What will your guests actually remember?

posted 4 months ago in Guests
Post # 16
249 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - City, State

pinkdolphin :  

1. the food for sure. I remember when it was delicious or when it was very bad (or cold. It happened)

2. The setting of the venue (indoor, outdoor, etc) more than the decorations. Also how comfortable the venue was. Went to a wedding that had a dancefloor in an area that became hotter and hotter as the night went. Horrible.

3. How bad/good/long the speeches were. Went to weddings with TERRIBLE speeches. Still remember that

4. Where we were seated during dinner and with whom. Particularly when we travelled a long way and ended up sitting with randos instead of people we knew. I still remember those, i thought it was poor form

Post # 17
63 posts
Worker bee

pinkdolphin :  The overwhelming thing I remember from the weddings I’ve been to is the atmosphere of happiness and love. It’s amazing to spend several hours envelopes in that. I remember the incredible joy and emotion of the couple and think back fondly years later. I remember the food if it was unique or spectacular. I remember the favors. I have a succulent from my aunt and uncle’s wedding still growing on my patio and it’s very meaningful to me. 

Post # 18
1978 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Food, months after our wedding guests were still talking about how good our food was. We heard this from nearly every guest.

Anything weird. So if you have embarrassing speeches or anything cringy then I’ll remember that. My sister was an hour late to her wedding, the best man did the worst speech and unfortunately she provided NO seating for old people during a very long cocktail hour. Also alcohol didn’t come out with canapes for ages! We went up to the restaurant to get alcohol and then her wedding venue got the message. Things like that. 

Post # 19
844 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

As a guest I specifically remember how classy and happy the bride and groom was at the end of the day. If there’s food, that’s always a plus. I don’t remember any other detail all that much tbh. 

Post # 21
531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

What I remember is food if it was amazing or if it sucked. If it’s in the middle I forget it. I remember things like having to wait around for two hours to eat (twice last summer) because the venue is an all in one out in the country, nowhere to go, and for some reason they scheduled that much time in between ceremony and dinner. The last wedding I was at I’ll remember because the bride’s uncle, usually kind of a hardass, officiated and was tearing up during and it was really emotional and touching. Venue as well if it’s really amazing or if it’s crappy, got to go to an outdoor wedding/reception on the California Coast and it was gorgeous. Basically I remember extremes. Really good or really bad. 

ETA: one wedding I was at started an HOUR late. That’s pretty memorable as well. 

Post # 24
376 posts
Helper bee

For me absolutely the vows.

Then, it’s if they did anything different or if it was just the SAME wedding I have been to 50 times before. Is it just whatever todays popular music is played way too loud and dancing, because to me thats boring. I know I am in the minority, many people love that, I just dont. 

Post # 25
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I always remember the venue. 

I remember the food when it’s excellent, or when it’s served cold. 

I usually remember the bride’s dress.

I remember speeches if they felt too long or if someone (usually the best man) said something awkward.

sapphire27 :  I admittedly also remember when vows are less about the vows (i.e. promises for the marriage) and more gushing about how much they love the other person, how they always knew they were one, and other relationship humblebrags that sound more like they’re for the benefit of the speaker than their partner. I remember a groom telling his partner of 10 years that he’s wanted to marry her since they were 16, and I remember hoping my SO doesn’t say anything like that. 

Post # 26
9444 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Food/alcohol, the venue, if it was exceptionally boring (my cousin’s wedding they literally did 2+ hours of speeches…I left at 9:00 and they were still talking).

I honestly remember very little of the actual ceremonies lol.

Post # 27
1978 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018


pinkdolphin :  : keep the speeches brief. We only had groom, father of bride and best man. I only said a few words.

The best man is usually the embarrassing one and treats it like a 21st speech

Post # 28
555 posts
Busy bee


Food and cocktails

Overall vibe and ambiance

Post # 29
2139 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

pinkdolphin :  I tend to remember almost everything except for decorations/small details. I don’t remember color scheme or bridesmaids dresses. But dress, vows/ceremony, music, food, venue, and atmosphere all stick in my mind forever. 

I get judgy about speeches that are too long/inside jokey. And if the bride/groom dont greet/speak to each guest. 

Post # 30
543 posts
Busy bee

Honestly? I’ve been to dozens and dozens of weddings and I remember basically nothing from any of them, with the few exceptions of something going terribly wrong (member of bridal party fainting during ceremony, super homophobic comments) 

They were all lovely but………weddings are all kind of similar. I don’t remember the clothes somebody wore once a decade ago, or the kind of chicken I ate, or who used buttercream. You’d have to do something pretty weird to be memorable.

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