(Closed) What would you do??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d say have the “greeter” at the wedding be informed of this “wife and friend” and once the wife arrives with guest (if there is a guest) to politely decline. “Hello, welcome, and you are?… I’m sorry this is only for guests who have been invited. Or something. Basically just have the greeter or escort decline the friend.

Post # 4
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Her husband is part of the wedding party, right? If you’re letting everyone else bring their spouse, I would be very upfront with the groomsman. I’m sure he would naturally assume his wife would be invited, too.

Post # 5
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think the simple solution is to have your Fiance tell the husband that his wife can’t bring a guest to your wedding like he did to your other friends wedding. If you want to be extra certain, ask if your venue has a ‘greeter’ like a PP suggested to make sure people are on the seating chart and if not are asked to leave.

Post # 6
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would tell the couple ahead of time that it’s just them!

Post # 7
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would just tell the husband ahead of time that his wife’s friend is NOT invited.

Post # 8
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Every wedding I’ve been to has had an uninvited guest… or twelve. Haha! But seriously, one of my friends got married and this guy came who was NOT invited. None of us really got along with him. Well, he caught the garter and was in a few of her wedding photos with the girl who caught the bouquet!

I’m not sure what you do when they come uninvited. Most of my friends have just let it go and talked about how annoying it was later. I wouldn’t say anything at my wedding. I haven’t figured out catering yet, but if they make just enough for my INVITED guests then I will tell them to leave. If I was going to be charged extra I would be like, get out. But other than that I would not want to cause a scene.

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