(Closed) What went wrong at your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
10972 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@eliseemma:  There were just little glitches here and there – things like, our shuttle bus shuttling our guests back and forth from the hotel to the venue screwed up timing and our last bus of guests ended up being about 10 minutes late, and we kind of botched our bride/groom entrance to the reception, but honestly, at the end of it all, I barely remember that these things went wrong.  🙂

Post # 4
8700 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ours was sort of a biggie. We both ran our of hors d’evoures 30 minutes in to our hour-long cocktail hour, and ran 30 minutes late, so when we finally showed up, our guests were STARVING and pretty unhappy!


Also, the pew bows ALMOST got forgotten (I saw them next to my dress and my Maid/Matron of Honor grabbed them, handed them off to the best man, and told him to “find the DOC. Get these up.”

And she has pretty severe social anxiety, so talking to the stranger was a big deal for her. So that was extra awesome.


And three days before the wedding, our Pastor had a brain bleed and we got a replacement Pastor. But he was great! So that wasn’t a disaster.

Post # 5
2706 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@eliseemma:  The hairstylist told me to wash my hair the night before the wedding then not do anything with it, that’s what I did and when I showed up for my hair appointment (which was the first thing the morning of my wedding) she said I had used bad shampoo and conditioner and had to re-wash and dry my hair which added at least an hour to the appointment time.

So running late, we get back to my house and the makeup artist puts the WRONG makeup on me!  No time to re-do it though because we’re running late already.

DJ used the wrong song list.

Photog planned WAY too much time for pics so we had like 1+ hour of downtime during which I got VERY tired.

We got married in January, the flu was going around, several people no-showed.

I didn’t think the food was great….

Photog didn’t get a picture of the mother-son dance.

I’m sure there’s more I’m not thinking of right now.

Post # 6
2265 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@eliseemma:  honestly the things at my wedding that “went wrong” didn’t bother me, with the exception of one thing – but now i realize it wasn’t as bad as i thought it was, i was just being overly critical.

1) we had origami bouquets, and i found out the week of the wedding two of my girls made theirs all wrong. even though i gave them easy replacement options (because i really didnt care that much), they chose to remake them, and thus had half-bald bouquets. (this was actually pretty humorous)

2) DJ played the wrong version of the mother/son dance song and kinda pissed off my Mother-In-Law. oh well!

3) DJ didn’t stick to our song list hardly at all and played EVERY request. not a lot of people danced. this was the thing that bothered me at the time, but when i saw the photos i realized there were actually a lot of people dancing and i just didn’t feel like there were that many. i know its because our crowd was older that we didn’t have a super-hoppin dance floor, but still.

4) a lot of people left early, including my bridesmaids – lame asses. our event was over at 11:30, but by 11 most people had left, and my BM’s filtered out at 11:15 and didn’t help clean up. but that also was a result of a generally older crowd, and it was actually lovely to get to sit outside in the nice weather under the lights with some friends and bridal party and just enjoy the last few moments of the evening peacefully.

Post # 7
1308 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

2photog manage to get ONE PHOTO-of my husband,me and children together. out of 1000 pictures there is only one true family picture and we are like 2 feet apart for each person….


hubby ended in the er due to siezure

we forgot our shoes so girls were in flipflops the entire ceremony and reception

limo was mia when it was time to actually start the wedding

ran out of candy for the candy buffet due to timing being off for the majority of the night


dj played thong song- which was clearly on the NO PLAY list.

Post # 8
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Lets see…

  • I tripped coming down the aisle (LOL!!)  luckily it was a small stumble and no one noticed.  
  • My Maid/Matron of Honor forgot all the jewelry I had bought her…luckily she was able to borrow some jewelry from the DOC.   It was funny, she was so concerned about my reaction, apologizing and everything, but at that point I did not care. Not an iota. I was like “ok. well, can’t do anything about it. moving on.”
  • The first dance song went on way too long…was supposed to have been a minute of dancing and it went on for four loooonnng torturous minutes.  

