Post # 1
So I was just reading through the latest issue of Brides magazine and they did a cute little feature with blurbs from brides about what they would change or do differently about their wedding if they could redo it all. Responses ranged from picking a different videographer to regrets over lip waxing. I thought it was a great topic and thought I’d bring it to the hive.
So to my fellow newlywed/already-wed bees, if you could go back and redo your wedding, what thing or things would you change or do differently?
I think my redo would be a different venue. I LOVED where we had our wedding, but because we had such a short engagement, I didn’t really get the chance to check out other places. Now that I’m no longer planning my wedding, I’ve discovered TONS of other venues that I would have really loved to have my wedding at and that would have been just as affordable! Just one of the downfalls of having a short engagement!
What would you redo?
Post # 3
I would ONLY redo ONE THING:
(1) I would have spent more time/thought/money on my flowers. I was not happy with them. I met with my florist about 4 months before the wedding – then the rest of our communication was over the phone or emails. I should have reminded her (with very vivid, clear, pictures) of what exactly I wanted. Apparently a LOT was lost in translation! Oh well, worse thing have happened!
Everything else was FAB!
Post # 4
That’s how things were with my florist too! Thank the Lord she had an even better vision for my flowers than I did! They turned out great! And she was patient with me since communication via email and phone was not ideal. I’m glad everything else about your wedding was FAB! 😀
Post # 5
I would have spend more time talking with both my florist and photographer so they were more clear on what I envisioned…oh well, I’m trying not to think too hard about it because I can’t change it now. Oh, and I would have gotten a different & cheaper dress.
Post # 6
I would have done a more casual and less expensive wedding overall. Darling Husband and I initially wanted to do that, but everyone told us that we’d regret it later. So we planned a big wedding thinking that it would make sense in the end. It didn’t (not for us).
I also would have made my dress. I really wanted to but was talked out of it.
I would have made sure that we did a first dance and a father-daughter dance. We had it all planned, but everyone was having a good time mingling and we didn’t want to break the mood. I feel bad for missing out on dancing with my dad.
I would have done a rehearsal. We had a brief ceremony and a very small wedding party, so we didn’t feel it was necessary. But it was massive confusion. Ugh.
This post sounds so negative! But really, we had a great wedding and I would do 99% of it all over again.
Post # 7
I would have definitely gone with a different DJ considering the "cheaper" one that I went with ended my reception early because he had another wedding to do. UGH…still makes me mad! :o)
I also would have hired a different photographer. Although he took good pictures, the majority of the time he was just wandering around. I wanted a photographer that would be shooting everything he could get to.
Oh, and the cake flavor that I had chosen wasn’t even in the cake. It just goes to show you that no matter how hard you try to make everything perfect, you will have some unexpected things go wrong. Either way, the day was amazing and I got the guy I wanted. :o)
Post # 8
I would have tried to mingle even more! For some reason, I still feel that I really didn’t get to more people then I wanted to. It really went by so fast!
Post # 9
I think the biggest thing I would have redone was my shoes. I think I would have worn a pair of fancy high heels for the ceremony and then swapped out for the reception.
Post # 10
I would have had a dress that fit. After all the money spent on alterations it was so loose the day of the wedding that it was embarrassing.
I wish I had done the quilt for the guests to sign that I wanted to.
I would have had a different hairstylist. She did an awful job but it’s my fault for not standing up to her.
I liked how different our wedding was and how much it fit us. We heard a lot of “This is sooo YOU” all day long.
Post # 11
I would have hired a Day-of-Coordinator. I am an event planner by trade, so i figured I would be all set… I completely underestimated the fact that my family and bridesmaids are not in the same profession as me… My family all wanted to help out but often there were far too may chefs in the kitchen, and things got very chaotic… My bridal party was just really hard to corral, and it was difficult/annoying to keep having to round everyone up, and explain what is going on next… My sister helped a lot, but we agreed that the next time one of us gets married, we are hiring a DOC!
Post # 12
I probably would have hired a different photographer. Ours was a “friendor” and saved us a ton of money, but she did a mediocre job. She cut off my DH’s head in alot of pics and others were very blurry. We do have some decent shots tho, but I was a little let down.
Post # 13
There were lots of little things that didn’t happen/I would change but I think the 2 major things I would change is more decorations at the ceremony site and better communication with my caterer.
Originally, my Fiance and I built a ceremony arch to stand at the ceremony site, which, unfortunately, broke in transport. This was basically going to be the only thing that was going to be of major color at the site as I wasn’t really lining the aisles/chairs with anything major. When the arch broke, we had to come up with something on the fly, which was was floweres in tiered vases, but still ended up looking pretty plain.
Although every one raved about the food, my caterer was difficult to work with on the day of and there was complete misunderstanding about the type of service that was discussed a week before the wedding. However, my DOC did her best not to let me see any of the drama that was going on.
Post # 14
I’ve thought of a few things (I actually answered the BRIDES thing on FB)
1. Reception venue: Ours was ok. As my photographer put it, it was nice (the nicest she’s shot in Indiana so far), but not very interesting. It also didn’t help that I saw wedding photos from a friend’s wedding the day after ours (Same wedding venue, different reception venue) that was GOREGOUS, and I hadn’t ever heard of the place before. I was pretty jealous.
2. Videography: We didn’t think we needed it. I didn’t care about it at all…. until DH’s grandfather was stuck in the hospital and couldn’t come to the wedding. We scrambled at the last minute just to get a camera there to have *someone* tape the wedding for him.
3. Toss Bouquet: I wish I had just tossed mine instead of spending the extra money. I didn’t want to give mine up, but I wasn’t able to take it with me, anyway…. live and learn. (MOH caught the bouquet anyway, and I also gave her mine… that girl took home so many flowers!)
Post # 15
1. I would have gotten different shoes. Mine were fine and were comfortable, but not that cute, and they were in more pictures than I thought they would be.
2. I would have had a no child rule in my suite while getting ready. I had 4 flower girls who I love and adore, but they were all over the place and it really stressed me out.
3. I would have taken more pictures with my Darling Husband. i was so concerned about getting to cocktail hour on time that I rushed.
4. I would have taken seperate pictures with all of my bridesmaids. There is not one picture of me and my BFF by ourselves from the whole day. How is that possible?
Post # 16
I would have gone to a different seamstress. She really made the week before the wedding stressful and I ended up showing more cleavage than I wanted to, which was pretty disappointing because the way the bodice covered a lot was one of the reasons I loved my dress. I still loved wearing it, but it wasn’t what I wanted it to be and what it legitimately should have been.
Other than that, I wouldn’t have changed anything, except maybe gotten up half an hour earlier since we were that late to take photos.