- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
I mentioned that the other day I went with mother to look at dresses for the wedding. I already have one but it’s kinda of dated and she had offered to go buy me a dress since the first one I had I had bought on my own.
We went and looked, I found a dress I was head over heels for, however it needed a little added fabric to the cleavage area. My mom said she would buy me the dress if I didn’t alter it in any way, I was heartbroken, and told her no.
Yesterday she asked if I wanted to go to another bridal dress shop and see if we could find another dress on Saturday as she’s leaving on vacation at the beginning of next week. I told her I would think about it. I’m terrified that I will find a dress I love and then she’ll say no again because almost every dress needs some sort of alterations (I even told her I would pay to add the extra fabric).
So said she was very very hurt that I was being such a brat in the bridal shop by not letting her get me the dress the other day but the cleavage was down to the top of my bra. I didn’t feel comfortable in that. And she kept telling me last night that I need to not try to look like Mother Theresa. I can’t help it that she raised me to be a modest woman and that she can’t respect that now. I’m not trying to be difficult or a brat. I found the most inexpensive dresses. She was upset that I wanted to get a dress with straps and add more fabric. I knew that strapless can’t have fabric added or it would look funny but adding fabric to a halter or a dress with straps and a deep v can be done.
What should I do? Should I say yes to go tomorrow to this other dress shop and hope my heart doesn’t get broken again? Or should I say no and wear the dress I already have and tell her sorry but you hurt my feelings? My relationship with my mother has always been on the rocks. She has a hard time respecting me. I wish this didn’t have to be such a silly thing.