(Closed) What Would Make You Break Up with FI? Morbid Curiosity

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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594 posts
Busy bee

Cheating (physical or emotional), abuse, neglect, animal cruelty, or if he wanted children (I’m childfree)

Post # 17
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Abusing me(sexually, physical etc) our  children or anyone else is NO. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

Cheating, abuse, if he killed someone

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Cheating or abuse. Those are about it.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

meekbee:  my dealbreakers: being a bum or unmotivated to do anything, caring less about the relationship than me, cheating or hating my parents/family.

Post # 21
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Cheating, any kind of abuse towards my kids or myself.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Cheating, hitting me or physically harming me, emotional abuse, purposely doing harm to another person or animal, lying about something really big. I think that covers just about all of the dealbreakers for me!

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

meekbee:  Cheating, lying and disrespecting me in any major way (little negative comments in arguments or white lies don’t count) and any type of abuse. 

Other than that I’m in it for the long haul! 

Post # 24
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Helper bee

meekbee:  cheating, or abuse, addiction (to a certain extent), and in some cases when the feeling is just not there anymore- but that would be after much effort to fix it.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

Nothing, unless he wasn’t willing to work on whatever the issue is. When I agreed to marry him I agreed to love him and spend my life with him, no matter what. There may be things that would make me leave (domestic violence?), but I never ever say “if he does this I will leave him.” i agreed to marry him, and I would be willing to try and work anything out to preserve our marriage. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Your coworker should cut her losses and run the other way before the wedding.  He sounds like my ex and by the time he had finished abusing and neglecting me I had lost my family, job, home and health.  The state removed me from my home with the clothes on my back because he was determined to be a danger to me.  My family was contacted and my parents took me in.  In the meantime my soon to be ex moved his girlfriend into my house that I was paying the mortgage on out of my savings!

As for the ideal marriage, listen to the old wedding vows: loving you and you alone and forsaking all others, cherishing you and honoring you enough to respect you and want to do his best to provide financial, emotional, physical and spiritual support. Everyone goes through periods of financial and physical ill health and we all grow older.  If your potential partner/spouse is unwilling to share in the good times and bad then do not commit to them.

I have learned my lesson and am now getting married  to a man that I love who fulfills all of these requirements.  I wish everyone else as much joy as I feel now.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by  delphinia. Reason: forgot a word
Post # 27
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Helper bee

As a child of multiple divorces from my parents, I’ve grown up knowing and feeling like the worst thing you can do to your loved ones is cheat on them, betray them, or abuse them emotionally and/or physically.

Post # 28
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Honey bee

 

Sex change operation.

Converting to a religion doctrinally opposed to our current faith system.

Mafia hits or other felonious activities.

 

Yeah, I’d definitely call off a wedding for any of those.

 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

MrsFiveOh:  For you does the devotion begin once engaged or after getting married? I think the lines start to get blurred once it’s official… that said, if I see major flags before tying the knot, I just might think twice :/

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Cheating, emotional, financial or physical abuse or if he was abusing drugs. I have a zero tolerance for all these things. There are others, but these are the main ones.

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