- 10 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Okay so I have 3 older brothers. When I told the eldest one we were engaged he asked to walk me down the aisle. The other two couldn’t care less. So brother 3, the youngest one, I am really close too, although over the last year we have drifted. He is gay and seems to be almost mad that I am getting married. He flat out refused to go dress shopping with me, even though he loves fashion. I understand that he is unable to legally marry his partner at the moment, but can’t he at least be happy for me?
So brother 2 (the middle one), got engaged 3 days before my partner of 4 years planned his proposal to me on my bday. He had been chatting to this girl online for 3 months, and then after spending 5 days together in person – he proposed! i was so happy for him, even though I thought it was a little rushed, but he had come out of a horrible relationship about 2 weeks before meeting her online, and I was just happy he was able to feel happy again.
So when he came home from meeting her, he didn’t even congratulate us until my Mum said “say congratulations”. Then he said it, and my Mum shoved my hand in his face only for him to ask “Is that real, because >new girlfriend’s< ring is. And no my ring isn’t real, it’s a 1 carat solitaire set in yellow gold from a great jeweller who makes diamond simultants – but I love it! We didn’t want to spend a fortune on a ring, and I don’t pretend it’s real, but I do find it rude when people ask!!
I am really frustrated! I was so hapy to be engaged, but now it feels like my family don’t care. My Dad I haven’t seen for years as he couldn’t care less about me. My eldest brother and his partner were really happy for us, but they always bitch and complain about everyone behind their backs, so I know they do it about us too.
I really wanted to have someone walk me down the aisle, but now I want to go it alone! I feel sorry for my eldest brother as he wants to, but I don’t know if I want someone who talks crap on everyone to do it. He means well, but because they’re the only ones out of us kids who own a house and have children they put themselves higher than everyone else.
My middle brother just talks all day, everyday about him and his new girlfriend. I absolutely adore his new girlfriend, but it really pisses me off that he’s so effing self-centered and can’t be happy for me! He’s 29, and I’m 23 so maybe he feels he should have all the attention on him as he’s older and all. He definitely isn’t the wiser one though! And he also makes me feel like i should do things the way he is.
i am also having one Bridesmaid or Best Man aka Maid/Matron of Honor. She recently split with her partner of 6 years. But she is happier without him, and is dating again. My issue is whenever we do anything wedding related she makes it all about her. Like the other day when I was having my first dress fitting she started on about how she can’t wait for her Maid/Matron of Honor dress and just went on about it. It was also my bridal shower on the weekend, but I had to cancel due to personal reasons. So instead, her and I got together for a girls afternoon to do a few wedding things, and then had a movie night. She ended up on the phone EVERY hour to this new guy she has been seeing for a week. When we went to the supermarket to get junk food she stood there calling him and her male friend trying to organise a weed deal!! She has never been into the stuff, and now suddenley she’s all about it. I dont care if she wants to do it, that’s her choice, but did she really have to do this while we were having a fun girls day. Not to mention every time he called or text she was glued to her phone!
Sorry this is so long, I could write more but that would just go on and on. i hope this makes sense as I’m really quite upset/annoyed with my brothers at the moment, so it might just be a blabbering mess. I have also done this under a different name, as I didn’t want it linked with my original user name.