(Closed) What wedding elements do your VIPs care most about?

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

the food and the accommodations/transportation.  They are concerned about where they are staying and how they are getting to and from the events.  I think these have been the most frequent questions though because they are the logistics that the guests need to deal with in order to be able to attend the event.  a lot of my aunts have been inquiring about my dress too, but I’m keeping it a surprise from almost everyone.   

Post # 4
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s a good question!  I think their only concern was the food and drinks.  They really haven’t been vocal about any other specific things they wanted.  Aside from guests that is.  We’ve been fortunate to have families that have let us do what we want.  I think since we’ve kept it simple its easier for them to go with the flow. 

Post # 5
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Food, drink, and God… they’ll get 2 out of the 3. 😉 

Post # 6
2858 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

My mother is VERY concerned about the guest list and getting to invite some of her friends who I’ve never met (sigh). Beyond that, none of our familes or bridal party members care what we do. They just want to be there.

Post # 7
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

FH cared about good food. Future Mother-In-Law cared about the guest list (touchy topic). My parents just cared that what I did made me happy.

Post # 8
2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My mom only really cares that it be tasteful and that I’m happy.

My dad really only cares that it won’t be alienating to his blue-collar family and that he gets to escort me.

They both really want a good photographer, because theirs stunk and they are still bitter.

Honestly, my parents haven’t asked for anything, and they are paying for most of it. I only get their opinions if I plead for them. I had to push my mom many times to see if she wanted to invite any of her friends. If I had asked for an additional $10,000, they might have said yes (!). On the people front, I’ve been SOOOO lucky.


By The Way, we are doing one interesting thing for a group of our friends. Most of FI’s buddies smoke, so we are setting up a firepit and lounge area outside for smokers. Since I told them that I had actually made a place for them, instead of hoping they would hide in a corner, our relationships have improved. Last night I was able to make two of his groomsmen do a mini fashion show (didn’t call it that in front of them, though) in their suits for me.  Cool

Post # 9
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

It seems like someone cared about everything – if one didn’t care about the dress, they cared about food, if they didn’t care about food, they cared about the officiant – so they covered everything…oy!

Post # 10
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

The “VIPs” really cared about the entertainment, drinks and food and probably in that order.

Post # 11
1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The parents care about us not doing something offbeat to “offend” the other relatives. The friends care about the booze 🙂

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