And the big one for me:

No one bustled my dress before the first dance, so the first dance and the father/daughter dance looked a bit like this:

Post # 9
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I should not read these before my wedding lol

Post # 10
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

-It rained BUCKETS on our wedding day.  We had planned to have our ceremony outside in the lovely gardens, but we did it inside instead.  That’s why we had a back-up plan!

-My bustle kept slipping off the hook, but one of my wonderful BMs stitched it on for me with dental floss 🙂  I wish I had asked them to do buttons instead of hooks.  Oh well.

-DH & I didn’t take dance lessons.  I wanted to, but we just didn’t get to it.  So, for our first dance, he tried kind of ‘on the fly’ explaining the box step to me.  I said “Nope.  Too late.  Spin me, dip me, and we’re swaying for the rest of this song.”


A few people got a little obnoxiously drunk, but hey, shit happens.  It makes for great stories later.  The things that went wrong didn’t bother me at all, we still had fun, and our guests were none the wiser!

Post # 11
1374 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Oh well let’s see…

* It rained 🙁 We started 30 minutes late trying to wait it out (outdoor ceremony)

* My venue coordinator told me they provided basic centerpieces (mirror, vase, candle) during our consultation, and then day-of said they did not.

* The coordinator, also day-of, said that she did not realize we were having a DJ (??) and had to scramble to find a DJ table

* The coordinator confiscated the bottle of wedding cake vodka that we had in the get-ready room. Not even “please put this in your car” but straight up took it and locked it in her desk like we were middle schoolers.

* The coordinator (notice a trend?) said during our consultation she had a white aisle runner that we could use for the ceremony, but it never made an appearance

* We made some pew bows and planned to tie them to the chairs with some ribbon I bought, but as I walked down the aisle I noticed that they were TAPED to the chairs with that glossy clear packing tape (??) 

* Both my immediate family and groom’s immediate family were extremely late (Wedding starts at 6? Show up at 6! Wait, what photos?)

* The best man/my Brother-In-Law drove to the WRONG venue, a similarly named one in a totally different city. 

* My in-laws were responsible for bringing the cooler, ice, and water bottles but did not bring them at all. When asked, Mother-In-Law smiled all glassy-eyed and said “Oh but nobody noticed, it was a beauuuuuuuutiful ceremony” Dude it was a Texas summer wedding outside, and it was in my contract for the ceremony musician to supply water! And the wedding website told guests there’d be chilled water available!

* My hair and makeup day-of were nothing like my trial. I hated my hair and disliked my makeup.

* The officiant was reading the ceremony and lost his place on his iPad. It was silent for what felt like a decade but in reality was probably only about 30 seconds. Awkward!

* One of the flower girls was standing at the front of the aisle for almost the entire ceremony playing with the petals on the ground. Her mom (BIL’s wife) was most concerned with getting great photos of her daughter and was not interested in paying attention to the ceremony or pulling her daughter back out of the aisle to her seat or even outside to take pictures there instead. Come to think of it, every single professional photo that has her in it she has her big camera up to her face drawing away from the focus of the photo. example example2 (I feel bad because it’s a cute photo, but almost ALL of our ceremony photos have her standing there and, well, she’s not the star of the show this time. :-/)

* We all made jokes during rehearsal about my dad not walking all over my train after he “gave me away” but he did anyway! It was ok though, the laugh lightened the mood when I was feeling stressed from all of the SNAFUs above.

Post # 12
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

  • Two of the groomsmen were late to pictures because their wives needed coffee (the wives did not want to drive the 5-10 minutes to the nearest Starbucks or Dunkin by themselves…… and the hotel restuarant I guess did not meet their coffee expectations)
  • 4 people were a no-show (at 150 per plate it kinda sucked)
  • the first dance went on way toooooo long (most awkward 4 minutes of my life)
  • did not get all the pictures I was “supposed to get”.  By supposed I mean the ones my mother wanted (mind you I paid for the photographer)
  • two guests came late to the unplugged ceremony and missed the speech regarding the unplugged request
  • family members forgot to put their mouth filters on that day (I think I cried three times over something nasty that a family member said about either my dress or the wedding itself



Post # 13
6317 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

My wedding officiant FORGOT THE MARRIAGE LICENSE. She had to have someone rush it over. It was then the wrong one (or some issue with it), so she actually showed up at our reception dinner to sort it out and have us sign the correct document. 

