Post # 77
@MrsStayPuft: I would see if you can get him switched to Splenda Coke/stevia drinks, and e-cigs. It’s not a perfect solution, but it’s a lot better. As someone who drinks diet drinks like a fiend and quit smoking for awhile (and started again when something really bad happened…) e-cigs and splenda soda aren’t a perfect substitute, but they’re pretty good, especially the soda. E-cigs even wind up being cheaper in the long run.
Not sure I’d try and push both changes on him at once, though.
Post # 78
@boogiewoogies: It’s apparently an actual medical condition but not many people know about it or consider it “real” so there isn’t a lot of information about what it is/why it happens. And there is no psychology about it. It’s the most bizarre thing and it’s sooooooo awkward sometimes.
Post # 79
I’m going with his short fuse. I swear the stupidest of things tick him off and then he’s a pain to deal with for two hours. I mean who cares if you die in a video game, or that you can’t figure out what’s wrong with your project car…
Post # 80
@MrsBluth: I wish he were more laid back and less intense sometimes. his characteristics are sincere and driven and passionate, but sometimes I wish he were a little more like “whatever”.
@EffieTrinket: holy crap! Lol
Post # 82
Well reading all these posts actually makes me feel a little better. Tonight I posted on “Relationships” about my DHs addictive issues. I wish he’d take better care of himself but it sounds like many of you wish the same about your men. Mine doesn’t see messes either. I’m currently ‘on strike’ so it will be interesting how long it takes Darling Husband and my 17 yr old daughter to notice that food isn’t getting cooked, the kitchen isn’t getting cleaned and their laundry isn’t getting done. I’ll continue cleaning the litter boxes because the cats can’t do that for themselves. My guy also is transitioning out of dressing like a teenager, an issue that feels especially weird for me since he’s 39 and I’m 15 years older.
I’m counting my blessings after reading these posts, too, because he’s very fastidious about his personal hygiene, decided to get braces when he saw how beautiful my daughter’s teeth came out of hers, and he’s a good communicator.
Post # 84
@LaEsposa: I have this too. We have two hampers in our room, and I still continually have his jean in front of the bedroom door, socks in the bathroom, undwear in the hallway….don’t get me started on actually doing laundry…he will literally wear all of his clothing (and pile it around the house) and then wash it all on one day. Grr!
Post # 85
i wish he didn’t have allergies (cats, dust, etc.). I have two cats who I will likely have to rehome once he moves in for good because of his allergy-induced asthma 🙁
Also his dipping habit. While it doesn’t stink like cigarette smoke, I absolutely haaaaaate finding spit bottles all over the place and flakes of chewing tobacco in the sinks. Yuck.
Post # 86
@BrideToBe14: My fiance has done the same thing. I’m not sure if he has done it lately honestly because I stopped looking. I understand completely how you feel.
Post # 87
@icanhearyousmile: now that’s really odd. has he talked to anyone about this???
Post # 88
I wish he didn’t eat so loudly! UUUUUUUUUUGH. I have hearing loss in my right ear, yet I can still hear him crunch crunch crunching away on whatever the hell he has in his hands at the time. He drinks too loudly as well (slurping, gulping, oh dear lord- I can’t even think about it right now, it’s setting me so on edge).
I have misophonia though, so it’s not really his fault, but I don’t care- he needs to STFU when he’s using his mouth for things (Oh, did I mention that he snores? SO SO SO LOUDLY).
Basically, I have misophonia, but he just happens to be the only guy I’ve ever dated that snores, gulps, slurps, crunches, taps on things, breathes, snores, and coughs so DAMN loudly.
Post # 89
I would inject more sensitivity & sympathy into him! The man has no feelings and therefore does not understand mine!