(Closed) what would you do?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 17
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have the same issues with my Fiance. I bring it up all the time and he says he just isn’t in the mood. Then he has also told me to much sex leads to people cheating because they get bored. I spice it up and get outfits and it works for a little bit then goes back to the way it was. I actually keep a calendar in my phone to see how often I get it. Not once in the past year has it been more than 3 times a month. I don’t know about all of you but this girl needs some loving. I am not about cheating and I want no one else. I enjoy our time together, but I don’t know what to do either. I once seen on a show where a guy had this problem and the wife cheated. Turned out he had some chemical inbalance and that is what was causing it. Of course after she cheated that ended the marriage instead of being patient. I mean it isn’t like he doesn’t want to talk about it, just don’t get the reason I guess.

Post # 18
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156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Being the one that currently has low sex drive (I think because of the pill and breastfeeding- it’s only since our daughter was born) I can tell you it helps a lot if I know I can say no and he won’t get upset or frustrated with me. If he approaches me and I don’t want to and he says “okay” it takes so much pressure off and it actually makes me more likely to want to do it! Obviously I can’t speak for someone else, but I appreciate this about Dear Fiance. I have my own ways of dealing with my low libido so he’s still quite satisfied, but it’s frustrating for both of us that I don’t enjoy it as much as I used to. If I were you I would make a point to tell him that you won’t be upset with him if you approach him and he doesn’t want to- as long as it’s not every time. I know it means a lot to me, it may matter to him too.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@ticatica:  i totally agree and you’re welcome 🙂

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