(Closed) What went wrong, and advice to future brides

posted 10 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
2738 posts
Sugar bee

Ouch, I’m sorry all that happened. However, I’m glad you got to see the picture. You are now married. Congratulations.

Post # 4
6350 posts
Bee Keeper

What a gorgeous picture! I can’t wait to see more.

Congrats! I’m sorry things didnt turn out exactly as you had planned but I’m glad you still had a great day.

Post # 5
826 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m sorry to hear about the mishaps 🙁 But that said, that picture is SO beautiful and you look GORGEOUS!  That dress fits you beautifully….

Post # 6
2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

From the picture it looks like it turned out beautifully! When you worked so hard on every little detail, it can be frustrated when it’s not executed to your vision, but I’m sure your guests were too busy enjoying themselves to notice! Congratulations!

Post # 7
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Maybe I’m still too blissed out to know what all went wrong, but I think my day went PERFECTLY! Ok, well maybe not perfect – but my mishaps seemed to be pretty small.

1. It was REALLY windy, therefore decorations were not staying where they should. Paper lanterns fell, my chalkboard signs got broken, and keeping the table cloths down was a challenge.

2. I am a doofus and totally rejected my dad’s kiss as he gave me away. The pastor started walking up the stairs to the stage and I was so focused on giving my bouquet to the Maid/Matron of Honor and not tripping over my dress that when my dad leaned in to kiss my cheek I was leaning away to hand off my flowers. I was embarassed, but everybody just laughed and my dad just kind of shoo-ed me up the stairs haha

The only thing I’m worried about is that my photog didn’t get all the detail shots I wanted. However, I had LOTS of friends with cameras there and so far facebook seems to have a pretty good collection of the details.

Post # 10
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Beautiful pic! I”m sorry your coordinators stunk so bad, that is unfortunate.

I can’t complain about my mishaps, none of them were really bad. Our flower girl talked loudly throughout our ceremony which was annoying, but at least everything else went fine. I still don’t understnad why parents let their kids do this at a wedding ceremony, but anyway. DH and I missed out on part of the dancing because a wedding guest cornered us and complained about her health problems for about 1/2 hour. I really regret not being more assertive about getting away from her. Not that I didn’t care, but it was our wedding night and we should have been a little more selfish. My sister broke a champagne glass at our head table, but only because she was drunk and no one was hurt. My single Bridesmaid or Best Man cried during dinner because she was so consumed with her own hurt feelings about being single which still kind of makes me mad to think about (she couldn’t have pulled it together for one day??) especially considering I am constantly there for her and a shoulder to cry on.

But we had an amazing wedding that executed perfectly and on time, all the vendors delivered as promised, we got all the pics and video we could have hoped for or dreamed of, everyone showed, no drama, etc.

Post # 11
3563 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My number ONE word of advice is to make sure that your bustle is secure!!! Mine broke a  few minutes in to dancing and it was so annoying having to carry around my train and try to pin it up with safety pins.

Also, bring a change of shoes. Even if you’re convinced that you won’t need them/won’t wear them, bring them just in case. Your feet will thank you at 1am.

Post # 12
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t feel bad!! From what I’ve heard from other brides… everyone has things throughout their day that goes wrong.  Here was what my sister told me, and when I thought about it, it just made sense & made me feel better….

The weekend (Thursday-Friday – wedding was on Saturday) of our wedding, little things kept going wrong.  I finally said “WHAT IS THE DEAL?”, while totally breaking down, and my sister said, “Don’t read into it or feel bad.  You have NEVER put so much work and details into a weekend, and so there is just more opportunity for things to go wrong”.  DUH! Things weren’t going wrong because I didn’t plan it well or anything like that, but because there were so many opportunities for things to go wrong.

Anyway, here are ours:

-There was a road closure between the wedding ceremony and the reception that we didn’t know about.  Therefore, almost everyone was a bit late to the reception.

-Because of that, everything was running a bit behind.  Because of that, we were rushed when going table to table to greet our guests… which I HATED, cause we wanted our guests to know we appreciate them! : /

-Oh, and… my DH and I had a little accident…. : /  We hit my sister and brother in laws rental car.  Opps!  Honestly though, 6 months later we are glad it happened… it totally adds character to our day! : )  (side note: we got it fixed for a great price!)

Post # 13
11050 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@aruka11: beautiful picture! And i’m sure you’re not on your own with everything not going according to plan

Post # 14
1746 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sounds like you survived very gracefully and you both look gorgeous!

Post # 15
39 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

Thanks for all of the tips… glad you still enjoyed your wedding!


Do you mind providing the designer and style of your dress? It’s gorgeous and fits you beautifully!!

Post # 16
7691 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sounds like the things that went wrong werent too bad.

7 months out from our wedding and the little things that bothered me dont bother me as much anymore. I was frustrated that we didnt take pictures with every table and that we really dont have any pictures of us with friends/family or each other at our reception. Its mainly because i was dancing the whole time and I somewhat regret that because I feel like I should have been walking around and chatting with people (and my husband!) more. But thats okay. I also wish I had been more assertive to my Mother-In-Law about how to decorate certain things. The good thing is that time makes the sting of these things less and less and before you know it you wont even remember some of the stuff that originally annoyed you!

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