Post # 1
I have a girlfriend who I met 5 years go in school. We clicked and were really close friends from then on. We graduated 3 years ago and ever since then I am always the one to intiate catching up. She always says yes- but how do you know when someone doesn’t want your company and is just being nice? If I don’t ask her to catch up we wouldn’t see each other for a few months at a time and we only live approx. 15 minutes from each other.
I am 20 and I don’t have many girlfriend at all. I admit this is my fault because I only ever see my SO. I am more comfortable conversing with guys but this year I am really pushing myself to hang out with some girls.
Do I move on or how hard do I keep pushing to maintain a friendship that is slowly falling apart.
Post # 3
Maybe she feels as though she will but putting you out if she initiates contact. If she does always say yes to a catch up maybe she is just worried that you won’t want to see her. I know I always feel like I am interupting my girlfriends lives when I contact them even though this makes VERY little sense and they would all tell me i’m stupid for saying that 🙂
Post # 4
If you are interested in building more friendships with other women, it seems like it makes sense to keep in touch with her. From what you said, your biggest issue is that she doesn’t reach out to you to maintain contact. Why don’t you ask her to reach out to you sometimes instead of discontinuing the friendship? You could say something like, “I enjoy spending time together, it’s always fun when we hang out. It’d be great if you called me sometimes to hang out.” Then see what she does! Those are my two cents.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I had a friend like this and I talked to her about it once. She said that she just felt bad interrupting me since I live with my Fiance, she figures I’m really busy with school and with him and she doesn’t want to intrude or whatever. I’m glad that I talked to her and I know her reasoning, but I’m not the best person to give advice since she hasn’t changed since then (meaning she still doesn’t initiate anything haha).
Post # 6
I feel your frustration. What I have found is that some girls are better at social planning and initiating getting togethers and others are more inclined to sit back and wait for their friends to call. If she didn’t want to hang out with you she wouldnt answer your call or show up when you make plans- if she is slow to respond or cancels then I would think you should hold off on making plans. But from what you describe it sounds like she might just not be the type that likes to initiate plans.
Post # 7
I’m really bad at initiating hang outs, so maybe she just has a lot on her mind or something. That’s always my problem. I WANT to hang with my friends but I’m always stressing about everything else and just forget to call, I guess. I’m always happy when they call me.
If she always says yes, she obviously wants to hang out. If he didn’t want to hang out, she wouldn’t she’d make excuses or something.