Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
There have been a lot of posts lately that have to do with someone else stealing the bride’s (or the couple’s) thunder on their wedding day. Like about other couples getting engaged at your wedding, or other guests wearing white, or having a family member holding their wedding a month before yours.
I’m just curious: what would you consider stealing your thunder? And how angry/upset would you be?
I personally don’t like being the center of attention, so if people are paying attention to others at my wedding, that’s totally cool. As long as it’s positive attention. I’d be pissed if, say, people got into a fistfight at my wedding. But if someone got engaged or wore white, I wouldn’t have a problem with it.
Post # 3
White would be a no-no for me and getting proposed to. I think someone proposing would bother me more just because well its like “hey get your own moment don’t steal mine” lol
Post # 4
As long as there is no family drama/divorced parents fighting, I don’t care.
Take my thunder. It’s yours!
Post # 5
I WILL BE HONEST AND SAY IF SOMEONE IS WEARING A FULL WHITE GOWN THAT WOULD MAKE ME PISSED. I DONT WANT PEOPLE GETTING CONFUSED FROM THE BACK OR JUST NO I DONT LIKE IT. OF ALL THE DAYS IN YOUR LIFE PLEASE REFRAME FROM WHITE ON MINE. IF SOMEONE GOT INTO A DRUNKEN BRAWL.. OOOOH BOY THEY BETTER WATCH OUT FOR ME LOL IF SOMEONE GOT ENGAGED.. WELL WOULD BE OKAY WITH ME TOWARDS THE END OF THE NIGHT. I CANT THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE… I WOULDNT WANT SOMEONE TO MAKE AN ASS OUT OF THEMSELVES ON THE DANCE FLOOR AND GRAB ATTENTION ALL NIGHT (SLUTYNESS INCLUDED IN THIS) LMAO
Post # 6
I wouldn’t have been happy if someone got engaged at our reception. We only get the one day, can’t we be the center of attention then?
Post # 7
really the only thing i would consider “stealing my thunder” would be if a family member planned their wedding the night of my rehearsal dinner.
if someone wants to wear white, people will look at them funny. nobody will think they are bridal–it’s my wedding!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
It’s so funny, I went through a phase where I thought that maybe I wanted my bridesmaids in ivory, and everytime I told someone they were HORRIFIED. “But how will everyone know who the bride is?”
Um, because I’ll be the one saying the vows? And more importantly, nobody at our wedding will be a stranger – everyone there will know me and know me WELL.
Post # 9
My SIL got engaged the morning after my wedding, during the vacation of our Destination Wedding. I was super happy for her, and think it only made that trip even more special for our family.
I guess the one thing that would have really bothered me was if someone had objected; or some kind of completely inappropriate behavior like, say, guests making out during dinner in front of people, or someone being very drunk. Like, bad thunder stealing.
Post # 10
Mine is just that Fi’s brother & SIL are due 2 weeks before the wedding (both in the wedding, too) & a GOOD portion of the guests know them, so I feel that all the focus will be on the baby (which Future Sister-In-Law LOVES)
Post # 11
Honestly, the proposal at my wedding thing would tick me off. It’s like… c’mon, it’s my wedding. Get your own. The whole wearing white thing wouldn’t bother me as much.
The only thing that would totally piss me off is someone ruining my day. My BM’s mom works for a hall that does weddings. Last year, a bride had her reception at the hall. She said that the wedding was beautiful and everything was perfect until the last couple hours. Basically, they caught a bunch of the guests in the parking lot doing drugs and another couple behind the hall getting busy on the air conditioning unit. It ended up with the cops getting called and a bunch of people getting arrested. Seriously? I would have been crushed. I feel so sorry for that girl.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2011 - Oxon Hill Manor
@pmerr I would be a little worried about that too, but at the end of the day, everyone loves newborn babies for a reason. They’re just too cute and too much a miracle not to love. If they steal some of the spotlight, it’s all positive energy and it’s not like people will stop paying attention to you and your wonderful wedding day details.
My mom had a dry wedding reception and a lot of the guests came in and out, goign to their cars or wherever to get alcohol and/or take a drink. I find that totally disrespectful and I know my mom has said it was a sore spot for her – she was pretty upset.
I don’t think I’m going to let anything ‘steal my thunder.’ I’ve already resolved it within myself that people will do what they’ve always done and my job is to focus on my new husband. As long as he’s happy, I’m goood!!
Post # 13
A proposal would bother me because the day’s celebrationg is for Fiance & me. We can celebrate your new engagement any other day, but please celebrate our marriage today, it’s the entire reason we’re all here. Not many other things would bother me…I don’t really care what anyone wears or what happens any other day, but I put a lot of time, energy, money & love into this one day, so just hear me out.
Post # 14
One of my bridesmaids got engaged a few months ago, and almost set her wedding date for 2 weeks prior to mine, at THE SAME CHURCH. Luckily she got the date she wanted, next October. I wouldn’t have said a word though.
Post # 15
I’m pretty sure none of the above issues would bother me. I would be absolutely thrilled if one of our guests chose our day to propose…because that means it was something truly memorable and special for them. They will certainly never forget where they were when they got engaged! Also, wearing white wouldn’t bother me, I want my guests to be comfortable and feel good about themselves. Plus, no one will be mistaking anyone else for the bride since they all know me!
Bring on the newborns (a dear friend will have a 3 week old at the wedding, and another will have a 3 month old)! Bring on the alcohol! Bring on the different personalities that all of our guests will have!
The way I look at it, the most important part of the day is the ceremony where I will be MARRYING my wonderful fiance…anything after that is fair game to the normal happenings of life. You can’t plan everything 🙂
Post # 16
For me, stealing my thunder translates into someone who purposely is trying to take away from my happiness on my wedding day.
I know that some people claim to not realize that wearing white to a wedding is taboo, but c’mon it’s not rocket science 🙂