Post # 1
My SO is really laid back, really nice and never gets mad at anyone. The consequence is sometimes he gets walked all over. His heater went out last Monday at his apartment, and they just finally fixed it today. Apparently the maintenance man was fired so they had to wait for a replacement to come fix it. Now granted, it hasn’t been that cold here so it wasn’t an emergency per se, but it did drop to the 40s at night so it was a little uncomfortable. I suggested that he call the apartment office to get a credit for the time his heat was out. He won’t do it because he thinks that it’s not that big of a deal and obviously they couldn’t get it fixed since the maintenance man was fired.
Another time before this, different apartment complex, they actually RIPPED OUT the wooden stairs leading to his 2nd floor apartment. He was basically trapped in his apartment all day. They said there was a note left on his door 1 day before this, but he never saw it (who knows, it could have blown away, or maybe they lied). They rebuilt the stairs within 24 hours, but he still missed a day of work and couldn’t leave his apartment that whole day. He never requested a credit because he said, “well they said they left a note I guess I didn’t see it. and the stairs were rickety so it’s nice that they fixed that.”
I get kinda annoyed that he lets people treat him like that. Would you request a credit for these? Or is he right to be so laid back like this?
Post # 3
Sounds like something my husband would do. He doesn’t get all walked over though–I’ve NEVER seen my husband’s attitude like “oh he gets walked all over”…i just see him as laid back…but he would see it like “well they did fix it. That’s cool”. He just doesn’t believe in trying to get everything you can when things don’t go right. I am the one who has to call and push for credits and stuff–I definitely would in this case. He only does it if it was a huge inconvenience to him. In fact, when our AC was out in Georgia for a week (a freakin’ week in July), he didn’t ask them for a credit. I did. He’s very “meh” about it. It’s just who he is.
Post # 4
I am a picky gal, but SO never cares about anything that is not too serious. We go out to eat quite often, and he could get cold ramen noodle in place of steak, and he’d probably eat it to be polite.
I would have been upset about the stairs thing.
Post # 5
My FH is on people like pigs in shit – – SORRY MR BEE – – We own our townhouse but we did have a recent issue with out oven. It wasn’t turning off – everytime we used it FH had to flip the breaker in order for it to turn off. Long story short, there was a repair visit fee then there was another fee to return to install the pc that is faulty – two fees that FH was in no way going to pay…The oven (Frigidaire) is still under warantee – – he exhausted every single reason why he shouldn’t have to pay – – in the end he didn’t pay!!!!!!
My answer to your question – yes your SO should call b/c he was inconvenienced and that isn’t right. Renters should have there air/heat units fixed w/in 24 hrs PERIOD…
Post # 6
My Fiance is also very laid back. I am the one who has to see if we can get a credit when something goes awry. I think it is just a guy thing. I would have requested a credit for the stair thing; that is a fire hazard and not just an inconvenience. I would have also requested a credit for the heat because I do not like to be cold; especially at night. I can’t sleep if it is too cold.
Post # 7
OK, maybe us ladies are just more proactive! I know when we live together this is what I’ll be in charge of, but I seriously wish he’d take initiative on his own stuff. He’s a student, every $$ counts. I totally can’t believe the stairs thing, I was mad about that for a week, and he got over it before they even finished the stairs. I’m going to try to get him to get the credit on the heat…maybe if he does it for once he’ll realize it’s no big deal.