(Closed) what would you consider a long engagement?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

trevino24:  This is so subjective, I guess, but I think anything over 1.5-2 years is long. Sure, there may be extenuating circumstances for why you can’t do it sooner, but nonetheless, I think it’s a long engagement regardless. I don’t think anyone who is saying this is saying it’s necessarily a bad thing, just that I guess it is considered “long.”

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I hope nobody beats my 8+  year record, just life got in the way, you know, when its comfy nobody wants to stir the pot . 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

I used to say I didn’t want to be engaged over a year but it looks like it will be 1.5 – 2 years.

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2006

over 2 yrs but then again my friend was engaged just over 10 yrs when they got married a few years back. X

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

I think anything over 2 years would be considered long.  Mine lasted 1 year and that was enough for me.  I don’t think I could have gone longer than that.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I think anything over a year is long. But it’s also becoming the norm. But then ours was only 2 months and every one thought we were crazy or pregnant. But we were just ready and saw no point in waiting. Money, work, life can affect different people’s timeline. Who cares what other people think?

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think 2 years is long.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

trevino24:  People deserve a slap in the face if they think anything less than 3 years is a long engagement? Really?

OP, I personally feel anything above 18 months is a long engagement. I think people are feeling like there’s some kind of judgement attached to that statement when there isn’t. There’s nothing WRONG with having a long engagement. That’s just what some of us consider to be a long time for this sort of thing.

Post # 25
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Bumble Beekeeper

More than 2 years. I feel like most engagements are about a year. There’s usually a specific reason why an engagement would be longer than average. 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee

BrideAddict92:  We thought ours would be a long engagement (18 to 24 months), well it’s turning into 3-4 years lol. While planning, we encountered financial stress (I thought I’d find a job easily, but the job market was crap and it took me almost 8 months) and emotional challenges (in 2014, we faced multiple deaths in both our families). At one point, we simply didn’t feel like planning actively anymore, so we decided to postpone our wedding until we felt better and the ”storm” passed. During that break, we realized we might as well start from scratch, ”downsize” our weddng and make it something completely different from what we first thought we’d do. Now, we’re rather actively saving for a house and we want to marry in our future backyard. 

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Personally speaking, anything over one year I would consider a longer engagement. It is quite possible to plan a complete wedding in under a year (as I have) – although a bit more tricky and work, but very doable. I also come from a relatively conservative Christian background so mostly everyone I know has gotten engaged and married within a year OR LESS – hence my idea of long engagements being over a year. 🙂 I do have a friend who recently has gotten engaged and she does not plan to get married anytime soon in the next 2-3 years. To each their own! 

Post # 28
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Busy bee

I think over 2 years. Though purs was 15months and multiple people thought it was a long engagement. But we wants a certain time of year so it was either going to be 3 months or 15.lol. 3 would have been tight!

Post # 29
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Busy bee

I think anything over a year is long. I’m from a conservative tradition that normally has very quick engagements. 

 

The last friend of mine who got married only dated her Darling Husband for about 7-8 months before they got married! (Families knew each other, though.) Their engagement was about 4 months. 

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: Garden

I’m with futurexuekeeper. It may be just my Christian upbringing, but I would personally consider anything over a year/year and a half to be a long engagement. 🙂

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