t really have one and it scares me! My parents are paying for this shindig and all my attempts to try and firm up a budget, or at least figure out “maximums” for things have more or less been ignored. 

Long story ahead…

A bit of background, my parents are well off and I lived at home until I was 23.  Everything was paid for, including – and i’m also ashamed to admit this – my car and the petrol I used for seven years!  I never took it for granted, but to be honest it was almost a relief when I jumped ship, moved to Australia and finally had to figure out the value of money for myself.  I quickly learned that I had absolutely no money skills! 

Fast forward to 2011, my FH – who is WONDERFUL at saving – bought a small unit just a month after we met.  All his savings went into the deposit and the massive renovations.  We’re sitting on a nest egg, but it’s all invested in our home!  Add in a multitude of medical expenses for me – and the fact that I had to scale back to working 3 days a week for a few months (I have fibromyalgia and I’ve had a bad flare & been on some nasty medication) and we’re barely able to save at the moment. We actually joined our finances not long after we got engaged because it just made more financial sense.  I can assure you I am MUCH more financially responsible than I used to be!  But it’s just a case of us not getting enough money in right now.

My parents understand all this and they’ve been very willing to help out – almost too willing!  Sometimes it’s nicer just to struggle through on our own, it’s a pride thing.  But when we found out that FH’s parents want to give us a substantial amount of money as a wedding present – at the time of the wedding, rather than contribute to expenses – my mum and dad simply told me not to worry about it, mum kept telling me not to even think about it.

My parents actually did the bulk of the venue scouting, they found our venue before we did but we fell in love with it too.  It’s at a yacht squadron, which I love because it mirrors my parents wedding at a yacht club and my brother’s at a marina.  The “per head” was OK but we found out later when they sent the contract that the minimum spend was $22,000 – that’s just for the venue, food & drink etc!  There were days of “do we don’t we” but eventually my parents agreed to go ahead.  Fortunately there was a deal going at the time which gave us the option to have the ceremony on the roof for free (usually an extra $1500). 

With everything else, it seems to be more a case of showing the prices of the vendor I like vs others and whether they’re competitive or not.  Similar with my dress.  I feel so bad that my parents are forking out all this money, but it’s a little frustrating, because when I try to come up with a way to do something cheaply or cut corners my mum often tells me it looks too cheap!  They definitely have standards and seeing a lot of their friends and our family are coming, I guess they just want the best.

But I’m the sort of person who likes having a few constraints so it’s a little scary planning with no firm budgets in mind!  Don’t get me wrong, I fully appreciate that I am SPOILT, my parents are absolutely AMAZING and I am very grateful, but I also feel a touch guilty.  But every time I try to get that across they tell me not to worry, so I guess I really do just need to go with the flow.

Mum confessed that they ended up paying for a large part of my brother’s wedding (wedding was in Auckland rather than my SIL’s hometown of Melbourne, and the ceremony was actually at our house!) – they really are incredibly generous parents.  And they’re even going to Europe again this year, so I guess I don’t need to worry too much ๐Ÿ˜›  Am I mean that after I found out my mum had bought $500 shoes (I struggle to spend $150 on a pair, I feel it’s a waste!) I told my FH “well, I like this stationer.  They’re only three times more than mum’s shoes.  Hopefully that’s OK” ๐Ÿ˜› ๐Ÿ˜› ๐Ÿ˜›

Blessed bee here.

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We stared out with a budget of 15k but weddings are so expensive, especially in our area!  From my budget estimator, it looks like we’ll end up spending about 25k, including rings and honeymoon!  We’re paying for it all ourselves, btw.

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We were hoping to spend around 20k for the ceremony+reception, but prepared for it to be closer to 25k . As it stands now…we are at 25k not including flowers, invites, decor, gifts, rings, honeymoon. I actually had a mini-freak out last night realizing what else we need to get. I’m a very thrify person, and this is driving me nuts! We splurged on the photographer (4,800) and our venue has a F+B minimum of 13k. At this point I’m going to attempt to negotiate with the remaining vendors on prices (I didn’t do this with the others since I booke them about 1.5 years out from the date and on a 3 day weekend..giving me not much room to haggle with!). Any Bee’s have any luck/tips in getting lower prices than quoted on their vendors????

