Post # 17
Keeping in mind that this is both my and my FI’s second wedding, everyone thought it a GREAT idea! So far, teh only people who are probably coming are our parents, my daughter, and immediate family (his siblings and my cousin). A very small group and I am very happy with that! This time around, I’m older, wider and more focussed on the purpose as opposed to the fanfare. I just didn,t feel like planning and organizing and details and hoopla. I just want to pack a bag, grab my honey and baby and fly away!
Post # 18
We are getting married in St. Thomas, USVI. We got very few gripes, most people were excited! However, before we came out with the announcement of our plans, we did talk to those closest to us, once they said they were on board we started planning!
We are also having a reception in our hometown, so we were sure to tell everyone that if they couldn’t make the wedding, we would love to celebrate with them upon our return!
Post # 19
It will be just us. My friends were pumped for us. Family was disappointed.
Post # 20
It was a second wedding for both of us so most people said good for you. We told people from the moment that we got engaged that we were going to have a Destination Wedding, we just didn’t know where. I did have people make some comments about it but no one realyl gave us grief about it.
Post # 21
FI’s parents were shocked, don’t think they actually believed us until we had signed the dotted line. My Mum was over the moon when we told her, thinks it’s a brilliant idea – so does the step dad. There has been mixed reactions from friends, majority are so excited. But one of my close friends are actually saving for her own wedding, I don’t expect her to make it, I’m just a bit sad that she won’t be there.
Fiance and I, on the other hand, just can’t wait to get out of the country and have a holiday on top of our wedding!! 🙂
Post # 22
For us, the Destination Wedding was never a question. My sis and her hubby live in Hawaii and my sis is a wedding coordinator there. But I still got some reactions from my family regarding my chosen date. it is 11-12-13, a Tuesday 2 weeks before Thanksgiving.
My dad said I should have it closer to Thanksgiving so people could come without taking their kids out of school. I told him 1)I have to work Thanksgiving, 2) I’m only inviting one couple with a school-aged kid (my uncle and aunt and their 12 year old son), 3)it wouldn’t be 11-12-13, and 4) it is busy season in Hawaii at Thanksgiving. I didn’t think anyone would be crazy about spending double or more.
My uncle (the one with the school-aged kid) called me the next day to congratulate me (sure that’s why he called!!) and to tell me he didn’t know if they could make it because his son will be in school and I gave him the same list of reasons why I wasn’t changing to near Thanksgiving. He said it would depend on my cousin’s grades whether they could come or not. I reminded him that they took him out of school for a week last year to go to Disney world.
I also think my Future Mother-In-Law was a little bummed because her and my FIs stepdad don’t have a lot of extra $$. I told her that they could stay at my sister’s house for free if they wanted to.
Aleeady tired of all the “why can’t you”‘s!!! I’ll tell you why we can’t…..BECAUSE WE DON’T WANT TO AND IT’S OUR WEDDING! So there!
Post # 23
People are generally nice and say it’s fun/exciting, but the most annoying comments to me are about money. I’ve gotten, “Yeah, transfer some of the expense to your guets!”, “Good idea, save some money!”, things like that. It’s annyoing because we’re definitely not saving any money by doing a Destination Wedding – it just allows us to spend more on the people we’re closer to, and we don’t have to cut as many corners. Anyway I think it’s rude!
Post # 24
Omg I know exactly what your talking about. My mom was telling her brother about our recent idea of wanting to have a Destination Wedding -who I really do love and hope he can make it. He said “oh are they doing it to save money” … “that’s better for them then”. What he doesn’t know is my fiance plans on footing the bill for flights and week long resort stay for both sets of parents and all our siblings. -_- Mind you, my fiance has 6 brothers and sisters plus a sister-in-law.
But yes, it was really annoying to hear he said that and it just made me shake my head and roll my eyes.
Post # 25
We had originally planned a Destination Wedding. My closest friends were really excited. My large family was ok with it (they’d do whatever they could to be there). His family completely flipped… His brother especially. Said we were selfish and they would never be able to afford it it. Meanwhile they give their 4 year old an ipod and a motorbike as gifts…. Anyway, Fiance was so down that I suggested we should let go of the idea and we’re now having an intimate wedding at home. Fiance got over it really quickly but I’m still pretty unimpressed with his brother’s attitude towards everything about the wedding (why can’t everything be as cheap and tacky as they did theirs??)
Post # 26
Aww I’m sorry to hear that. I would’ve been irked at the BIL’s reaction, also. Calling you guys selfish is totally uncalled for. I can understand him being upset about not wanting to spend the money to come to the wedding, whether he can afford to or not, but there are grownup ways to communicate this.
And it’s really none of his business if you wanted to get a 12 tier wedding cake bedazzled with Swarovski crystals!! Next time he brings up cost, I’d flat out ask him who’s paying for this wedding and why he cares how much it’s going to cost. It’s not like he needs to do anything other than show up. Some people are just miserable and enjoy ruining happy moments for others. Best advice is to ignore him. If he gets to be too much, have your fiancé tell him to cool it with the commentary.
Post # 27
Lots of people were excited. Some of my closest friends had reactions that actually hurt my feelings ranging from “ugh. I knew you would do that. It’s so like you to have a wedding nobody can attend” and “welp, hope you know I’m not even gonna attempt to come.” But…I guess that’s the price I pay for choosing a Destination Wedding. I expected some folks (even most folks) not to be able to make it, but the rudeness/selfishness caught me offguard.
Post # 28
My Fiance and I met and live in Los Angeles, but my family is from Boston and his is from Florida, essentially making It a Destination Wedding for at least one of our families no matter where we had it. We decided to have it in LA since this is where our life is. His family was pumped (I think they assumed they’d be traveling no matter where we had it). My family is not pumped, since it effectively rules out the older folks in my family from attending. I’m goin to try to compromise with a smaller party in Boston after the wedding…pursestrings willing. Our friends near and far are all excited for it.
Post # 29
Sept 14 2013 Oahu!
We wanted a destination wedding because we both have large families that regrettfully aren’t as supportive as we’d like them to be. My family is a bunch of flakes, and several members of his turn every family event into a meltdown.
We decided to do what was easy for us. And we invited those that have been supportive of us as a couple. Some family, a lot of friends, and mentors.
I just mailed our save the dates and have received some exciting feedback, but I’m sure there will be some “sore” people. I’m not stressing over it, and neither is my Fiancee. And we’re doind a dry wedding, he and I don’t drink very much… and those in our familes that do drink still act like high school… and over do it. =/
Post # 30
Ours is going to be about 3 hrs. away (across the state) from where most of my Fiance family lives. My Future Mother-In-Law of course had an opinion about this right away… surprise, surprise. She said that she thinks some people won’t come. For my family it is going to be across country!! I know most of my family will come. I told my Future Mother-In-Law that if people (meaning family in FL) use distance as an excuse that’s sad, and we wouldn’t want them there anyways. We knew when we started planning that we wanted this to be like a little getaway for everyone. We especially wanted it to be fun for people coming in from out of state, considering we live in a little redneck town, with nothing to do it needed to be else where. My family LOVED the idea, and has been nothing but excited and supportive. Many of our freinds that we have told are really excited. You’ll never be able to please everyone. Just do what you want!! 🙂
Post # 31
we had mixed reviews… some of our immediate family was excited, others tried to convince us to get married at home, and some older relatives were not impressed- their reponse was “Mexico is too dangerous” ha ha.
Some of the reactions were dissapointing, especially when people were not as excited as we were, but we realized that we are celebrating OUR love and a destination wedding is our dream; we shouldn’t change that to please everyone else.