- 5 years ago
My fiance and I are considering going to the courthouse, we’re about 4 months away from the wedding. It would save us a couple hundred bucks on insurance (domestic partnership vs. marriage), and we could get the immigration process started (I live and legally work here even though I’m not a resident). Then we could start looking for a home (I just don’t feel 100% comfortable buying one before we’re married legally).
He says that a wedding is a wedding is a wedding and he doesn’t really see the point of our later ceremony and wedding (which is small btw, 10 guests that are all very close friends and family, at a cabin in the mountains and a pretty church there) if we go to the courthouse now. I’m from Europe where you have to go to the courthouse before doing the religious ceremony, since the priest is not a legal officiant. So I don’t have a problem with that, but he seems to not be quite sure about it.
I’ve encountered his position in many people here in the US. So I want to ask other bees who have done what we’re considering – why did you do it? Was it something like deployment, or another reason like what we’re considering?