(Closed) What Worries You the Most??

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: what makes you worry the most?
    money--(loans, debts, paycheck-to-paycheck, it's just not enough sometimes!) : (61 votes)
    36 %
    family/friend--(crazy parents, in-laws, relatives? worries about kids or siblings or grandparents?) : (21 votes)
    12 %
    home repairs--(car needs work, AC is busted, fridge is on the fritz...it's always something here!) : (6 votes)
    4 %
    school--(will I ever finish? will I ever go back? will my grades be up to par?) : (19 votes)
    11 %
    job--(can't find one, need a better one, have one that is unreliable/unstable/not enough hours) : (34 votes)
    20 %
    pets--(dog/cat is sick, old, in need of something. just pitiful and worries me to death!) : (4 votes)
    2 %
    economy--(what's going to become of us??) : (12 votes)
    7 %
    living situation--(house won't sell, need a bigger/smaller/better place, can't get a loan to buy) : (10 votes)
    6 %
    marriage--(it's tough, but no one ever told me it was going to be this tough) : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    finding a job where So lives, getting engaged to SO, finding an apartment with SO (hopefully Fiance by then)… all by October. AHHH. Oh, and graduating from my master’s program.

    Post # 6
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    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    I’m getting anxious just looking at this list. LoL

    Post # 6
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    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Actually, I can pick several things off this list. 🙁  That’s probably bad.

    Post # 7
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    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsDrRose612:  I suffer from anxiety as well. I have had a couple of panic episodes. It’s terrifying. But yeah… 2012 is a big year.  SO’s doing his Ph.D. so he’s living in a rural area where his school is..not exactly job-finding friendly… we shall see…. first step: graduate in August.

    Post # 8
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    3261 posts
    Sugar bee

    I worry the most about school (FI and I both want to get into an accelerated nursing program together) Its become a daily stressor, with excessive panic attacks. I guess the main thing to remember is to keep it cool, because nothing will get it done if you spend all your energy worrying. 

    Post # 10
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    You don’t have an “all of the above.” lol. I really could’ve written your post at certain points. I’ve never seen a shrink but I know that I am prone to anxiety and I can tell when it is weighing on me. And part of me thinks that it is irrational because the list of things that i genuinely worry about is so varied, and contains so many things I can’t control (such as money, my healthy, family’s health, my pet’s health, my job stability, my fi’s job stability, our general job happiness or lack thereof, whether one or both of us should switch careers, whether we’re prepared for a financial crisis, what is going to happen to this country, what if there was a natural disaster here, what if war broke out in america, what if what if what if). And I’d agree with you as well that it isn’t about my husband at all. Our relationship is the one thing I almost never stress about and is always the best part of my day. 

    I guess I don’t really have any advice for you. Maybe you should see someone about that xanax? I have very seriously considered getting a therapist because even though I feel like I function just fine in life, and I am a generally happy person, I know that my anxiety weighs on me to a level that is probably abnormal. Of course I haven’t taken my own advice here because I worry about the money…. lol. But your’e definitely not alone. For me at least, the thing that generally helps me the most is just identifying that a lot of what i’m feeling probably isn’t rational. If I can identify it as anxiety I can realize that for me, this period of heaviness will probably be relatively short-lived and then I can go about my merry way. 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    LOL, I had to pick just one? I picked money because that’s about the solution to all the rest of my worries! Our upcoming wedding depends almost entirely on me getting a big grant. I have to finish my dissertation proposal, study for a qualifying exam, get money for fieldwork for my dissertation, get married, do my fieldwork overseas, get my and my daughter’s visa to the US to join the boy, move to the US, get my daughter registered in school… all by the end of August :p

    You’re definitely not the only one with a lot on your plate and feeling really overwhelmed. Sometimes what I find works to calm me down (especially in the days/week after I’ve had a panic attack) is to completely unplug – put the computer away, don’t pick up the phone, have a bath or read or get a massage or go for a long walk. Just something that’s just you, that you don’t really need to think about. I’m one of those people who finds it really hard to clear my head when I’m worried, so sometimes the only thing that works is to remove myself from anything that might get my worries started again, if that makes sense. Hope you feel better soon!

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Ugh, I would constantly be in a state of worry if I didn’t watch it.  I worry about anything and everything but I’ve really made a conscious effort to figure out if my worries are genuine and something I can address now, or something that is beyond my control.  If it’s the latter, I am pretty good about putting it out of my head once I’ve come to that conclusion.

    Our big worry now is where we’re going to live next year.  My British/Aussie Darling Husband and I are ready to leave Australia and are tossing up the UK, US, and Canada.  The UK and Canada would be through work, which would be great, but the US would be starting anew for him career wise.   We also know we’ll disappoint one side of the family – his is in the UK, mine is in the US, and that worries us.  We also have a new baby arriving in June so that worries us too, not knowing where we’re going to be!   All big worries, but we’re not fixating on them now as they’re beyond our control.  No point in looking for jobs now as we’re not planning on moving for at least another 9 months.  No point in stressing about the extended families as we’ll have to make this decision based on the best job prospects for Darling Husband.  And no point in worrying about moving with the baby because it’s just something we’ll have to do.

    And with that, I have put my worries out of my head for right now!  Good luck taking everything one day at a time!

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