(Closed) What would be the positive for him?

posted 7 months ago in Relationships
Post # 4
47148 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You sound like you are making his excuses for him.

1. You could get an entirely new space to share.

2. If having dinner and breakfast with you would drain him emotionally, maybe he’s not the partner you need.

3. Making joint decisions is part of the joy of a serious relationship. Having someone to consult, bounce ideas off of, share the responsibility etc

4. You would also be contributing financially, so his costs should go down.

Live your life on your own calendar.

Post # 5
748 posts
Busy bee

The positives should be that he WANTS to do all that because he loves you and WANTS to share his life with you as his partner. If it’s a negative to have you around then that’s a huge issue.

Post # 7
6672 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

lauralaura123 :  Your line of thinking is very strange. Are you trying to convince yourself of something here? Maybe that he truly does love you but living together makes no practical sense? Because it all sounds like absolute bullshit.

He should WANT to be with you. The fact is, he doesn’t. He’s told you both directly and indirectly. 

Post # 8
4908 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I think she’s trying to understand why he doesn’t want to live with her, trying to understand his perks of living alone

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