Post # 1
If you were planning on getting married in a year but your dad was going into surgery in a week and the doctors were not sure he would make it, or if he did that he would ever walk again afterwards would you have an impromptu wedding before the surgery so he could be a part of it?
Post # 2
darkwater67 : How does your dad feel about it? What does he want?
Post # 3
I would not rush it because he might not walk, but if there was a serious chance that he would die, I’d go ahead and do it.
Post # 4
darkwater67 : I would be asking my Dad what he wanted but if the odds of survival were not so good I would get married with him there. Positive thoughts for your Dad’s surgery.
Post # 5
darkwater67 : Honestly, I probably would. A simple, small, immediate family only kind of ceremony. I am the only daughter of my parents, and I know that walking me down the aisle is something that’s really important to my dad (and to me as well), and I couldn’t imagine that never happening. I’m not sure if this is a hypothetical question or if it’s the situation you’re in, but my condolences if it is, bee.
Post # 6
100% I would. You can always have another wedding down the line and call it a renewal and marriage celebration.
Post # 7
Speak to your dad first.
If there’s a chance he may not be able to walk you and that’s something you both want then I would consider a small intimate wedding.
Post # 8
If it were potentially lifethreatening, I’d marry ASAP. I wouldn’t risk not having my dad at my wedding.
Post # 9
I would not. I’m very close to my dad, but he would not want me to rearrange anything for him. I would be bummed if he couldn’t walk me down the aisle, but it would be what he wanted. It depends on what your dad wants.
Post # 10
Unfortunately not hypothetical. SO and I are not “officially” engaged but rings are ordered and he and I have most of the wedding planned. We were basically waiting until rings were in until announcing it to family. My mom knows the outline of the plan but she’s the only one. We had planned on this year but my dad is going into surgery next week with a 6 month recovery time. So we moved our plans to next year on our 7th anniversary (we are not exactly rushing anything) but at my dad’s last pre surgery appointment the doctor found things had gotten MUCH worse. Besides already having a terminal illness now his spine has started to disintigrate. Rapidly.
So the problem is even though we already had the plans laid out my dad has no idea yet. He is stubborn and traditional so the ring comes before the announcement. And I am terrified I’ll lose him. So maybe that is why I’m focusing on wedding stuff because I’m too afraid to face the thought of it. He’s been a biker for 60 years and not being able to ride is not a situation he would ever want.
And I realize I’m rambling. Thank you bees for your comments. My head isn’t a happy place at the moment and knowing someone out there took the time to offer advise means the world to me.
Edit* He is traditional to a point. He wants to walk me down the aisle to SO but not “give me away” because in his words “You’re a grown ass woman and property of no one, not even me!”
Post # 11
My dad is my person. If there were a chance he wouldn’t make it to my wedding, I would absolutely move it up. No question at all.
Post # 12
darkwater67 : Now that you have said a bit more about the situation – for which I am deeply sorry, and wish the very best to your dad – I do think a wedding scheduled pre-surgery is a great idea. How soon will the rings be in? Could you have stand-in rings if the surgery is sooner than the ring arrival?
Post # 13
I would have a small family wedding now and then a reception party later. I’m sorry that you’ve been put in this situation, it’s something no one wants to ever have to think about. And I can’t even imagine how difficult this is for you and your family. If you’re still not sure then I would let him in on the plan and see what he thinks about doing an early wedding. I just wouldn’t want you to regret not having the chance to celebrate with him. If he doesn’t want to do an early wedding at least see if he’ll do something special with you and your Fiance to celebrate. You’ll be in my thoughts!
Post # 15
As someone who is getting married in July & lost their Dad a few years ago-I would say 1000% yes.