(Closed) What will change when you get married?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What should/will change for you after you get married?

    Your living situation (Move in together and/or own a home)

    Your contraceptive situation (Change it or stop using it to try for kids)

    Your intimacy situation (Start having it or do newer, weirder things ;D)

    Your priorities (SO comes first, always, in a way they didn't before marrying)

    Your recreation (No more long nights of drinking, no more impromptu travels)

    Your money (saving more, spending less, consulting before buying more than before)

    Nothing, things are perfect already

    Other

  • Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Absolutely nothing other than legal benefits. Your relationship with someone doesn’t suddenly change because you have signed a piece of paper!

    Post # 18
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    11226 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I voted nothing, but I guess that’s not true. I’ll change my name, and we’ll open a joint account. 

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My Fiance and I have lived together for 3.5 years now. Nothing will change for us other than filing taxes jointly.  Moving in together was a big commitment for us and it established our marriage. 

    Post # 20
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    368 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I voted other because my name is changing! Can’t wait to take his last name but that will be the only thing changing.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Bebealways:  For us, nothing. We joke that we are throwing an expensive name change party for me. Jk but you get the idea. We opened a joint checking & savings accounts when we got engaged. Its mostly for household bills and our savings is just savings. We are keeping our seperate checking accounts bc I have a Louis Vuitton & Nordstrom habit that doesnt concern him as long as our finances are in order – thats my fun money 🙂 

    I owned my home before we met so he moved in here about two years ago. We will start to try for kids maybe a year from now but we dont anticipate much change. We are older (29, 28) so I think we are pretty set in our ways of how we are as a couple. 

    Post # 22
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    1965 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Nothing except hyphenating my last name. We already live together,  share finances &  have a daughter. 

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee

    Everything! We’ll live together, spend holidays together, see each other everyday, share finances, make decisions together. Can’t wait!

    Post # 25
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    6257 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    We will get to wear wedding bands and call each other husband & wife. That’s about it

    Post # 26
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    2360 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    We will hopefully be living together in our OWN place (crossing my fingers I find a new job please please please), and intimacy will be better. And more. Because it’s OUR place and we will do what we damn well please thankyouverymuch. lol. And I’ll keep the pill but probably no other backups…

    We are actually going today to open a joint account! Well, probably. We have to see all the details but we’re working on that one! And we already do pretty much consult each other about finances. As far as social, I don’t see much changing. We go out sometimes and stay in sometimes!

    Post # 27
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We lived together prior to getting married.  Sooooo nothing.  I didnt change my name.

    Post # 28
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    8434 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My Fiance and I already live together and own our house.  We don’t ever want children, and our finances are already merged, so nothing is going to change for us except my last name.

     

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee

    Name change, combining finances, being able to go on lavish vacations with his family, always being called his wife instead of his “friend” – I don’t know why people do that sometimes even though we’ve been together for almost five years, filing our taxes together, legal rights, etc.

    Post # 30
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    993 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I am surprised at the amount of “nothing” answers!  I mean, I already live with Fiance and there will be minor things… putting funds together, changing our wills, my last name, etc.  But it is a pretty big emotional/mental change.  I do think of him as my life partner and number one but making that statement to our community and being his wife is different in my mind than our life now.  I’m seeing our engagement as a preparation for marriage, but its different.  Perhaps bees who don’t see it as much have been together for a long time.  

    Also, I hate the word fiance because I feel like its pretentious.  So I won’t have to use it anymore.

    So bees, if marriage doesn’t seem to change anything what prompted you to get married?

     

    Post # 31
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    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    the only thing that will change is my name really. we already act like an is married couple lol. we don’t go out drinking a lot anymore, we have been really good at saving and already joined our bank accounts, and we always put each other first 🙂 hopefully our living situation will be resolved before the wedding- we are living together at my parents now since i got laid-off, but we used to have our own place when i had a job.

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