(Closed) What would you do?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What would you do??
    Wait a few days and tell friends next week (hope they don't find out another way like Facebook) : (12 votes)
    25 %
    Tell a few friends but also let them know we are grieving and not wanting to talk parties etc : (23 votes)
    48 %
    Tell them and try to move on, enjoying the happiness even though its a sad time : (13 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    1404 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @teachertobe:  Ohh I’m so sorry about your sad news… but want to wish you a big congrats on your engagement. And I’m sure your friends will feel the same. I would talk to your fiance about it and if he’s ok with announcing your engagement, then go ahead. But it’s obviously a difficult time so speak to him first.

    Post # 4
    1417 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would also talk to your FI. Ask him how he feels about telling everyone right now. You can say I want to tell so and so about our engagement but I feel like it’s not the right time since you have so much going on. See how he feels.



    Post # 5
    642 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    As someone who has recently gone through mourning, I think telling a few people w/ the caveat that you are mourning is just fine. Sometimes it’s nice to celebrate some good to distract you from the (sometimes all-consuming) bad, even if its just a few congratulations and well-wishes from friends.


    Post # 6
    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @FutureMrs.browneyes: +1 — def talk to your FI. As long as you know it will not be hurting his feelings, probably best to tell your closest friends with a caveat that you are in mourning. But FI comes first! 

    Post # 8
    1431 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    That is so freaking romantic! Congrats! I’m sorry about your loss, but I’d still tell my friends and tell them to just hold off on the celebrations for a bit while we grieved our loss. I know I wouldn’t be able to keep it in that I was engaged, but that’s just me.

    Post # 9
    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Congratulations, that’s so sweet and romantic! And yet, at the same time, so sorry for your loss. I’d definitely wait a few days, especially since your family already knows. If there are people who will definitely see the ring, then I agree with what others have said… ask FI, then tell them with the caveat.

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