(Closed) What were your dress deal breakers?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I told the consultant no pickups, no beading in weird patterns, no mermaids, and I wanted a natural waist. She insisted I try on all of the above and seemed confused at why I hated all those dresses :/. I ended up with a satin A-line with a rhinestone sash and rhinestone-beaded neckline.

Post # 33
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

-NO BOOBS!  I hate it when too much cleavage shows in dresses

-No corset backs

-no lace or mermaids (nothing “country”), those dresses are too common IMO

-nothing white

Post # 34
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

No lace, no straps, no ballgowns, no pickups, and nothing heavy.

Post # 35
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

No strapless,, no ballgown, no tulle, no pick ups, no stark white.

Post # 36
9566 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

no mermaid

no ruching

no asymetrical

no sweetheart / strapless

no straps

no ballgown

no satin or silk or tafetta

no visible corsets or corset backs


Post # 37
2113 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Saria213:  No beading/bling. I fidget and pick at my clothing, especially when nervous. Half would be gone before I got down the aisle. My dress is covered in sequins, but they’re all underneath a layer of tulle so I can’t get to it. 

No empire/natural waist gowns. Empire makes me look pregnant and my boobs are so big and torso so short that natural waist looks like empire. Same problem.

No cupcake poof in the skirt. A full skirt is good, but I want to be able to put my arms all the way down.

Post # 38
2076 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Hey, I gave everything a fair try! I’ve tried every possible dress from ballgown to mermaids to modified trumpet. I just looked funny; trying to play dress-up. Laughing So much for liking dresses online only to find out that they looked funny on me!

No strapless; I have bat wings… nana nana nana nana nana nana and didn’t want to keep pulling my dress up.
No corset-back; if I wanted a corset-backed dress, I would be approaching a corsetier to custom-make a wedding corset and dress — not a bridal dress store
No asymmetrical skirts (It will drive me CRAZY)
No trumpet or fitted skirts for a wedding dress; I am a natural klutz. I don’t need any further encouragement from a wedding dress to fall down while walking down the aisle — like in AFV (America’s Funniest Home Videos)!

Sadly, blingy dresses like Maggie Sottero was a NO.

No belts.

No to too much dress!
(I’m petite and can’t wear excessively high heels. I loathed the thought of having to spend $$$$ on alterations. If I had to alter the dress, I’d be better off getting it custom-made.)

Example of a really really beautiful dress, but would look a lot better on somebody else:


Post # 39
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

No pickups, no tulle, no taffeta, no halters, no mermaids, no trumpets, no fitted A-lines, no feathers, no shiny fabric, no sleeves, nothing too plain – I wanted a ton of bling!

Post # 40
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Oh I had so many

NO: strapless, ballgown, satin, backless, asymmetry, ‘rosettes’, one shoulder, drop waist, white, diamond white, pickups, sashes, tea length, colored embroidery, tons of beading, all over lace, poof of any kind, too much chest exposed. 

My overall goal was to avoid all dresses that someone would buy ‘because I want to feel like a princess’. The whole princess thing creeps me out. 

Post # 41
2949 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I said a big NO to the following:

white/ivory/cream – any colour that is considered to be traditional
shiny fabrics
long trains
high necks
empire waist
strapless designs
horizontal ruching or visible horizontal lines
halter necklines
satin – so unforgiving lol
sheer panels
any dress that I found too simple or plain for my taste

And I didn’t end up with a gown with any of the aforementioned

Post # 42
2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


backless – I need to wear a bra

empire – makes me look pregnant…

sheath – not right for my body


I chose a dress with ruching and ruffles, and I never thought that’s what I’d pick! I also found I like some bling on dresses when I thought I didn’t. So you might surprise yourself!

Post # 43
2841 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Mine were:

Not strapless

Not poofy

No ballgowns or full a-lines

No overly fitted dresses e.g. mermaids

Not shiny

Minimal bling

No pickups

No ruffles

Not white, ivory, champagne, gold or any typical bridal colour.

Yeah, I pretty much deal-broke myself out of the entire salon with that list.

Post # 44
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

  • No strapless
  • No corsets
  • No puffy skirts
  • no cleavage
  • no bows or “cutesy” stuff

Most of my search was in designer eveningwear as  opposed to bridal, because my trips to bridal salons were mostly frustrating (it’s hard to go with the above list at a bridal salon!) I am so happy that in the end I stuck to my guns and found the perfect dress.

Post # 45
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@Lollybags:  +1 to the bling. some consultants tried to force me into these very blinged out dresses and tried convinving me i wouldnt stand out if I didnt “sparkle”.  Looking at some of the ladies here in their non-bling dresses really reassured me also!

Post # 46
39 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

Might sound weird, but my deal breaker was anything that looked like a wedding dress. So basically everything. I’m wearing an infinity dress, usually seen on BMs. 

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