- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
There are lots of threads on these topics, but I think it’s helpful to look at both sides at the same time. In conversations with other recent brides I have found we all tend to focus on the negative directly after the wedding, rather than on all of the positive things that happened. I guess the point of this is to show that even when things go wrong, they have a way of rebounding or fixing themselves. Even if they don’t, the mood is so great you just move on from it.
What went wrong:
-Rehearsal dinner restaurant manager served the incorrect dessert after I very specifically said I did not want it earlier in the week. We discussed it a few days later via email (and she only charged us for what was eaten) but it made an already anxious bride to be upset the night before the wedding.
-My dress for the rehearsal dinner, brand new, had a giant hole down the back seam that I didn’t notice when I purchased it, so one of my bridesmaids had to sew the hole right before we left for the church. It was really funny even AT the time.
-I woke up the morning of the wedding at 6 a.m. to a text from my fiance. His 3 sisters needed a ride from half an hour away. They needed to be at my parent’s house by 8 a.m. for hair appointments. REALLY?!? They figured it out and were there and everything went fine. It wasn’t even THEM who messaged me, so if my now husband had just left it alone I would never have known!
-The limo nearly got in a terrible car accident on the way to the reception. It was a 40 person limo party bus, and a woman blew a stop sign on her way to a DIFFERENT wedding. It really shook every one up and destroyed the mood for most of the rest of the trip, but nobody was seriously injured and by the time we got to the venue everyone was in good spirits again.
-My new husband had a dance off with one of my good friends, and split his pants AT the reception. Luckily he had his dress suit pants from the rehearsal dinner in our room upstairs, so he quickly changed and it all worked out. It was one of the funniest moments all night.
-My bustle was really difficult (I think the steamer at the dress salon cut it off thinking it was not supposed to be there!), but eventually we got it. It still broke, so I just carried it the rest of the night, but it wasn’t a heavy train, and I loved my dress too much to care! I was happy to hold it!
-My brother got into an argument with the event coordinator, who was apparently a little bit of a jerk to several people at the reception. I know he was just trying to get everything done, but I paid him enough to get a good attitude from him all night.
-At the barbeque the next day (highly recommend a two day party!), my brother set off some fireworks. He has a lot of experience doing so, but one got messed up and shot off in all different directions. Everyone was okay (but a bit shaken up), except my sister’s dress was burnt a little bit. My brother felt awful but after a few shots with my brother in law and cousin, he was feeling much better.
-We went out with friends after the barbeque, and my new husband and I bickered the whole evening. Everyone was so tired from all the partying, so I know that heavily contributed, but I wish I had been in better spirits. It ended such a great weekend with everyone on a little bit of a sour note.
What went right:
-Everything else! Visually, everything was wonderful. Beautiful weather. My hair/make up was perfect, and all the girls had so much fun getting ready together that morning. Pictures went by smoothly once we got everyone organized (so glad we did them prior to the ceremony!!!), and our first look was great. The ceremony went off without a hitch (after a lot of concern over my pianist, who had been unable to make it to the rehearsal), as did the receiving line afterward (I worried about the chaos!).
-Everyone was in such great spirits, and the love we felt from everyone was just so overwhelming.
-The night before the rehearsal dinner my parents surprised us with a videographer. It was the one thing I had wanted that I did not have for the wedding, due to budget. Now that the wedding is over I am so happy I’ll have those memories to watch for the rest of my life.
-The reception that night was so great. We only had 75 people there (about 45 family, 30 friends), so we got to talk to and dance with pretty much everyone. The food was delicious, and all of the DIY projects I had worked so hard on were perfectly set up. The flowers were all absolutely beautiful, and totally met my vision. So much fun!
-Our wedding suite was stunning. Beautiful tub, shower, fireplace, etc. It totally went with the vintage vibe we had been aiming for, and I know the pictures of the groomsmen getting ready in it will be just stunning. We used it as a party suite on Saturday night prior to visiting bars after the barbeque.
-Late night eats… I had a favorite late night spot to get food from in the city we got married in, and was starving after the wedding reception (I DID eat, but it was mostly just a few bites of everything to make sure it all tasted great). My new husband ordered my favorite meal and I happily chowed it down once out of my dress. I viewed the dessert bar after it was set up, but was so busy on the dance floor forgot to go back and get some! My Maid/Matron of Honor (and sister!) packed me up a “to-go” box though, which was great!
-Saturday barbeque – complete with a stunning white tent (and we were able to reuse all the beautiful floral centerpieces from the day before!), amazing catered barbeque food all cooked on site (so delicious!), bouncy house for the kids (and even some of the adults), a candy bar (which looked beautiful and was the HIT of the party!), and lawn games. Absolutely perfect occasion to catch up with guests and extended family members who did not come to the reception the previous night. Everyone had a lot of fun (even with the slight fireworks fiasco).
If you’re still reading, the result of the weekend was that everyone enjoyed themselves. Friday was a dream during the ceremony and reception. Saturday was casual and lovely. Things went wrong, but funny enough, the things I was most worried about (dress not fitting, pianist messing up the ceremony songs, rain throughout the weekend) went perfectly. You can plan and plan and plan, but the best thing you can do once the planning is done is prepare yourself for things outside of your control to go wrong. Now I just want the photos and video to come in!!!