Post # 1
So we’ve had a lot of threads about what’s most important and least important to us brides, and it got me wondering about how everyone’s VIP guests feel.
Food and drink was #1 by far for both of our families and our friends. Transportation and timing of the wedding were big issues as well. And both families worried about the ceremony (i.e. finding the right mix of Jewish and Catholic). No one cared about photography, dresses, or details too much, unsurprisingly 🙂
So, what do your family and friends care about most?
Post # 3
the food and the accommodations/transportation. They are concerned about where they are staying and how they are getting to and from the events. I think these have been the most frequent questions though because they are the logistics that the guests need to deal with in order to be able to attend the event. a lot of my aunts have been inquiring about my dress too, but I’m keeping it a surprise from almost everyone.
Post # 4
That’s a good question! I think their only concern was the food and drinks. They really haven’t been vocal about any other specific things they wanted. Aside from guests that is. We’ve been fortunate to have families that have let us do what we want. I think since we’ve kept it simple its easier for them to go with the flow.
Post # 5
Food, drink, and God… they’ll get 2 out of the 3. 😉
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
My mother is VERY concerned about the guest list and getting to invite some of her friends who I’ve never met (sigh). Beyond that, none of our familes or bridal party members care what we do. They just want to be there.
Post # 7
FH cared about good food. Future Mother-In-Law cared about the guest list (touchy topic). My parents just cared that what I did made me happy.
Post # 8
My mom only really cares that it be tasteful and that I’m happy.
My dad really only cares that it won’t be alienating to his blue-collar family and that he gets to escort me.
They both really want a good photographer, because theirs stunk and they are still bitter.
Honestly, my parents haven’t asked for anything, and they are paying for most of it. I only get their opinions if I plead for them. I had to push my mom many times to see if she wanted to invite any of her friends. If I had asked for an additional $10,000, they might have said yes (!). On the people front, I’ve been SOOOO lucky.
By The Way, we are doing one interesting thing for a group of our friends. Most of FI’s buddies smoke, so we are setting up a firepit and lounge area outside for smokers. Since I told them that I had actually made a place for them, instead of hoping they would hide in a corner, our relationships have improved. Last night I was able to make two of his groomsmen do a mini fashion show (didn’t call it that in front of them, though) in their suits for me.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
It seems like someone cared about everything – if one didn’t care about the dress, they cared about food, if they didn’t care about food, they cared about the officiant – so they covered everything…oy!
Post # 10
The “VIPs” really cared about the entertainment, drinks and food and probably in that order.
Post # 11
The parents care about us not doing something offbeat to “offend” the other relatives. The friends care about the booze 🙂