My mom was freaking out, but I was strangely calm about it all. I figured what’s done is done, and we still had plenty of time to get married and take photos at our venue. My best friend and husband sorted it all out so I wasn’t really in the loop. I was like “hey, what are you doing here?” when she showed up at our reception lol.

I probably would have freaked out had it been a huge, expensive wedding with lots of guests.. but we had a teeny tiny guest list and it all worked out in the end.

Post # 14
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

Right as my Maid/Matron of Honor was walking down the aisle, our arbor fell over and broke. Thankfully no one was injured and for some reason I thought it was the funniest thing ever. I even started chuckling again as I got up to my DH and the pastor because there were small pieces of the floral arrangements scattered around. The florist was extremely apologetic and gave us a refund for the cost of the arbor.

Here is a shot of the arbor all set up before the ceremony:


Here is me laughing my butt off before I walked down the aisle:

It also started raining during cocktail hour and they had to quickly relocate cocktail hour into the house. Since it was raining, the Georgia Tech Wreck wasn’t able to pick us up at the end of the evening, but the best man’s little brother drove us back to the hotel in our rental car. Overall, the rain was a minor inconveinence and we got a beautiful photo of the two of us in it.

Post # 15
4539 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Most of the issues at our wedding were the fault of the venue. They claimed they were short staffed and they did just go through a sale (the venue was sold to a new owner right before the wedding) but I still don’t think they had good excuses since my wedding was planned 15 months in advance.

1. They used top shelf liquor instead of the premium like I asked. This caused the bar to run out way faster than it should have. It went to cash bar almost immediately following cocktail hour and my parents had to go put more money down so our guests weren’t paying cash the entire reception.

2. The staff was supposed to put aside a plate of appetizers for my husband and I. Apparently someone did, but another staff member cleared the table and threw them away. We didn’t get a single appetizer, which I heard was the best part of the food.

3. Any leftovers from our meals were supposed to be boxed. I only had a bite of my steak and chicken because I just wasn’t hugry. My food was taken away while I was greeting guests and never boxed.

4. The vegetarian meals were served extremely late. Almost everyone was finished eating before the veg. meals came out. A good number of my family order this meal because it was eggplant parm which is their favorite. So my own mother was waiting for her food and was furious.

5. We ran late on hair and makeup and I didn’t get any of the bridal pictures that I wanted. Speaking of hair/makeup, I regret not doing it myself!

6. We got very few pictures of just my husband and I because family pictures took so long. I really should have just taken pictures with parents and grandparents. My brother and step-sister really wouldn’t have cared if I left them out.

7. It rained the entire week before my wedding and was unusually warm. So all the pictures I wanted to get outside didn’t happen because the grass was mushy and my hair was a frizzy, no-curls mess by the end of the ceremony. It was also pretty warm during the ceremony because it was on and inclosed porch that didn’t have AC.

Side note: I found out that some guests from another wedding at my venue decided to crash my cocktail hour and eat the food. Apparently even the Rabbi from the other wedding crashed…WTH?


None of these things affected my wedding night though. I was mad about some of the venue’s mess-ups afterwards but that night, nothing bothered me! Well, nothing except for my hair/makup…I really hated it lol

Post # 16
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It POURED. The wedding was supposed to be outside so all the groomsmen had to pick everything up and bring it into the (tiny) barn.


I forgot my “thank you” sign, still kind of bummed about that one. Oh well.


The food was good, but cold and since it was supposed to be outside and buffet style, people were crammed into a tiny kitchen trying to do the buffet style thing and people were getting upset because of wait times.


Our wedding started 30 mins late.


A lot of people didn’t show up because it STORMED.


I didn’t get a lot of pictures outside, again, because of the rain.


I broke my toenail off by hitting a suitcase with it right before the wedding. Thankfully I wore close toed shoes but could you imagine?! HAHA.


I’m sure a lot more went wrong, but thankfully I’m starting to forget lol! Everyone who came said that it didn’t even LOOK like it was all rushed and brought inside because of the rain.







This is what we ended up having to do… right in front of the wedding table. Oh well.


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