(Closed) what would you choose?

• PacificMrs
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: May 2013

Sorry, double post

• ferdie224
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

I don’t know which option will be best for you, but my 2 cents is that In My Humble Opinion it is not worth going to an exotic location like Bora Bora for 5-6 days.  If you look into travel times from the US it generally takes 1 1/2 days to get to someplace like that from the US, then you’re jet-lagged.  To make it worthwhile you have to go for longer.  Not sure if that will influence your decison.  Good luck.

• Bubbles42
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2014

We’re going on a Honeymoon two or three months after the wedding so we have time to save money.

• angelinthesnowxo
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: November 2013

@Latrise:  It sounds like having your closest friends and family at the wedding is a higher priority for you than the honeymoon, so I’d focus on that.

You can definitely have a nice wedding for 90-100 people on a $10,000 budget, especially since it doesn’t look like you live in a really expensive area (i.e. the Northeast, San Francisco, etc.).  I would search through this site for some budget bride ideas because there are a ton of Bees who have, in my opinion, had gorgeous weddings for $10,000 or less.

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@rdd584, my fiance and I are waiting to take our honeymoon.  This is partly so we have more time to save a significant amount of money and partly due to the fact that I need to save up my PTO so we can take the 2 weeks we want to take (he has plenty, but I don’t accrue PTO as quickly at my company).  You could spend some time just enjoying each other and then take a nice vacation/honeymoon when you can.  It won’t mean any less just because you waited a few months.

• aussiemum1248
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

@Latrise:  “It is important to have some family and friends there.”

Then I would have a small wedding locally (immediate family only, maybe a couple of very close friends, about 20 people) for the sake of family. Heck, you can probably pull that off for $1000-$2000, the main cost is the meal for 20 people. Speaking as a mother, I’d be very sad if I couldn’t attend my child’s wedding.

• BlushingBrideNYC
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2013

This was my original concern too. My family is small and my husband’s is rather large. I was hell bent on amazing honeymoon experience. I offer this as a compromise: a honeymoon registry!!! Pick a location that is exotic but not expensive. Bora Bora is very pricey. Hotels will run you about $700/night (on the cheap side). You can do a registry for a South East Asian country where you can do a two week vacation for $4000-5000 (for both of you combined)

• diamondsragrlbf
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

Id like to start with the question…Why is your finance telling you what the budget is.  Or is that the number you both discussed and decided to budget for.  Since I work as well I was able to give up other things to increase our wedding budget.  If that is not an option for you, I would have the wedding. Your family will not always be there…Bora Bora will.  

• Bubbles42
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2014

@angelinthesnowxo:  yeah part of our reasoning is FIs schedule too actually. If we lump the Honeymoon with the wedding, he won’t be able to take as much time.

• JFay
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: April 2014

Have the small wedding and do Universal, since you want family there. Then save up for a nicer anniversary vacation in the next few years. Fiance is pushing for a fancy honeymoon, but I would rather put that money towards having more people at the wedding!

Our original budget for 75 was 5,000, and it was certainly doable and was going to be simple, but classy…but my opinion of classy may be different from yours. It definitley wasn’t going to be hood! Haha. What I could do with 10,000 for 90 people! You just have to be realistic about your expectations. What does your vision look like? There are websites geared towards planning beautiful budget weddings.