(Closed) What will you name kids if you are each keeping your own name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
  • poll: What will you/did you name your kids?
    Hyphenate both our last names : (2 votes)
    8 %
    My name middle, his name last : (5 votes)
    20 %
    His name middle, my name last : (0 votes)
    His last name only : (14 votes)
    56 %
    My last name only : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Other.... : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @laurelina: This is actually what made me decide to hyphenate my last name rather than completely keep my maiden name. I wanted us to have a sense of unity. 

    Everyone I grew up with that had a mother who went by her maiden name took their father’s name.

    I was talking to a woman at the grocery store (random, I know- lol) that said their female children took her name, while their male children took the father’s name. 

     

    Post # 5
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    3255 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @laurelina: Yeah, I found the option empowering as a feminist but also very confusing for others. 🙂 lol

    Post # 6
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I had a hyphenated last name as a kid and it got really confusing, probably because my parents weren’t very consistent. Some places I’d be registered under my mom’s last name, other times under my dad’s, and some places both. When I was 12 or so I decided to just go by my dad’s last name, though my mom’s is still one of my legal middle names.

    When my husband and I have kids, they’ll probably have his last name and my last name as a legal middle name. I think I’m OK with that, but we’ll see! I might feel differently later.

    Post # 7
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    2406 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We’re planning to use my last name as the children’s middle name and DH’s last name as the children’s last name. It’s tradition in my father’s family to use the mother’s maiden name as middle names, even when the mother changes her name. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I had a Prof that got married and his wife kept her name.  She named the girl her last name, the boy his last name.  I kept my last name and Darling Husband took it, so our kids will have it.  Ye-ah.

    Post # 9
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    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would want to give them my name but I’m sure that would be a huge fight so I’d probably let them have their fathers name.

    Post # 10
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    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I actually have no idea. My name is not very musical (it’s German – booya!) but it’s mine and sounds good with my first name so I kept it. But I’m not sure what I want to do about the future kidlets. Our names don’t sound so great together (his is Irish, I am jealous) so I’m not sold on hyphenation or double barrell. His name alone sounds great with pretty much any first name, mine alone does not. But I think I would be kind of sad if my name weren’t in there somewhere! 

    So, many options, none of which I’m too crazy about. Boo. 

    Post # 11
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    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Not having kids – but I’d probably give them four names:  first, middle, my last, his last.

    Post # 12
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    132 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My only problem with hyphenating is..what if your future kids want to hyphenate when they get married? What happens? They’re Mr. and Mrs. Johnson-Brown-Smith-Jones? AWKWARD.

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