(Closed) What wedding tradition/trends you can do with out?

posted 9 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think that every wedding trend that one person doesn’t like is the same trend that dozens of others love…  I wouldn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by criticizing the things they are doing for their wedding just because it isn’t my thing.  Just because it wouldn’t work for me, doesn’t mean it wouldn’t be lovely for someone else!

Your explanation makes sense for you, and I may never look at hanging dresses quite the same way again…

Post # 4
1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Hah, Ms. Guava-tini – I noticed those photos looking at photographers’ blogs. I actually chose our  photographer based on the fewest number of ‘standard’ shots. Sometimes the dress on hanger shot works and sometimes it doesn’t, but yes, when the dress is in some totally odd place, I scratch my head a bit.

The wedding tradition we’re doing without? More than four guests at our elopement! We’re still doing full dress, dinner, and cake cutting, but just because of the nature of a private room in a restaurant, a first dance won’t be possible. That’s really the only thing I regret about eloping; I was really looking forward to our first dance! Fiance and I met dancing, actually, so it was going to be kind of special.

Post # 5
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Gah, just accidentally messed up my post…

What I said was…

I think that what is annoying for one person may be the greatest thing for another person.  I wouldn’t want to say something that might hurt someone else’s feelings, because things that might not work for me may be perfect for someone else.

What you say makes perfect sense with the way you think about hanging dresses, and I have to say I may never look at hanging dresses quite the same way now 🙁

Post # 6
596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

The one we’re doing without is cupcakes. I think cupcakes are super fun and cute, but I really just wanted a whole wedding cake!

Post # 7
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have my own list:

no receiving line, garter, cake cutting, or cash bar

Post # 8
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

we are leaving out a bouquet toss and the whole garter belt thing. I always hated being a single girla t weddings called up to catch the bouquet, and although I know some love it, I don’t want my friends to do it! They are too showy for our personalities, and I don’t think my single girlfriends will be fall over each other to catch the bouquet!

Post # 9
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We won’t be saving the top tier of our wedding cake for our anniversary. 

Post # 10
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Not doing the receiving line, bouquet toss, or garter. Just personal preferences – not hating on those that are doing them. 

Post # 11
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Not saving  our wedding cake top, our baker gives us a “complimentary” anniversary cake on our 1 year anniversary….I put complimentary in quotations, because i know we are paying for it.

Not having a flower girl or ring bearer, to avoid more people to deal with.

Not doing the bouquet toss, I loathed that tradition when I was single and I am sure my single friends in their late 20s and early 30s hate it too. 

The fun old tradition that I am doing though is having a blusher or veil over my face.  I am REALLY excited about that part. 

Post # 12
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

cakes, garters, bouquet toss, asking if there are any objections, etc etc.  Anything goofy or traditional that interupts the dancing and the party is a gonner.  We don’t even like cake, and i think the cost of that stuff is a total racket.

PS: that dress pic?!  Creeepy. 

Post # 13
206 posts
Helper bee

I could live without the throwing of the garter, or specifically the calling out of whomever is single at the wedding and putting their business up on blast for everyone to know.  I think its kind of a tacky tradition and wouldnt want to put friends thru that.  I also dont like the idea of the smashing cake in each others faces, I would walk out if the boy did that!!! 


Post # 14
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I saw that picture and some others and thought the same thing about the dress picture.  Some dresses look beautiful hanging up and others just look awful but are pretty on the bride.  I went to one venue here in Houston that had this giant hook hanging in the bride’s room from the ceiling.  It was all rustic looking to match the decor.  And the salesperson said that’s where they hang the brides dress for photos.  I thought.. more like that’s where you hang the bratty bridesmaid giving you grief that day.  LOL  it was a turn off to me.

My do withouts are

– No bouqet toss for the single girls.  Instead I’m going to toss it out the back of the convertible as we drive-away so anyone can catch it.  The meaning behind the bouqet toss is really neat.  They say that if someone gets a piece of the brides clothing then they will have good luck.  Why does it only have to be single girls getting all the luck?

– No Groom’s cake.  Instead we are doing an Ice Cream Bar.  Ice Cream is his favorite food.

– No party favors.  I think they are a waste of time and money and most people throw them away later.  Unless it is a food favor.  But why do that when you already have cake?

– No candy Bar-  I think they are very cool to look at.  But you are left with tons of candy.  Plus we are doing ice cream bar and I’ll have toppings for that.

We are having-

– A memory table of our grandparent’s WWII items.  Our theme is WWII aviation inspired

– A hat table so people can put on hats and take pictures in front of an old car.

Post # 15
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

We’re not having a seating chart, flower girl, or ring-bearer. Or favors. (We have a smilebooth though, so I guess that counts).

Post # 16
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Things we’re not doing because they weren’t us:

Garter toss
Bouquet toss
Groom’s cake (I think this is a southern thing, and I’m a NY-er, so …)
Receiving line (even though we have a pretty small wedding)
Separate dances with mother-son, father-daughter, etc.
Grand exit with sparklers, bubbles, birdseed … what have you

Things are ARE doing that people might not like:

Candy bar. Now, they’re everywhere. But candy is something that really reflects us. We love it. Visit candy shops all the time. And when I thought of the idea YEARS ago, I swear they weren’t so popular 🙂

Cocktail hour. We’ll be there for the whole thing, and we’re considering it our receiving line. We did this so that at the reception, we didn’t have to worry about going to every table, and instead, just really taking in the night whenever possible.

First dance. If it were up to me, we wouldn’t do it, but the Mr. was pretty insistant 🙂

We have a wedding cake (red velvet), a variety of cheesecakes, and we’re also having a small cookie buffet. Cookies kind of elude to our first few months together, and we’re explaining the cute story at our reception so that people understand the significance.

Family dance. Instead of a million separate dances, we’re doing one dance, where in Fiance and I will always be on the dance floor together, and different important people will roatate in so that we get it all done in one nice bang.


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