What were the MOST and LEAST apreciated things your birthpartner did?

posted 2 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
3 posts
  • Wedding: September 2015

MOST appreciated: my labor was 46 hours and he was with me for every moment and every decision. He supported and encouraged but was never pushy or went against me if a decision had to be made (many decisions had to be made because  of course nothing went to plan)

LEAST: every time he nodded off between my contractions I wanted to smack him haha. Of course this was totally understandable and unreasonable for me to be upset about 😛  

Post # 4
1796 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

He was with me for over thirty hours of labor with an epidural that didn’t work, four hours of pushing, followed by an emergency section at 1am.

I don’t think he did anything that made me angry, he was a total champ. I felt nothing but love and support from him during that traumatizing time

Our first picture is in recovery after the section and we both had huge bags under our eyes hahaha. He went through the 30+ hours too, I’m so greatful for that.

Post # 6
1796 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

HappyCatLady :  

Some of the best came after. My hospital room had a white board where  you wrote down when the diaper was changed, if it was pee or poop, how long the baby nursed for and on which side, was it milk or colostrum.

Each time he walked into the hospital room when coming from home, he read the board first.

Not only did he love and support me, but he cared about the most important tiny human in my world.


Ugh, I’m feeling sappy, I was just going through files from our officient lol seeing this thread was a sap fest waiting to happen 😉

Post # 8
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Best – physically being there the whole time (except when sleeping).

Worst – Sleeping a lot while I was miserable. (see below)

erinej :  OMG.  Me too.  I got so pissed when my husband was sleeping while in labor.  He also slept for 12+ hours after our son was born.  Meanwhile I was nervous and sitting there trying to figure out a new baby (and recovering from birth) while he slept.  I was really bitter for a while.  

Post # 10
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Best: He rubbed my back during contractions, and calmed me down before my emergency c section after 24 hours of labor.

Worst: I was bored for hours prior to the contractions starting to hit hard (I was induced) and I wish he did a little bit more to entertain me and not just play on his phone.

But I agree with PP, that the best came after the baby was born. DH changed all of the diapers for the first few days, and helped me shower, go to the bathroom, etc while in the hospital.

Post # 12
587 posts
Busy bee

Two “best”: He ran after the nurse after I had stupidly declined an epidural and I got one soon afterwards.  He also brought me sandwiches with foie-gras and blue cheese for dinner after I gave birth. As for the rest, there was just nothing for him to do – he just felt powerless, since he was seeing me in pain, but was incapable to do anything. To me, this is why for ages, childbirth was women’s thing.

Post # 13
5184 posts
Bee Keeper

HappyCatLady :  

most appreciated: being there the entire time.

least appreciated: when he had to go eat…and I couldn’t 🙁

Post # 14
1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

MA: Rubbed my back for like 20 hrs straight!  Also, did not tell me my blood presure numbers when they got too low. 

LA:  He kept asking if I was having a contraction.  After like the 20th time YES!!.  I was getting so mad!

Nothing went by plan and I had to get a C-section but it was all worth it in the end. 

Post # 15
5069 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Our little guy is just 3 days old today and unfortunately he’s stuck in the hospital for a week getting antibiotics without us knowing what’s wrong (caught well before we took him home though!). My husband has been great throughout.

he did have to do some work calls early on due to his job line but that was okay. He was so determined to stay with me that he nearly passed out from not eating and had to run out midway through my epidural, poor guy, but came back as soon as he could. He tried to remind me to relax where I’d crunched up muscles, never let me go. And then, poor thing again, the midwife had him hold up one of my legs for pushing. Neither of us had anticipated that! He’s seen things he’ll never unsee… we thought he’d be by my head and he definitely didn’t want to be down there but just rolled with it.

additionally he raged when our guy was diagnosed with an infection and fretted more than I did, paced the room like a caged animal, changed diapers, went to work only after I talked him into it, brings me treats and worries about what I’m eating to keep the milk healthy. We are going home ourselves tonight (wah) and he’s talking about us taking turns overnight at the hospital so our guy sees at least one of us every night. He’s being a great dad, I can’t complain about a thing!

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