 

Post # 53
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@ylapis:  Omg we have  the same date and budget!! Lol!

I’m gonna try reaaalllllly hard to stay around 20k and not go over 25! Gonna get crafty and make  a lot of the decor myself. Splurges will be on catering and photography. We have to rent and bring in everything ourselves which is a pain but I think can also save us costs.

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Long sigh. I originally assumed I would do an all-inclusive resort situation for my Destination Wedding which would have landed us in the region of $8-10k, I quickly realized that even though it would be easy and cheap for us,it would be far too much to ask my guests to spend (in many cases 250+ per night, per person not including airfare). We made it a “wedding weekend” in the same destination locale, but we used all independent vendors. It is costing us a bit more, but we’d rather absorb those costs than bleed our guests dry! I had big plans to do all my events in build-out spaces and rent furniture and hire site designers and whatnot but after about a month of tinkering with those plans, I could no longer be bothered. Rehearsal dinner and ceremony are now both taking place in restaurants. I had to up my budget another $1k or so, but at least I don’t have a million separate contracts with a million separate vendors and managing them all with an ocean between us. I’m up to about $12k now, with no help from anyone.

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

I absolutely cannot go over $3000. Fiance and I are paying for our wedding. Thankfully, we are getting married in our church and they only charge $100. So that’s all I have to spend on the venue. Also, I’m not serving a full meal at the reception. There will be around 300 guests and there’s just no way to make that happen! The wedding is outside so I don’t feel like I have to do tons of decorating.

Post # 56
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

$23,500 split between 4 parties. Makes me wanna barf but that’s typical for a semi-formal wedding up here (which my dad insisted on). 

Post # 57
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I feel like I am doing so well with our wedding budget.  I got a great venue and I am serving appetizers.  No booze tab as the guest can purchase that themselves.  We are doing a candy buffet as part of the favors and decor.  Wedding and reception in one location – all for 12K.  My original budget was to keep it under 10K, but it’s nearly impossible with food and a great location.  We expect about 100 guests.

We are also paying for everying outright – my folks chipped in 4K.  We will have been engaged for 8 mo. by the time August rolls around ๐Ÿ™‚

If you are looking to save, go with a cheaper dress, fewer flowers (or learn to make bouquets), handmake your invitations (super easy!), and try to be creative with centerpieces/favors/decor.  Most of the time you can incorporate these together.  I’ve been impressed with the areas I’ve been able to save.

I wanted to spend a lot on the location and the photographer.  Those were the 2 biggies for me.  Also, have everything done in one location – I hear you lose guests when you ask them to go elsewhere for the reception.

Post # 58
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2003

@2sdaymeshell:  For my first wedding about 18 years ago, we spent 20k because I lived in New York and everything had to be lavish and over the top and wanting to please everybody but myself. That marriage did not last. :-(. My second marriage I was wiser about it and found a man that I knew I would be with for the rest of my life. So the wedding details wasn’t so important to me and this time I did it for me.  But it was really nice on a beach and we spent about 5k. 

 

Post # 59
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Too flipping much. It started at £6-7K, and then we realised that the food and drink bill alone would probably exceed £5K. It’s now hovering around or above the £10K mark, which makes me feel a bit sick, to be honest (that’s around $15K US).

… and that’s with DIYing everything, as well!

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@lunalyra: You’ll do well to do it for £9K, I think. Everything is so darn expensive in the UK, and food and drink are the worst!

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Budget: $5,000 for 20-30 guests.

The bulk of it is going to the venue/food/beverages, photography and clothing.

This isn’t including the honeymoon which will have to wait due to logistical reasons. 

Post # 61
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@KC-2722:  Unfortunately, how much we spent does not include our rings and honeymoon. We are having 65 adults and 12 children. 

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