(Closed) What wedding thing were you surprised to find out your fiance doesn't like?

posted 8 years ago in Decor
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

He had a massive tanty about me writing the words of our date on the save the dates and the invites. He said it should be “3rd June” but I know it’s supposed to be written “third” on formal invites 🙂 I then got, “But how many other invites did we get like that?”… So if everyone else is wrong, we should copy them and be wrong too? 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I went to try on dresses while visitingmy parents so I sent pics of me in different dresses to him(I wasn’t seriously shopping for a dress that day…just wanted to let my mom see me try dresses on since I live far away from her). Anyways….one of the dresses I sent was a lace dress  that my mom and sis loved on me. His reply”yeah def not liking the dress that makes you look like a giant doily”

 

I refused to try on any other lace dresses after that.

 

Also considered walking down the aisle to ” Somewhere over the rainbow”, the version by the guy with the ukulele. Yeah that was a no go when I played him the song and he cringed saying “what the hell are we listenin to?”. He said it was the worst version he’s ever heard of a song 🙁 

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

A lot of my suggestions have been met with comments of derision: “Why does everyone keep mentioning X? Is it really trendy or something? I’m not having a trendy wedding!”

For example: cupcakes. I said we could have them, along with a small regular cake to cut. They are also so handy, because you don’t need plates to eat them. But nope… doesn’t want. He also doesn’t want a photobooth, a bouquet or garter toss, dancing, favours, or a dessert bar in the evening. Naturally, I am getting my own way on this, although I am not forcing him to dance if he hates it, I am also providing a savoury bar next to my (downsized) dessert bar, and that small cake may be a little larger than I wanted originally.

What also surprised me was that he insisted that my Dad should walk me down the aisle, and that he didn’t want any sort of rehersal (which spells disaster for me… it’s a Catholic ceremony, and only a minority of guests have even set foot in a Catholic church before… we at least need to get the bridal party up to speed so they can direct people). Anyway… negotiations are still open… sigh….

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Fiance apparently doesn’t like bride-and-groom figures as cake toppers.  I think. 

He’s very traditional, but it’s the only thing where he’s said, “I do not want….”  (We’ve planned everything together, but he’s very open to ideas and not coming in with lots of preconceptions).  I was totally surprised, but since I didn’t have any firm ideas for cake toppers, it was no big deal.  I showed him some non-people toppers and he liked the birds.  So I went out and puchased two resin lovebirds as toppers… and when he sees them he says (in what sounds like a disappointed voice), “What, no bride & groom?”

Hunh???  LOL!

I reminded him of our conversation and he just said, “Oh.  Okay.  Yeah, the birds are cool.”  And that was the end of the conversation.  *shrug*

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

well ages ago before we got engaged, my Fiance said he didn’t want to do a garter toss, which i was not that shocked about but i wanted to do, but agreed not to, then shortly after we got engaged he said he did want to do a garter toss and couldn’t remember saying he didn’t! so i was shocked about the change of heart lol

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Fiance hates bunting. Really hates it. Who knew.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

All-white wedding cakes- go figure. He ended up being the main one who decided our wedding cake flavors too- I had no idea he cared so much about the cake. Oh, and he turned out to be pretty opinionated as well when we picked out crystal for our registry.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@Utopia4us:  My guy works in IT and he didn’t want a wedding website either!  I was totally shocked by it.  Part of me thought he’d want to like build our website himself but nope.  He didn’t like the idea of a wedding website so we don’t have one.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I found a piece of music I thought would be cool for me to walk down the aisle too, I played it for Fiance he made a face and said you’re not part of the royal family!  I still havent found that song yet……

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

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@SuperDuperBrit:  perhaps it’s because they deal with websites and computer stuff all day at work, they don’t want to have to deal with it at home too and have more computer stuff to take care of

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

He doesn’t like calla lilies as he associates them with funerals.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Fiance also hates lace! It was the one thing he told me he felt really strongly about. Oh that, and sand ceremonies. Weird.

Post # 30
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@nursemel:  LMAO GIANT DOILY.. hahaha

ETA:  Fiance hates traditional weddings; lace dresses where the lace is sheer so you can see the skin underneath (so particular); one shoulder dresses; first look photoshoot (so sad about this one)..also, wanted to do the first look and pix before the ceremony and have cocktail hour before the ceremony as well, so there’s a break (thats how jews usually do it, though we’re not having a jewish wedding and he’s not jewish) – but he was totally against that, too

surprisingly, he doesn’t mind that i do not want to wear a veil!

Post # 31
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sarahbabs:  My Fiance is the same way, doesn’t like lace dresses.  I didn’t know until I’d started looking at bridal magazines back in January.  He pointed one out and said it was his least favorite, so I never even looked at lace dresses after that. 

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