Post # 1
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Helper bee
Our wedding was beautiful but I am still a bit bummed about some of the things that went wrong. I hope I’m not the only one! Hopefully this can help some planning bees plan accordingly! Who else has complaints/advice?
1. The coordinators turned out to be a disaster! So many details we organized they ruined! They lost my mom’s camera lense and remote shutter control for 3 hours, meaning the DIY photobooth wasn’t there for a good portion of time. The put the programs (which we spent hours designing and putting together) on the front seat of the ceremony so nobody got them or saw them. We spent so much time putting together the flip flops in alternating brown and white colors, tied with ribbons and in a cute basket with a cute sign, and they dumped them into a pile. The didn’t put our photobooth signs or sky lanterns signs or guest book signs out so people didn’t do what they could have/should have done. Ooh, the list goes on! (Note for future brides – talk to other people the coordinators have worked for! These guys interviewed great, but we didn’t talk to anyone they had coordinated for)
2. The photographers didn’t take pictures of all the details that I put on the list of pictures for him to take. No proof of all the details we spent so long putting together. No pictures on my husband with his parents or siblings, none of me with my full dress, etc… (Note for future brides – don’t just give the photographer the list, even if he’s a good one – stress the importance of getting the things on it!)
3. Even with an evening ceremony, the day was chaos! The makeup and hair people arrived late (and then were bad), so all the girls were hurrying to do our own makeup and hair. The photographer and videographer arrived late due to a road block, so we don’t have getting ready pictures. The coordinators didn’t announce the entrance of the bridal party to the reception, etc… We couldn’t relax and enjoy!
Of course we are the only ones who noticed all of this, and everyone had a great time. I mean, I got to marry the man of my dreams surrounded by my closest friends and family! It just goes to show that no matter what goes wrong, your wedding day will still be wonderful!
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Ouch, I’m sorry all that happened. However, I’m glad you got to see the picture. You are now married. Congratulations.
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
What a gorgeous picture! I can’t wait to see more.
Congrats! I’m sorry things didnt turn out exactly as you had planned but I’m glad you still had a great day.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I’m sorry to hear about the mishaps 🙁 But that said, that picture is SO beautiful and you look GORGEOUS! That dress fits you beautifully….
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
From the picture it looks like it turned out beautifully! When you worked so hard on every little detail, it can be frustrated when it’s not executed to your vision, but I’m sure your guests were too busy enjoying themselves to notice! Congratulations!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Maybe I’m still too blissed out to know what all went wrong, but I think my day went PERFECTLY! Ok, well maybe not perfect – but my mishaps seemed to be pretty small.
1. It was REALLY windy, therefore decorations were not staying where they should. Paper lanterns fell, my chalkboard signs got broken, and keeping the table cloths down was a challenge.
2. I am a doofus and totally rejected my dad’s kiss as he gave me away. The pastor started walking up the stairs to the stage and I was so focused on giving my bouquet to the Maid/Matron of Honor and not tripping over my dress that when my dad leaned in to kiss my cheek I was leaning away to hand off my flowers. I was embarassed, but everybody just laughed and my dad just kind of shoo-ed me up the stairs haha
The only thing I’m worried about is that my photog didn’t get all the detail shots I wanted. However, I had LOTS of friends with cameras there and so far facebook seems to have a pretty good collection of the details.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
Thanks to everyone for the kind words! I feel like only other brides understand the frustration of having put in so much time for little things to be messed up out of our control. But yes, we’re the only ones who notice and when all was said and done, we’re married! (And re: the request for more pictures, here is my recaps post)
Post # 9
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Helper bee
And on a funnier note – they played ‘Here comes the bride’ when the wedding party entered! My BMs all felt like the bride!
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
Beautiful pic! I”m sorry your coordinators stunk so bad, that is unfortunate.
I can’t complain about my mishaps, none of them were really bad. Our flower girl talked loudly throughout our ceremony which was annoying, but at least everything else went fine. I still don’t understnad why parents let their kids do this at a wedding ceremony, but anyway. DH and I missed out on part of the dancing because a wedding guest cornered us and complained about her health problems for about 1/2 hour. I really regret not being more assertive about getting away from her. Not that I didn’t care, but it was our wedding night and we should have been a little more selfish. My sister broke a champagne glass at our head table, but only because she was drunk and no one was hurt. My single Bridesmaid or Best Man cried during dinner because she was so consumed with her own hurt feelings about being single which still kind of makes me mad to think about (she couldn’t have pulled it together for one day??) especially considering I am constantly there for her and a shoulder to cry on.
But we had an amazing wedding that executed perfectly and on time, all the vendors delivered as promised, we got all the pics and video we could have hoped for or dreamed of, everyone showed, no drama, etc.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
My number ONE word of advice is to make sure that your bustle is secure!!! Mine broke a few minutes in to dancing and it was so annoying having to carry around my train and try to pin it up with safety pins.
Also, bring a change of shoes. Even if you’re convinced that you won’t need them/won’t wear them, bring them just in case. Your feet will thank you at 1am.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Don’t feel bad!! From what I’ve heard from other brides… everyone has things throughout their day that goes wrong. Here was what my sister told me, and when I thought about it, it just made sense & made me feel better….
The weekend (Thursday-Friday – wedding was on Saturday) of our wedding, little things kept going wrong. I finally said “WHAT IS THE DEAL?”, while totally breaking down, and my sister said, “Don’t read into it or feel bad. You have NEVER put so much work and details into a weekend, and so there is just more opportunity for things to go wrong”. DUH! Things weren’t going wrong because I didn’t plan it well or anything like that, but because there were so many opportunities for things to go wrong.
Anyway, here are ours:
-There was a road closure between the wedding ceremony and the reception that we didn’t know about. Therefore, almost everyone was a bit late to the reception.
-Because of that, everything was running a bit behind. Because of that, we were rushed when going table to table to greet our guests… which I HATED, cause we wanted our guests to know we appreciate them! : /
-Oh, and… my DH and I had a little accident…. : / We hit my sister and brother in laws rental car. Opps! Honestly though, 6 months later we are glad it happened… it totally adds character to our day! : ) (side note: we got it fixed for a great price!)
Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
@aruka11: beautiful picture! And i’m sure you’re not on your own with everything not going according to plan
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
Sounds like you survived very gracefully and you both look gorgeous!
Post # 15
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Newbee
Thanks for all of the tips… glad you still enjoyed your wedding!
Do you mind providing the designer and style of your dress? It’s gorgeous and fits you beautifully!!
Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
Sounds like the things that went wrong werent too bad.
7 months out from our wedding and the little things that bothered me dont bother me as much anymore. I was frustrated that we didnt take pictures with every table and that we really dont have any pictures of us with friends/family or each other at our reception. Its mainly because i was dancing the whole time and I somewhat regret that because I feel like I should have been walking around and chatting with people (and my husband!) more. But thats okay. I also wish I had been more assertive to my Mother-In-Law about how to decorate certain things. The good thing is that time makes the sting of these things less and less and before you know it you wont even remember some of the stuff that originally annoyed you!