(Closed) What would you all do?

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: What Would You Do?
    Keep everything the same even though you might financially fall short : (14 votes)
    21 %
    Change to a less expensive venue that isn't as nice : (24 votes)
    36 %
    Push the date back again for the wedding of your dreams : (28 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
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    6893 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    That’s a tough one. It really depends on where your priorities lie.

    We were in a similar pickle – I *really* wanted an amazing honeymoon, but I also am *really* ready to be married. We’ve been together a while and I’m just ready to be his wife. Plus my fertility issues are making us want to TTC earlier than we had originally planned.

    We ultimately decided to have our wedding the way we wanted it, at a place we like. It isn’t our “dream” wedding reception, but I absolutely love the way it is shaping up. I’m not sure your budget, but I am a very budget-conscious bride, so that was a different beast altogether. We’re going to honeymoon later, possibly next summer. We’re considering a “BabyMakingMoon” haha, because we plan to start TTC next summer and want to go on a nice trip before babies.

    Post # 4
    Member
    14 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    hello! Can you maybe try to plan a cheaper reception?I wouldn’t change the date unless you feel like you are really compromising a lot.. what would be different in the october date vs. a later date? Exactly what? like more flowers? better food options? i think that would help you decide.

    My sister just got married a few months ago and i know that she was stressed out about the amount of money they were spending, and she and her fiance/husband make a really good living. I think you don’t want to be stressed out about having to dump all of the money you are making into a wedding. Its very thoughtful of you to want to make sure everything is perfect for your guests, but you can still have that, and not go over your budget. it’s better to plan a wedding so that you have enough money so that if you did want a honeymoon, you could go… not because of the honeymoon itself but because you want a cushion of cash in case of unforseen events.

     

    Post # 5
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    14 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    and very thoughtful of you to switch your wedding date in the first place too.. just let us know what you think you could do differently in the later date, and we can help you decide!!!!!!!!!

    Post # 8
    Member
    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think you’re setting yourself up for major stress down the road if you plan for the more expensive wedding.  Honeymoon aside, it sounds like you don’t have the money in pocket right now to pay for what you’re planning.  What if something comes up over the next 10 months and there isn’t enough flexibility in your savings account to plan around it?

    I would switch to a cheaper venue, one that doesn’t require catering minimums.  When we were looking for venues our priorities were focused around their flexibility in letting us bring in our own catering, alcohol, cake, etc.  I am SO glad we did this. 

    Post # 9
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    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    We chose no honeymoon. We spent a couple days in a nice hotel and that was that. If you won’t be able to take the time off for one anyway…. why is this even a decision? Just go with your wedding and delay the honeymoon later on.

    Post # 11
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    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We opted to go on our honeymoon later, about 6 weeks after the wedding. It made it a little more affordable to wait. We went to Napa/Sonoma, so going after Nov 1, we got off season rates for the apartment we rented and even some of the wineries and spa treatments.

    It’s an option to consider even if you put it off a few months. My friend went on hers like 7 months later. My brother and his Fiance are getting married 12/17 this year, so they’re not taking one til at least the spring because they don’t want to be traveling for the holidays, and also don’t have a lot of vacay time at their jobs. I think as long as you know it’s your honeymoon, it will still feel special regardless of it being delayed.

    Post # 14
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    3257 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Darling Husband and I were planning a much bigger wedding and then cut back because of finances. And you know what? I wouldn’t have had it any other way. People kept saying it was the most fun they had ever had at a wedding, and it feels so good to be married. You would hate to be paying off your wedding in years to come because you had to take out loans, and I think you’ll regret it if you push the date off just because you can’t have certain material things at your wedding. I would just cut back some and enjoy it. 🙂

    Post # 15
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    7293 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it depends on the woman…

    Many gals on here just want to be married ( or have a bangin’ honeymoon) ! Finances, planning stress have all gotten to them and they realize what they truly want. The JOP, courthouse, or very intimate wedding is perfect for them.

    Then there are many girls who just have had these ideas since a little girl of what their wedding will be and want the dream wedding! For that, you have to be able to wait so you can properly afford and manage all the venues.

    Then theres the inbetween where you compromise for somewhere in the middle. The important things stay and some things get left by the wayside.

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