Post # 1
Neither my guy nor I are what you would consider fashion conscious. Yet we have friends who always try to “help” him. Now that we are living together, they insist that I make him change his ways (Ha! Make him!) We’re talking things like: he still wears his military-issue underwear (they are flesh-toned – they look terrible and often look like they haven’t been washed for months, but it’s not a big deal to me,) he wears his gym shorts out and has the pockets bulging out ridiculously, and he has no idea of fashion rules (like no brown shoes with a black suit.)
Now, I like that I can tell which t-shirts he bought and which ones were gifted (if they refer to books, video games, or our old unit, he bought it). I like his corduroy pants, and his crazy fluffy curly hair he’s trying to grow out. I like his three-days-of-stubble on Monday mornings. I like that he bought a pair of neon orange tennis shoes to balance out the fact that he walked into an Abercrombie and Fitch store (he says reality would have collapsed if he didn’t.) And, well, when I need clothes, he can find a place that has what I want faster than I can (which, as he says, is the last thing he expected – giving a girl shopping advice.)
On the other hand, sometimes I DO want to throw out the military underwear and replace them with boxers. I know he SHOULD change out of gym shorts to go out in public. I do adjust his work clothes (he can never get the tie and neck to work properly) and let him know when his shoes don’t match his outfit – but that’s for work, not free time. And I wouldn’t let him wear a tux to a friend’s wedding (so he wouldn’t out-dress the groom.) What extent can/should I go to here?
Post # 3
It sounds like you love him for who he is! My guy could care less about fashion too. I don’t mind. Ya know unless his dressing himself is a real faux paux -like the couple of scenarios you gave, then I think, he’s a grown man and can make his own choices! But if you’d like him to wear something different, I wouldn’t say anything, cause your not his mama, but if something bothers you, I’d make a point of shopping with him and telling him “Oh, I think you would look sexy wearing ____, or I think that would look great on you. Or, doesn’t this look comfortable. Or your out shopping with him, and say I’ve got to go pick up __would you like to pick up some new underwear?
Post # 4
I think you sound like you guys have a perfect balance. You adore his quirks and he adores yours, which is exactly the way it should be! If you’d like to see him in some underwear that shows off his assets (and that’s the way I’d put it to him!) maybe you could buy him some nice boxers as part of his next birthday/Xmas gift, or next time you get yourself some. As long as you are preventing him from going to work or a special occasion looking really stupid, I think you are doing your job. I wouldn’t worry so much about casual stuff, provided he’s comfortable with it all. I don’t understand women who stress about their partners’ dress – I once watched my friend make her husband take his jeans off so she could iron them when he was on his way out. She thinks it reflects badly on her, even though she wasn’t going with him – um no. You are just creating work and stress for yourself, and he’s getting annoyed with you. No one wins! Tell your friends to back off and find their own husband to dress 🙂