(Closed) What would do if you received jewelry you didn’t really like?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What would you do if you received jewelry from your SO that you didn't really like?
    Keep it! It will forever remind you of SO's thoughtfulness : (36 votes)
    48 %
    Exchange it! SO wanted to give you something and doesn't REALLY mind if you exchange it : (34 votes)
    45 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    that’s a tough situation. i voted to exchange it, but you have to approach it delicately. obviously he’s feeling a little insecure about his purchase because he keeps telling you that you can take it back if you want. i would try to explain it by saying something like you think these are beautiful, but you’d rather have something you can wear everyday to remind you of him. his feelings might be a little hurt, but maybe you can go together to pick out the new pair so he’s involved?

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    What I would do depends on the quality of the jewelry.  If it was relatively inexpensive costume/novelty jewelry, I’d keep it and try to let it grow on me and find some way to work it into outfits (I have done this with some of FI’s purchases).  But if it were fine jewelry, and it cost a substantial amount of money, I’d let Fiance know how beautiful I found it and how much I loved certain qualities of the jewelry (ie, the quality of the stone, the style of the earring, whatever), but that I thought I’d get a lot more wear out of if it were something more to my tastes.  If he spend a good chunk of change on it, I’d assume that he’d want me to love it and get as much wear out of it as possible!  So basically, I’d tell him how appreciative I was, and tell him how beautiful I found it, but let him know that I’d like to consider exchanging it for something I’d wear more often, and of course ask him to accompany me on the selection process so he feels his opinion is valued and we can both agree that we like the new gift.  Let him down gently.  It’s a lose-lose if you don’t really wear the jewelry because it’s not quite for you, and then in a few months a hurt Darling Husband asks why you never wear his gift!

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    honestly, i would just wear them. you’ll probably grow to love them because they’re something he picked out just for you.

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    For certain jewelry (and gifts in general) I think it’s easier to just smile, say thank you, and keep your mouth shut. Given what he spent on them (I am assuming based on what you wrote) I would say something like, “They are lovely but I can’t stop thinking about those studs.” He has already given you the go ahead to exchange them so take him up on it since you can actually get what you want. You will get what you want and he can see you enjoy them, which is probably what he wants too.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I say exchange them. You don’t like them and he said exchange them if you want. FH has bought me some really ugly jewelry before and I didn’t say anything. Oh how I regret thatl. I still have a rhinestone and plastic kitty necklace that FH paid WAAAY to much for, now 3 years later I’ve never worn it and he even admits its ugly and wishes I would have taken it back and gotten something I liked.

    Post # 8
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think you should exchange them.  In the short term, your Darling Husband may be a littel hurt but he has told you that you are welcome to do so.  In the long run, your Darling Husband is going to be much happier seeing you wear a pair of earrings you love than having the first ones he picked out sitting in a jewelery box, barely touched.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Every relationship is different but I have always been very open with my husband about jewelery. I remember for our year anniversary he picked out this lovely pandora bracelet. It meant so much to me that he picked it out himself! I don’t wear braclets much but it was SO pretty and I started wearing it. The problem was, that it was constantly pulling at the hairs on my arm and was very uncomfrotable. I felt bad, but told Darling Husband about it (he was then just BF). We returned it and ended up going to another store where I picked out a gorgeous diamond and pink sapphire ring that I LOVE and wear all the time. Darling Husband has told me that if he’s spending a substantial amount of money on something, he wants me to love it! Which is why we went engagement ring shopping so often. And he took me with him to get my Christmas present because it was diamond studs and he wanted me to be happy with them. If your husband spent a significant amount of money on them and has said it’s alright if you exchange them, I would let him know how you’re feeling.

    Post # 10
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    Worker bee

    since he said it was okay if you wanted to exchange them, i would.  maybe you would grow to love them, but maybe not and why waste the money on something you may never like.  if it was inexpensive jewelry i would say keep it cause it’s not that big of a loss financially. 

    Post # 11
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    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I would exchange them. Lord knows my mother’s exchanged a ton of stuff my dad’s bought her on a whim, and he never takes it personally.

    I’d just keep it positive and say something along the lines of, “These are beautiful, but I think some simple diamond studs would be more my style, and since they’d go with everything, I’d be able to show them off a lot more!”

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    He gave you the go ahead and take them back, right?  He meant for you to wear and enjoy them, right?  He wouldn’t want them sitting unused in your jewelry box, right?

    Take them back and get yourself something you love and will wear!  It sure beats him asking why you don’t ever wear them and trying to find an excuse that sounds good enough!

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Exchange them. Darling Husband got me a ring for my wedding gift (ummm what was he thinking?!) which was a lovely thought, but maybe not the most well thought out. I was so scared to tell him, I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, but finally I broke down and told him I didn’t really love it and I didn’t picture myself wearing it very often and he took me to exchange it for something else. He wanted me to have a piece (I actually ended up with earrings and a necklace, so pieces) I would wear often and think of him and our wedding day. The ring itself was somewhat inconsequential. I’m sure he’ll understand and I would approach it delicately. Most guys though are all about value for $$ so I’m sure he’d rather you have something you would wear more!  😉

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I would exchange them since he offered and it’s just a birthday present.  I thik it’s a bit different to exchanging the ring.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee

    I vote exchange.  Don’t keep something you don’t love if it is a pricey/real piece of jewelry, ever!  It will only sit in a box, collecting dust (at least that is my motto!)

    I had a similar issue last year with my birthday gift.  My Darling Husband had bought me a watch which was exactly what I wanted – except I envisioned a simple, stainless Fossil and he picked out a beautiful (but pricey, as in half the cost of my ring) Swiss with diamonds and a pink mother of pearl face.  I never even put it on because it felt silly to have such an expensive watch for daily wear – it was my first watch, ever!  We discussed it and I ended up going to another store and looking for something similar to what he purchased, without the diamonds or colored face.  I wear it every day and next to my wedding ring, it is my favorite piece of jewelry.

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t know what I would do. SO bought a bracellet for me for my birthday a month ago and turned around and said…before I even opened the box he would take it and get something else if I didn’t like it..I’m more the sentimental type and no matter what it looked like it was from him. Only time I’ve taken it off since November was to sleep and shower. On the other hand my Dad bought me a bracellet for my birthday too, and I hated it but didn’t want to hurt his feelings so I wore it with a smile until mysteriously it started to pinch my wrist. (SMH).

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