(Closed) What would you call this?? Need advice on situation

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Sorry, but it seems that THEY’RE just not that into you…

Post # 5
Member
9552 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have to say, I think you’re WAY over analyzing this. They’re a bit unresponsive and haven’t been hanging out as much lately – totally normal. They RSVP’d and then didn’t come to the bach – annoying but not the end of the world. They had a long conversation with you on the phone – sound like they still want to be friends. They don’t respond to your stuff on facebook – so what? She made friends at the wedding – good for her! maybe now you can all hang out together! I don’t see a real problem with any of this other than the bach party thing which is rude but forgivable. So don’t let this stress you. It’s SO not worth it.

Post # 6
Member
8294 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honestly this seems a little petty…if they don’t want to be friends any more, then just let it go. She is free to make friends with whomever she chooses, as are you.

Post # 7
Member
945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Double_rainbow:  Seconded.

Honestly, just let it go. It’s not worth the time and energy you’re wasting dwelling on this.

Post # 8
Member
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

They haven’t been very good friends to you guys for a while so why you even want torepel it out is beyond me. Just move on. 

Post # 10
Member
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s entirely possible that she gets along with other people more than she gets along with you. Honestly I wouldn’t try so hard to befriend her anymore.

Post # 12
Member
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@pocketful_of_flowers:  I agree.

I say this not to be mean but honest… maybe she doesn’t like you?  I’ve met girls that I don’t like but I get along with some of their other friends who are more like me.

Post # 14
Member
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I tend to agree with @JenGirl:. OP, I think you’re reading too much into the intent behind the “facts” (example, when you felt like they were making a dig at you about the birthday restaurant). From what you say it sounds like they are not the most attentive friends, but I don’t think they don’t like you or want to be friends with you. They seem a little flakey to me (bailing on the bachelor/bachelorette parties), but lots of well-meaning people are flakes. As for making friends with other girls at your wedding, I don’t think that’s weird at all. In fact, it seems weird that you’re unhappy that she is making mutual friends. Couldn’t that be an opportunity for you to expand the opportunity to hang out with her?

It doesn’t really matter what we think. If you feel like you don’t want to make the effort to be friends with this couple, don’t be friends. Sometimes people just grow apart.

Post # 16
Member
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

It almost sounds like you’re a little jealous that she’s making friends with your friends.    You don’t have exclusive rights to people.  Like others have said, perhaps she just gets along better with your friends.  No two people are exactly alike and she may have found something in your best friend that she likes.  I wouldn’t worry anymore about it.  I think you should just let it go and accept that, while she’s nice to you, she may not want to be your friend.  

The topic ‘What would you call this?? Need advice on situation’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors