Post # 1
Our cobalt and blue wedding is going to have vintagey/rustic aspects, so I was initially considering lace dresses as a possibility. Every time I showed my fiance a pic of a lace dress in a magazine, a subtle look of dislike would come over his face. He was trying to hide it because he wanted me to get whatever made me happy, but eventually I dragged it out of him: He hates lace. I was shocked, because it seems like such an arbitrary thing to hate, but it didn’t end up affecting my decision – the dress I fell in love with is silk and silk organza.
But lately, I have been looking for flower girl dresses, and I saw a couple of adorable lace ones in Century 21 last week. I took a cell pic and showed it to my fiance later. He said “Eh. Its okayyyyy.” I asked what he doesn’t like about it, and he said that it was lace! Apparently he hates lace so much that he doesn’t even want the flowergirls in it LOL. So silly!
Do your fiances have any arbitrary dislikes re: wedding stuff? I
Post # 3
My husband hated rouching (sp?) on dresses. Luckily my dream dress did not have any, but yes I thought it was weird.
Post # 4
He doesnt like silver! Every piece of furniture I own that has metal is a shiny silver color, so I was very surprised when he told me he didn’t want to see that at our wedding. We have decided to use gold accents rather than silver. I think it this is funny because our wedding rings are silver toned (white gold and tungsten!)
Post # 5
He hated me not having a bouquet or a veil. I’m not very traditional and I couldn’t stand the thought of spending 3x the normal cost on a couple flowers just because they’re going to a wedding. Stupid! We’ve compromised and I’m still not wearing a veil but we plan on buying some flowers from the grocery store the day before or day of so I can make a bouquet. Why spend $130 on something that will run me $20 tops?
Post # 6
Things he has requested that shocked me:
1. Long bridesmaids dresses
2. For me to wear a veil
3. He suggested I get a 2nd dress for our after party
Things he said he did not want that shocked me:
1. A “first look”
2. LACE! haha I feel like a lot of men view lace as looking stuffy or old fahsioned…luckily when I showed him a few wedding gown pics he changed his mind 🙂
Men always surprise me with the odd little details they care about…but then when it comes to something like the venue all I can get is a “Meh this is fine” lol
Post # 7
– A bridal party (random!)
– Mermaid/trumpet dresses
– Tiny centerpieces
Post # 8
Wedding websites! So strange for a techie type of guy!
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
He didn’t want to do the garter toss! He’s not a shy guy so I was slightly shocked at first haha. I, on the other hand, am slightly more reserved so I’m secretly glad he wants to pass on it ;].
Post # 10
I love reading these ladies! Glad to know I am not alone in my surprise!
@Garnety: LOL, how random! Glad your dream dress didn’t have any 🙂
@CharmBracelet: Hahaha, that IS weird! His dislike must only apply to certain contexts.
@claireos: Wow, I would not have expected a bouquet be something the guy was that worried about! But I bet your DIY flowers will be lovely 🙂
@pinktulleaffair: LOL, right? Some of the things you thought would be a big deal are whatever for them, and then the oddest details are important! Like insisting on long dresses for the bridesmaids!
@lilbluebird: So he doesn’t want you to have bridesmaids? Or to have a shower?
@Utopia4us: LOL, that is strange! That was one area my tech savvy fiance did not surprise me with – he liked the idea of having things online, including RSVPs 🙂
@stephanie091512: Haha, funny! At least it was a win-win surprise 🙂
Post # 11
I’m surpirsed my FI wants to be completely formal, all the way down to the dress shoes with his tux. He’s the kind of guy who wears skate shoes all the time, so I thought he’d want to wear them for the wedding, as well.. nope! He’s TOTALLY against it.
He was also against eloping, despite us being together for 11½ years, and me not wanting a big wedding. He thinks I “deserve it” and would regret it if we didn’t have it. Ugh.
Post # 12
The only request my FI made about my dress was that it either be strapless or have two straps. He HATES dresses with only one strap. Ummm…Okay?
As it turns out, my dress is strapless, but also has a bolero, so it’s best of bost worlds.
Post # 13
@sarahbabs: Haha. Not so much me as us in general. He’s not a fan of GM or BM.
Post # 14
he doesn’t like strapless dresses. but that’s ok. i don’t like them either. so i guess that wasn’t that much of a surprise.
i wanted yellow and white chevron fabric to place our table centerpieces on, but he doesn’t like it. i really thought he would since he loves yellow, but he says it’s too busy
Post # 15
Fireworks. He loves fireworks, he gets super excited for the 4th of July or any other occasion that would require fireworks but when I told him that some couples have fireworks at their wedding he was completely disgusted by the idea. He said it was pretentious to have them at a wedding, apparently they are too “special” for something like that.
Post # 16
Favours. It’s really weird, but he has this absolute visceral hatred for favours, so I guess we aren’t having any! I don’t think anyone will miss them anyway. And +1s, but we can’t afford to give arbitrary ‘and guest’ invitations, so people are only having named guests if we know their other half or know they’re in a serious long-term relationship. Those are the only things he’s really put his foot down on including to his mum when she suggested that his 18 year old brother shold be allowed to bring a friend. I’m quite glad to be honest as we can’t really afford that many extra people!