(Closed) What would you do?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would probably plan a small destination wedding, so people who are dying to be part of your day still have the option, then plan a celebratory shindig when you get home. Then you can have the ceremony you want without listening to all the nay sayers, people who are offended by you throwing a big wedding when you’re already living together won’t be offended, but no one gets excluded either (they can attend your “we’re married” celebration). Good luck! Sounds like a bummer of a situation.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@TequilaSunrise:  Yes, I know they will talk either way…But if they are going to b*tch about something, it’s going to be about something I did the way I wanted it. What would you do? That was what I was going to write, so if I were you I would elope, and give people the option of coming. Say we are eloping/having an intimate wedding at this time and place, we would love it if you joined us kind of thing. So the people who want to come can and the people who will talk will at least be talking about something you wanted instead of something you didn’t want.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with both PP’s.  Elope, enjoy, relax, those that truly want to be with you will be.  Have a BBQ/family gathering or something when you get home to celebrate your marriage.  No ceremony, just party!

I am learning there is no pleasing everyone, ever.  Please yourselves, and enjoy your wedding your way!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@TequilaSunrise:  I say destination wedding too!  It sounds like you already know what you want, you can elope to a destination and have your private ceremony! 

We started off wanting a far away tropical destination wedding, but then i realized I wanted some of the things about a traditional wedding with out the stress of a big to do wedding.  Our far away tropical desitination did not work out, we also realized we did not want to honeymoon with all our family at the same resort… anyway, Fiance found a place 2 hours down the road, and old beautiful plantation house B&B in the middle of nowhere. They do everything, the cake, flowers DJ, Food etc…..  we can still get away like a destination and keep it a small simple wedding!! It was perfect, like our simple destination and traditional wedding all in one! We are so happy, and I am so thankfull Fiance found it 🙂  

Good Luck and you already know that its your wedding, do what you want!!  

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Future Mrs K:  Your wedding sounds amazing, I hope you share pics after!  That’s the type of wedding I imagined too, but my immediate family who would be crushed if they weren’t involved, add up to 80 people.  So it just wouldn’t work for us.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

What would I do?  Elope!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I vote to elope! 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We are eloping and then having a wedding celebration at the end of May for about 50 of our family and close friends… I am SUPER EXCITED!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I say have a destination wedding that people can actually go to (my uncle did it in Italy which was great but very few people could afford to go even if they wanted to). Our wedding is 14 hour drive away which has really helped take down all those people I dont want there anyways.

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