Oh, where do I start? I admit I think our wedding was wonderful and I wouldn’t change anything because I think something would still go wrong no matter what. I’m so happy to be married and I was so glad to share that day with my friends and family.
But here’s what went wrong:
1. I was late to my hair appointment because the county fair sprung up over night. There was a parade and all the roads from my apartment to the salon were blocked off! I had to make some crazy detours to get there.
2. We didn’t have enough room in the car for all the stuff we had to take to the church. Our ever-so-reliable Best Man volunteered to drive our non-air conditioned mini van down the church with all the cargo. (Our wedding took place a hour from where we live. The guests weren’t the only ones traveling!)
3. Oh, and did I mention that it was over 100 degrees that day? Hottest day this summer on this side of MO. The heat alone made for a lot of problems.
4. Our photographer almost didn’t make it. Her ride bailed on her and she came down in a different (also non air conditioned!) car without a change of clothes. So she was in sweaty shorts and a t-shirt the whole day. Poor thing, and some misguided guests gave her grief for not dressing up! I’m just glad she made the trip. She’s a friend from college and was doing this as favor for cheap.
5. My now husband forgot to get his haircut until 2 hours before the ceremony. I’m surprised he was able to get a walk-in. I guess guys are just lucky that way.
6. I’m not sure if this counts, but my bachelorette party was a total distaster. I didn’t have much fun because I was too sleep deprived. We tried to make it so everyone would be there so we waited to start until one bridesmaid got off work at 11PM. By the time we got around to it, everything was closed except a few casinos and we got bored with those pretty quick. The girls made up for by having a spa night after the rehearsel dinner the night before the wedding. The bachelor and bachelorette party was planned two nights before so no one would be hungover. I never got to have a single drink the whole night.
7. Oh yeah, and our marriage almost wasn’t legal. We had to beg a judge on the Friday before the wedding to waive the Kansas three day waiting period so we could get our marriage liscense. We were mistakenly told by some state official that we needed a Missouri liscense since we were MO residents which has different rules only to be corrected later that we needed a Kansas liscense because the church was (just over) the KS state line. It was a nightmare. Luckily, the judge was agreeable simply because he knew my husband’s family. (Yay, good ole boy system!)
8. Did I mention the heat? It was like oppresively hot in the church. It made it very difficult to put on the wedding attire. Supposedly they did have the air conditioning on. No one could tell. I think they just turned it one when we got to the church. I hoping people can’t tell how badly we were sweating in the pictures.
9. My gown really need a second alteration. The top was still a little too big and it made me scared about accidently exposing the girls. It held just fine though. Also, the bustle broke like 10 minutes after I put up my train.
10. The pastor did a completely different sermon than one we discussed and we didn’t get to do our own vows. My only real regret about the whole thing. But at that point I was just ready to get down from the altar and be married already, so I didn’t speak up.
11. I loved the bouquets, but they didn’t last long because of the heat. None of them lived past the night, so no way of perserving them. 🙁 We tried valiantly to keep them refridgerated and in the AC but it was a losing battle.
12. Someone mistakenly put the IPOD on shuffle (there was a specific song order) when playing the reception music, so the wrong song came up for the father/daughter dance. The Best Man quickly corrected it for us though.
13. Our reception festivities started an hour late because my family didn’t show up until then and I refused to do the cake cutting without them. 😛 That being said, all the other guests weren’t bored as we were mingling, laughing, sharing stories, and exploring the beautiful mansion while waiting for them. We couldn’t start without them anyway because they were suppose to bring the drinks! (Wine and punch.)
14. We had a lot of no shows. Both the church and bed & breakfast has a maximum occupancy of 100 people. We invited 120 expecting some not to attend. We ended up with about 40 people out of the 60 who RSVPed “Yes”. Only my parents and my brothers showed up on my side of the family. Ouch. One of the groomsman had to move people to my side of the church so it wouldn’t look so empty. 🙁 Mr. Foolhardy and I share a lot of the same friends and unfortunately they all started to gather unwittingly on his side.
15. I didn’t find this out until later, but I think I was allergic to the metal of the antique costume jewelry that I borrowed for the wedding. I broke out in a rash on my neck and wrist where I worn the necklace and bracelet but I didn’t notice until the honeymoon. It was so beautiful and perfect though that I think I would still wear it again knowing this.
16. I’m embarrassed to admit that my dad was tipsy during the father/daughter dance (which I suspect is one reason they took so long to get the reception). He was acting really goofy which entertained my guests but made my cheeks redden in embarassment. You can tell in some pictures! I hope people just assume I’m flushed from the heat and all the dancing around. I’m not mad about it though. I’m glad he was having a good time.
17. Apparently, no one but my family knew to stand when my walked me down the aisle. I was so nervous that I didn’t notice! I had decided to keep my eyes on my future husband so I wouldn’t freeze up.
Um…I think that’s everything. I know it seems like a lot, but so many things did go right that what went wrong doesn’t really bother me. I still think we had a great wedding. I think we need a “What Went Right” thread so I can gush about the good things. 🙂