Post # 1
We have friends who had just about EVERYTHING go wrong on their big day, so now I’m curious how many people have had some “interesting” wedding day experiences!
My Fiance and I have told everyone (including vendors) that we DO NOT want to know if anything goes wrong — from family drama to our vendors. Hopefully there won’t be anything bad to worry about in the first place, but maybe we’ll be blissfully unaware if there is.
What were your unexpected or bad experiences? Did you find out during the wedding, or after the fact? If it was an issue with a vendor, were discounts/refunds involved? Please share 🙂
Post # 3
Does rain count? Aside from that, everything was perfect. And yes, I know they say its good luck, blah, blah. Our ceremony was outside (and we did have a back-up plan) but since it didn’t decide to rain until I was walking down the aisle it was a little too late. We did have umbrellas though and it made for some good pictures, but I felt bad for our guests. Our marriage certificate is totally ripped into like 3 pieces too because we signed it when it was soaking wet. LOL.
Post # 4
I forgot to specify at our last caterer meeting that we wanted to serve soda, and they forgot I’d mentioned it months earlier. So our guests only had tea, lemonade and water to choose from. Or coffee/hot tea.
Not really a big deal though, I just felt bad since we didn’t do alcohol either, and it was never my intention to short change my guests! I felt like a bad hostess, but then again, it wasn’t entirely my fault, so whatever… 🙂
Also, my bustle completely ripped out while dancing, but I found that to be more a sign of success than anything else, haha.
Post # 5
my ceremony musicians didn’t show up…instead of taking a cab like I told them to do and that I would pay for it, they took the bus, in an area they didn’t know, called 5 minutes before the ceremony thinking they were 5 minutes away when it was another 25 mins on the bus to get to the venue.
I was so anxious all day that it set me off and I just started bawling. Thank goodness we had a band for the reception because the piano player bailed us out huge, but if we were to have a DJ I would have been screwed.
I told my mother to just give them what we agreed to when they got there to play during the cocktail reception, that it wasn’t worth fighting for the small amount we were paying them. They wouldn’t look anyone in the eye when from the time they showed up until they left, no apologies during or after the fact.
Post # 6
@kelmac: We’re having an outdoor ceremony also, but there shouldn’t be any rain issues in CA in July (ya never know though!). It’s good that everything worked out well 🙂 and umbrellas can make for some super cute photos from what I’ve seen!!
Post # 7
@ddw: Aww, that’s a bummer about the refreshments, but people probably didn’t think too much about it! It’s good that they didn’t forget drinks all together 😉
Post # 8
@marlew: Yikes!! We only have a dj, so if anything happens to him we’re potentially screwed music-wise! You’re a super nice person for paying them after that, I personally would’ve had my Future Father-In-Law all over that mess— he’s an awesome negotiator and good at yelling haha.
Post # 9
@marlew: Psh, in the words of Stephaine Tanner “HOW RUDE”! They could of at least given a sincere apology or cut part or all of their price!
I haven’t had my wedding yet, but I am curious as to wedding snafu’s during other peoples. It might help me avert any of mine (although weather is out of my hands!)
Post # 10
@indyJEEP: We had a few things go wrong at our wedding – some that I knew about and others I did not.
1 – the baker did not put any flowers on the cake like they were supposed to, my Mother-In-Law came to me while I was having pictures taken and told me and asked what to do – I said find some flowers and put them on the cake! (really not that big of a deal)
2 – it rained ALL DAY LONG but stopped raining about 3 hours before our ceremony right when the photogs showed up – I was really lucky! But during the time it was raining people kept asking me what I was going to do and it was kind of annoying
3 – one of our guests tried to take bottles of liquor from the bar after the reception was over (we had an open bar) well they got yelled at by my Father-In-Law because those bottles were like $200!! I didnt know about this until last week though!
4- apparently no one witnessed our cake cutting because our DJ did a really bad job at announcing it…again, I did not notice and dont really care!
Anything that goes wrong on your wedding day doesnt seem as bad because you are just in such a good mood because you are getting married! Also, they just add to the stories that you will continue to tell for years and years! ANd make it uniquely yours 🙂
Post # 11
I voted a few small things, but they are still things that no one else would have noticed. Like one of the table numbers was wrong/missing. Totally my fault, but I didn’t know until I walked into the reception. In some of the pics my hair is messed up. That’s about it! The big stuff all happened…
Post # 12
Nothing really went “wrong”, per se..we had an uninvited guest show up, but I didn’t know about that til like 2 days later, lol. We also were more rushed during photos than I would have liked, and DH’s brother showed up about an hour late for family photos. Other than that, everything went according to plan and it was wonderful! Although, like a PP, my bustle ripped out–VERY annoying!
Post # 13
I know I have posted about some of these but I had one large problem and a couple of small ones.
We were running late to meet the photographer at the ceremony venue for pictures and when we were finally ready to walk out the door my jewelry and our bouquets were all missing (which caused a 5 minute meltdown by yours truly). Apparently my grandparents had put them in their car and they were at the hotel getting cleaned up before the wedding so we had to do the first half of our wedding party pictures without bouquets.
I had bustled my dress for pictures before the ceremony and forgot to unbustle it and let the train out. So it just stayed bustled all day. It was easier for me to walk in it that way but I really hate that people missed out on the pretty train.
One of my husband’s guests decided he was the wedding photographer (although we had hired a professional) and he kept getting in the photographer’s way during the wedding party pictures and he ruined some of my wedding ceremony pictures because he was standing in the middle of the aisle taking his pictures with his little digital camera.
I completely forgot to use our toasting glasses. Didn’t even get them out of my wedding storage area and feel so stupid for it, they were really cool glasses.
One of my bridesmaids’ boyfriend decided last minute (2 days before the wedding right before the rehearsal dinner) to be a controlling asshole and refuse to let my friend attend or be in the wedding. So I basically was down a bridesmaid last minute. Thankfully my daughter was a junior bridesmaid who could fill the missing bridesmaid’s spot.
The reception venue completely messed up and almost ruined my reception. I was supposed to have the entire second floor of a restaurant, but only found out when we arrived that they had booked another party upstairs and had the room split in half, and they were also letting the general public into the space. It was completely chaotic and some of my guests left because of it. My whole family was trying to deal with it for about 30 minutes to an hour and it was awful, but when I finally decided to stop stressing about it and just let it go it ended up fine. I just kind of had to turn the problem off. There are more details in my past posts, but basically we ended up being told that we didn’t have to pay anything, although my husband and my mom decided that they deserved at least the cost of food, so we paid them $800 out of the $2000 that we owed them. We also were treated like royalty by the staff after that and received a complimentary bottle of champagne and some free drinks from the bar.
All in all it was a wonderful day, I had a blast and I think those closest to me who stayed til the end had an awesome time also. The ceremony was perfect (besides the photo-taking guest who I didn’t even know about until after the wedding day when people complained to me about him) and the reception still had a really fun atmosphere. We did end up with the half of the room that had the dance floor and the bar, it just didn’t have as much of the seating. Thankfully, the pictures turned out wonderful so I will have those to remember it by 🙂
Post # 14
i had several things go wrong
Post # 15
The big thing was that the officiant called my husband my “wife” in the vows. We all had a little laugh over that. And the DJ played every single group dance song when I told him that I didn’t want him to and he didn’t play a different song for the mother/son dance.