Post # 1
I just got out of a relationship with a guy who was very emotionally unavailable. He was so unsure about marriage after a few years (were late 20’s) and has depression which contributed to him being unavailable. We only saw each other on weekends if he wasn’t gone fishing that is. Anyway- before I even met my ex there was a guy I knew from school who was really pursuing me. I decided to go with the other guy and here I am thinking we’d get married and we broke up.. my bestfriend really encouraged me to reach out to the past guy because she was always rooting for him. He’s extremely sweet, has a great heart, good job, owns his own home (I do as well last bf was renting), wants marriage and isn’t shy about explaining that while on a date. He’s a few years younger and he’s cute but isn’t insanely hot. But I do know that looks doesn’t hold together a marriage. I don’t wanna settle either. Would you go on a date and continue to see how this relationship goes or keep looking?
I hate dating. Esp in this day in age..
Post # 2
Go on the date! Technically, you should go on two or three dates. And if it doesn’t seem to be going well after that, then move on.
Post # 3
Doesn’t hurt to go on a date or two with him to see if you like him enough.
Post # 4
What do you have to lose? Get together with him a few times and find out if there is mutual attraction.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
Couldnt hurt! If nothing else, its a date with someone you know so its not quite as intimidating as a date with a total stranger. It would be a good way to “get your feet wet” in the dating scene!
Post # 6
10/10 Give it a go!! You will be surprised how someones inner beauty makes them beautiful on the outside once you get to know them! Good Luck!!
Post # 7
Has this past guy asked you on a date after finding out you’re now single? I wouldn’t reach out to him to go on a date. I’d let him know your single and let him ask you. To me, if you were to ask him on a date, it kind of comes off as he’s runner up. The only reason I say this is because my friend just did this. A guy from school was really into her, she decided to date another guy, thinking they’d get married. They didn’t and broke up. She actively pursued the previous guy from school because she hated being single and didn’t like dating. She also wasn’t totally attracted to this guy, but wanted to give it a shot. She mistakenly assumed he would still be totally into her and would just pounce at an opportunity to be with her. They hung out 4 times before he called it off because it was obvious she was just using him to fill the void of being alone.
Post # 8
I think it’s too tempting not to go. BUT be aware that this guy may appeal purely cos he’s ‘on a plate’ and you had an emotionally unavailable partner before. Basically proceed with caution. Make sure it’s HIM you really like not just his keenness for marriage which was missing in your life before.