Post # 1
Just curious on what people plan to do. Among my friends I’ve seen a hyphenated name, mom’s last name as the middle name, or just dad’s last name and no mom’s last name anywhere.
My FI’s mom didn’t change her name, and she actually told me once that she wished they had given the kids her last name. It made me think about why so few people do that, even if the wife keeps her last name. Is anyone planning on doing it this way?
Post # 3
@laurelina: This is actually what made me decide to hyphenate my last name rather than completely keep my maiden name. I wanted us to have a sense of unity.
Everyone I grew up with that had a mother who went by her maiden name took their father’s name.
I was talking to a woman at the grocery store (random, I know- lol) that said their female children took her name, while their male children took the father’s name.
Post # 4
@brideatbeach: Yeah, I considered hyphenation for a minute, but it would result in a triple-alliteration for me which is just too much!
I actually think the girls taking mom’s name and boys taking dad’s name is kind of a cool idea but I can see where it would get extra confusing. And I wouldn’t want one kid to feel weird about getting one parent’s name vs. the other’s.
Post # 5
@laurelina: Yeah, I found the option empowering as a feminist but also very confusing for others. 🙂 lol
Post # 6
I had a hyphenated last name as a kid and it got really confusing, probably because my parents weren’t very consistent. Some places I’d be registered under my mom’s last name, other times under my dad’s, and some places both. When I was 12 or so I decided to just go by my dad’s last name, though my mom’s is still one of my legal middle names.
When my husband and I have kids, they’ll probably have his last name and my last name as a legal middle name. I think I’m OK with that, but we’ll see! I might feel differently later.
Post # 7
We’re planning to use my last name as the children’s middle name and DH’s last name as the children’s last name. It’s tradition in my father’s family to use the mother’s maiden name as middle names, even when the mother changes her name.
Post # 8
I had a Prof that got married and his wife kept her name. She named the girl her last name, the boy his last name. I kept my last name and Darling Husband took it, so our kids will have it. Ye-ah.
Post # 9
I would want to give them my name but I’m sure that would be a huge fight so I’d probably let them have their fathers name.
Post # 10
I actually have no idea. My name is not very musical (it’s German – booya!) but it’s mine and sounds good with my first name so I kept it. But I’m not sure what I want to do about the future kidlets. Our names don’t sound so great together (his is Irish, I am jealous) so I’m not sold on hyphenation or double barrell. His name alone sounds great with pretty much any first name, mine alone does not. But I think I would be kind of sad if my name weren’t in there somewhere!
So, many options, none of which I’m too crazy about. Boo.
Post # 11
Not having kids – but I’d probably give them four names: first, middle, my last, his last.
Post # 12
My only problem with hyphenating is..what if your future kids want to hyphenate when they get married? What happens? They’re Mr. and Mrs. Johnson-Brown-Smith-Jones? AWKWARD.