Post # 1
For bees who have already had their weddings, what would you change about the day of? it can be anything from tiny details to bigger things. Too much money spent on certain areas and not others? Too large/small a venue? Hated your hair? Anything
Post # 3
Not greeting every table. It’s something I still think about and feel bad about. People started getting up from their tables earlier than we expected so we didn’t make it to all of them. We tried to mingle as much as possible but I wish we had planned that part out a bit better.
ETA: One more thing (but it doesn’t really bug me anymore). I wish that our reception was in one room. Our venue was gorgeous but the bar and photo booth were out in the lounge area (separate from the dance floor) so some people sat out there instead of dancing.
Post # 4
@Gabthebee: I have been married a few weeks and I am just now getting over the things I regret about my wedding day.
I wish I would have been EXTREMELY specific about everything I wanted, particularly with the venue. I think I was afraid of coming across as a bridezilla so I was a little more laid back than I usually am. As a result, (almost) NOTHING went as planned.
I wish I would have stopped to take more posed pictures. My photographer only took a handful (that’s a whole different story!) but I didn’t think to stop and take casual posed pictures with my family and friends and hardly took any with my husband. I am devestated by this.
I wish I would have invited fewer children and fewer people I felt I “had to” invite and invited more of the people I wanted to be there. This is only a problem if you have limited space and lots of future in-laws.
Lots of wishes and “woulda, shoulda, couldas” but it was still a beautiful day and I had a great time. Just wish I had the pictures to prove it!
Post # 5
@Gabthebee: Not getting pictures with everyone i wanted!!!
I posted on here before saying its a great tip to tell people who you want pictures with beforehand to make it happen on that day. (ie. special aunt, cousin, friend, etc). People almost get “shy” and dont ask because they feel you have other things going on. Also, tell bridesmaids sig others/date ahead of time to capture moments of you with their love one/date. They won’t forget because they dont have anything else to remember, and you will forget because the day goes by sooo fast.
Post # 6
I wish I was more relaxed, and enjoyed the moment more. It all went by really fast.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I don’t have too too many regrets but this might help you decide what to do…
– double checking seating assignments. 2 people didn’t have seats because a combination of me and teh DOC messed up
– chatting with more people during the reception. I didn;t even say hi to like 15 people!! I’m embarrased about this
– having the money to extend the reception. 5 hours total was WAY too short. In hindsight $850 would have been too much but I wish we culd have spring for it!
– checking in earlier to the hotel to enjoy some nice moments with the BMs. Time FLIES and I wish I could have relaxed a little more
– I wish we didn’t do the parent dances. They were enormously awkward and unnecessary.
Post # 8
Not too long ago, many things about the wedding bothered me even though the day really was beautiful.
– I was pressured into not having a completely outdoor wedding and I really wish I wouldn’t have let myself be pressured and just did what we wanted to do. I absolutely didn’t want have our reception in a ballroom and even though the ballroom wasn’t a typical ballroom, it still wasn’t what we wanted.
– I wish I didn’t gain weight before the wedding. I was at my goal weight but then gained about 10 pounds. This made my dress a little tight and muscle toned body was not noticeable anymore. I was pissed.
– I wish we could have had more flowers. And also, I’m not sure why there were so many cement bricks behind our beautiful arch. It was a windy day but couldn’t they have used something else to support it instead of the bricks? It was a big eye sore.
– I also wish that the tables would have been set up exactly the way we asked but they weren’t. They weren’t completely terrible but they weren’t what we asked.
– I wish we would have had enough money to hire our own photography instead of the one my dad chose. I really dislike our photos and she was extremely rude and pushy on our wedding day. She also rushed me all day to fit in photos, not fun.
– I wish we had money for more decorations, different linens, chargers, and chiavari chairs.
Post # 9
My main regret, three years later, was not being clear with the pastor about the type of ceremony I wanted. I assumed it would be about love, appreciation, honoring the gift of finding someone who cherishes you… and he went for the laughs instead, which was not at all what I had in mind.
