Post # 1
I have a quick question that I would like some advice about engagement ring shopping. Upon his suggestion, my boyfriend and I went ring shopping a few months ago just to get an idea of what I liked. We talk about getting married the summer of 2013, when I’m finished with grad school. Well today I went shopping with my mom and we walked by a local jeweler that I know his brother and father used to get engagement rings. So I went in with my mom and fell in love with a ring. I had her write down all the information and my ring size and whatnot on a card. I can’t decide if I should give him the card or if that comes across pushy? I know that proposing is a huge deal and picking out a ring is a big decision, so I don’t want to take away his role in that decision. What do you guys think? Helpful hint or pushy possible bride to be?
Thanks for your help!
Post # 3
@emily88: I would sweetly give him the card and say “just in case you ever needed some help when the time comes, here is my dream ring” I did it and honestly the process can be overwhelming for a guy. I think it would help him a ton.
Post # 4
I agree with allergicbee. Just hand it to him nicely and say “when you need it.” I personally called my then-bf and told him I found my dream ring and that he had to get it (he was planning on buying it soon anyway). It’s one-of-a-kind though. Anyway, my point is, give him the card 🙂
Post # 5
absolutely give him the card 🙂 i am sure he will be relieved at not having to try to figure it out what your dream ring would be and he will know that he is getting something you love 🙂
Post # 6
I definitely sent pictures of styles I liked to my husband when we were talking about rings. If you’re openly talking about it and he even suggested you go look, I dont think it’d be pushy at all to give him such a direct “hint”
Post # 7
Yeah definitely! His sister is my best friend, so I showed her 3-4 I loved and one that was my fav. I just left it at that, he got my favorite in the end! He loved the help!
Post # 8
Give it to him. You’ll regret it if you get something else when you fell in love with that one.
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s pushy at all to give him the card. In fact, he might be relieved that you’ve taken the guess work out for him! I think this is the way that most modern engagements happen anyway.
Post # 10
I gave a very thorough description of the ring I wanted and I’m glad I did. The only thing I was a little upset about was I gave him my ring size and the jeweler refused to size it before he gave it to me. So it didnt fit the night I got it and I had to give it away for a day to get it sized. Which seems silly because when we went to the store I measured the same size I said I was, and Fiance had to hold in his “I told you so” to the jeweler.
Post # 11
i completely agree with the above posts! my fiance and i went ring shopping ahead of time to get a feel for what i liked/didnt like and it was such an overwhelming process for both of us because there were so many options. i’m sure he would love all the help he can get, especially because his goal is to get you a ring that you love. at the very least it cant hurt 🙂
Post # 12
@Dell79: completely agree.
@emily88: If you give him the card it isn’t saying that he has to get that exact ring, it could just give him an idea of what you love. So even if he’s the type to what to choose the ring himself he knows what styles you like.
Ultimately he’ll just want to get something that you love, so giving him a helpful hint can only be a good thing.
Post # 13
1st time I tried on rings with my husband we didn’t find exactly what we both liked and it started making me nervous not knowing what he would end up picking out so I ended up brining it up about wanting to go look again and I am SO glad I did because the 2nd time we both found a ring we fell in love with and am so happy to have on my finger the rest of my life. If the new rings is that special to you, go with him so he can see it youll be happy that you did!
Post # 14
Thanks for all your help ladies 🙂
Post # 15
@Dell79: This sounds like a really good approach