Post # 1
My fiance have been tossing around the idea of simply serving hors d’oeurves, drinks, and dessert at our wedding. Mainly because our food options at our venue are crazy high. If we want to do food, drinks, alcohol and dessert at our wedding we’re looking at $8,000 easy before taxes and gratuity. We originly thought we could work this but now we can’t. So instead of cutting loved ones from the guest list we thought we’d serve, what our venue considers, hors d’oeurves and it wouldn’t be a big deal since our families are use to going to weddings where turkey sandwiches, meatballs, veggie trays, etc. are the actual meal.
If this is what we end up doing should we set our ceremony time a little later (say 6:30 instead of 5:00) and make a mention of what’s being served on our invitation that way we can be sure our guests will have hopwfully had a small meal before attending?
Post # 3
I think you’ll get mixed answers here, bc some bees are very traditional and others are more laid back and answers based on where you are located. But I would say even maybe a little later, like 7-then you can be sure that most folks have had time to go eat or have a snack before coming(?) but it’s really up to you and you pobably have a feel for what your guests will be comfortable with-more than anyone. More and more people are doing this or having a dessert reception (I think it’s a really cute idea, and creative way to cut costs, but since we had family traveling, we felt obligated to feed them etc).
Post # 4
We’re just trying to figure out the perfect time that will allow most people to eat a light meal but it won’t be too late for people(the older crowd) to come out and celebrate without being exhausted or leaving after an hour.
Part of me feels like we should have some big fancy dinner since it’s at a country club but if we do that we couldn’t offer our guests anything else. With the hors d”oeurves mini hot browns,tea sandwiches, veggie/fruittrays will be served which is what most of our families are use to and by doing that we’ll be able to have a huge dessert bar and serve lots of drinks. So we’d go from and $8000 full dinner with no alcohol to a $2000 hors d’oeurves, dessert, and drinks dinner.
Post # 5
You could do late, like 7pm or after, or you could do an afternoon ordeal at 2 or 3. Afternoon might be easier, since lunch time is generally less flexible than dinner time. Most everyone considers lunchtime to be 12 noon, but some families eat dinner at a bunch of different times.
On the invite, instead of just having “reception to follow” like most do, you could say, “Hors d’oeurves reception to follow”… simple and to the point. Most guests will figure out that they need to be prepared for less than a full meal, but to also not completely stuff themselves beforehand.
Post # 6
@mepayne: I agree. Make sure the ceremony and reception are in “non-eating times” and that it’s clear on the invitation.
Post # 7
I think a 6:30 or 7pm wedding would be good for that option.
We are having a 3pm wedding and serving light refreshments afterward. But ince you plan to have alcohol, the night time is definitey best!
Do keep in mind, though…the later your ceremony, the later you will be up and running that night. Don’t want to be TOO exhausted when you get home…if you know what I mean. 😉