Post # 10
Not doing a proper rehearsal. My vendors were like, “Meh, it’s pretty straight forward, you don’t need to”, well ya for them b/c they do this everyday. The processional song we rehearsed to ended up being a longer version than the one the dj used.. um awkward b/c I wasn’t all the way down the aisle when the music ended, then he tried to restart it and it played the first few notes of recessional music. Grrrrr. That was the one thing that really pissed me off .
Not taking my dress back for one more alterations to make the top fit perfectly.
Post # 11
@HappinessIsInDaisies: +1. That is GREAT advice. Wish I would have thought about that before my wedding day!
Post # 12
My only real regret was that in the excitment of the day, my husband forgot to make his thank you speech. So many people were so wonderful and did so much for us, it is upsetting they didn’t get a public thank you
Post # 13
I wish I hadn’t let my family drama ruin my moment. My sister (who was also my MOH) and I had gotten into a argument during my rehearsal dinner the night before. The argument itself was stupid and I wished I would have just let it go, but at that moment, I was pissed! My mother then got involved and let’s just says I was backed into a corner. I spent the night before my wedding in my hotel room alone and crying myself to sleep. To make matters worse, the morning of my wedding was SUPER awkward between the three of us! So instead of having that moment of excitement and joy, I spent the morning trying to avoid the two of them.
I also wished I would have enjoyed the days leading up to the wedding. We did a destination wedding in Vegas with 30 family and friends and that was not easy. We spent 4 days in Vegas and I never left the hotel because I had so many people wanting too many things from me. My husband and I never got a moment alone to enjoy ourselves.
Post # 14
My wedding was Saturday and it was PERFECT, the only things that I regret are that I didn’t ask my aunt to bring my cousin to the hotel to get pictures. My niece was there but we thought we’d be arriving to the ceremony site at 11 and didn’t get there until 12 so the photographer took photos of my niece but not my cousin. My other regret is that I didn’t get a photo of just us and our dog/ring bearer. He started acting up a little bit so after the ceremony someone took him on a walk so the only photos we have are him walking up the aisle. My husband would say his regret is that there are not photos of just me in the gardens, I could care less since I feel this day was about us and not me. My last regret is that I didn’t know my aunt and uncle like “line dances” (like cha cha slide) so we only played one and by the time they asked us to play another it was time to leave.
Post # 15
I just wanna say thanks to the married bees this thread is really helpful! Oh man not getting the photos I want is a huge fear of mine. I guess I will have to just try and make a really clear list gor the photographer since our family sees each other once every like 5 years.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
My regrets are;
I wish we would have gotten a better video camera for the wedding or at least shown people how to use it properly. I am super glad that we have some video so that I can watch it, but a better quality camera would have made a big difference.
I wish I had tried our signature cocktail, but it completely slipped my mind….I also wish I had more poutine as it was awesome but by the time I went to have some more it was all gone.
I wish I had done a full picture wish list for my photographer. I read so many posts on here that it is basically rude to send it to your photographer that I didn’t in the end and now, as I wait for our professional pictures, I keep thinking of all these great ideas I had that I completely forgot about on the day.
I wish I had asked my best and oldest friend to be a bridemaid instead of one of the girls I did ask. We had a falling out a while back so was not on great terms during the planning but are back to being great friends now. She wasn’t able to come to the wedding and I really missed her and the friend I did ask turned out to be pretty in the run up and on the day…
I wished I had done my own make up. My MUA was fine and all but I didn’t feel like “wow”. I think I could have saved money and done it just as well myself.
I wish I would have remembered to bring my lovely sash for my reception dress. I never got to wear it.
This might look like a really long list but I also wanted to say that we had a perfect wedding! I was super worried about the officiant ahead of time as I had read some mixed reviews about him but he was absolutely AMAZING! Everyone was raving about it afterwards. I wasn’t convinced about doing a first look but LOVED it! I was also worried about my florist as she was not great at getting back to me during planning, but she also did an amazing job.